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I survived a failed abortion, and now Iím expecting my second baby
LifeSiteNews ^ | 9/15/11 | Melissa Ohden

Posted on 09/15/2011 4:07:00 PM PDT by wagglebee


Melissa Ohden

September 15, 2011 (LifeSiteNews.com) - How could my biological mother have ever fathomed that as she attempted to abort me in 1977 that she was not only ending the life of her child, but she was wiping out every future generation to come from that one life - her grandchildren, her great-grandchildren, her great-great grandchildren?

She may not have been able to fathom it, the thousands of women who end the lives of their children everyday through abortion may not be able to fathom it, but as an abortion survivor now pregnant with my second child, I can fathom it.

In fact, I can’t get my mind off of it.  This is the reality that I live with every day.  I should not be here, all in the name of someone else’s choice, all in the name of a woman’s right.  Yet I, as a baby girl, didn’t have a right.  Our 3 1/2 year old daughter, Olivia, and our 2nd child, due to be born in May 2012, would never have existed, would never have had life, because of that one “choice” thirty-four years ago.

In August of 1977, while I was developing in what should have been the safest place in the world, my biological mother’s womb, I was subjected to the toxic salt solution of a saline infusion abortion over a five day period.  After that poisonous solution was delivered into the amniotic fluid surrounding me, I was bathed in it, while my biological mother must have nervously, worriedly, awaited the sign from me within her womb that I had successfully been scalded to death by it, for the signs that my tiny life had been successfully snuffed out.  On the fifth day of the abortion procedure, after she re-entered the hospital to complete the abortion by having her labor induced, so thereby her lifeless child could be dispelled from her womb, I was delivered.

Most children have the beloved opportunity to know about the day that they were born and celebrate this blessed BIRTHday, year after year.  I, on the other hand, have the distinction of knowing about the day that I was delivered, the day that I was “mistakenly” born alive instead of dead.

From all accounts, when I was delivered at St. Luke’s Hospital in Sioux City, Iowa, I was believed to be dead.  Understandably so—that was the plan.  And from what I’ve been told, I was left for dead–placed along the bedside table in my biological mother’s hospital room, left to be discarded like waste.  But by the grace of God, as a nurse was tending to my biological mother, she noticed that I was making small movements and weak grunting noises.  And that’s when the first or many heroes emerged in my life—the doctors and nurses began to provide me with the medical care necessary to sustain my fragile life.

You would never know it by looking at me today, but at the time that I survived that failed abortion, I was barely clinging to life.  I suffered from severe respiratory problems, jaundice, and seizures.  As the result of hemorrhaging, (a consequence of what the toxic salt solution was doing to me), I required multiple blood transfusions.  I was too weak to suck from a bottle, and so I was fed intravenously through my head.  The prognosis for my life was guarded at best.  The doctors didn’t believe that I would live for very long, and if I did live, I would suffer from any one or a number of disabilities.  But I was alive! And God had other plans…

I could spend this entire article talking about what an amazing life I’ve been blessed with, the wonderful adoptive family I have, the “normal” life I lived until the age of 14, when I unwittingly found out that I was an abortion survivor.  I could write about the struggles that I had with myself, with God, with our society that so nonchalantly embraces a culture of death.  I could talk about how I searched for and found my biological parents, attempted to let them know that I had forgiven them, and obtained my medical records that clearly identify the abortion that took place.  I could go on and on about how I put the pieces of my life together, healed from my pain, and found the strength to come forward publicly as an abortion survivor four years ago.  I could discuss how I now travel around the world sharing my story, testifying for legislation, and fighting for the lives of children like me to be saved and lives like my biological parents’ to be turned away from abortion and the pain that it leaves in its’ wake.  But that’s for another time.  This is about my children, born and yet to be born, and all of the children like them who are impacted by abortion.

I always knew that none of this is about me.  Truly, it’s not.  I’m just the messenger.  God saved my life and gave me a voice to speak up and speak out about the atrocity of abortion.  He gave me these experiences, He blessed me with motherhood, so that I could share with the world how EVERYONE is impacted by abortion.  For over 38 years now, we’ve been fed the faulty line that abortion is “just” about a woman and her right to choose, as she sees fit, what to do with her body.  Every once in awhile, if we’re lucky, the mere concept, but not the entire being, of a child, is added into this equation—positing the rights of a woman versus the worth of a child as a unique, living being with the inherent right to life.

But our daughter, Olivia, and our rapidly developing child tucked safely away in my womb are living testament to the fact that abortion is about so much more than just a woman and a child.  It’s about everyone.  We are all impacted by abortion—those already born, and those yet to be conceived.  It’s about men like my biological father, who aren’t given any opportunity to speak up for their children, nonetheless, any right to protect them.  It’s about men like my husband, who would never have a wife or children because their wife was aborted years before.  It’s about grandparents like mine, who grieve the loss of their grandchildren lost to abortion.  It’s about aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters, cousins, friends, our communities and our world, who are forever touched, forever changed, by abortion.  Abortion leaves no one untouched.

On my website you will see a droplet of water and the ripple effect that it creates, along with a quote, that God laid upon my heart not long after Olivia was born:  “One decision, one single moment, can have such a detrimental impact on so many people, living and dead, born and yet to be conceived.”  Just as my biological mother couldn’t have fathomed the impact that her one decision to abort me would have for generations to come, I couldn’t have fathomed what this quote would mean to Ryan and I as we continued to add to our family.  Nor could I have fathomed what all of this would mean to people around the world who have been impacted by abortion.

Olivia is the greatest blessing in our lives thus far.  She is the brightest, kindest, funniest, most loving child I have ever known (just as all of our children are to us as parents).  I can’t imagine our lives or this world without her.  And our second child is just as much of a blessing, despite the fact that they are growing in my womb.

Pro-life speaking and advocacy isn’t just my work.  It’s my life’s work.  It’s how I choose to live out God’s plan for my life.  Living this life and doing my life’s work every day, you would think that at some point, I’ve got it all figured out—but I don’t, nor do you.  Someone always inevitably comes along and changes your life.  You learn something that re-energizes your passion, which re-shapes your world.  Our darling baby #2, as we are so aptly calling him or her for the time being, has done that for me.  That statement God laid upon my heart 3 ½ years ago when Olivia was born has new meaning.  Not only Olivia have never existed if that abortion would have succeeded in ending my life 34 years ago, but this child, whose growth I can already feel in this early stage of pregnancy, would never have existed.

This is the reality of abortion.  Look for a second at the beaming face of Olivia, in this photo, where she is sporting her “I’m a big sister” t-shirt loud and proud.  (And yes, I chose the wording on the shirt purposely.  It’s not that she’s “going to be” a big sister, she is a big sister.  Her sibling just happens to still be growing in my womb).  One look at this photo should tell you that our daughter is thrilled that her brother or sister will soon be born.  Could you imagine, just for a second, that her sibling didn’t exist? Could you imagine that this beautiful, happy big sister didn’t exist? Could you imagine that their mother didn’t exist?

I can.  This is my life.  This is our lives.  And I will continue to fight for children like me, children like ours, every day so that the intergenerational impact of abortion is ended once and for all.  Are you in?


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KEYWORDS: abortion; abortionsurvivor; baby; expecting; failed; failedabortion; melissaohden; moralabsolutes; ohden; prolife; second; survived
I’m just the messenger. God saved my life and gave me a voice to speak up and speak out about the atrocity of abortion. He gave me these experiences, He blessed me with motherhood, so that I could share with the world how EVERYONE is impacted by abortion.

What an amazing woman!

1 posted on 09/15/2011 4:07:07 PM PDT by wagglebee
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2 posted on 09/15/2011 4:08:00 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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3 posted on 09/15/2011 4:08:39 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: wagglebee
I've seen this woman in person at a Right-to-Life rally here in Mentor, Ohio. Awesome . . . and so pleasant to talk to.

She told me that her "mother" is still not pro-life in her thinking . . . pathetic.

4 posted on 09/15/2011 4:10:04 PM PDT by laweeks
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To: Tax-chick
You will really enjoy this.
5 posted on 09/15/2011 4:10:32 PM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: wagglebee
I was lucky too. I was born in 1965 to a 17 year old and a 19 year old. They both say they would have never aborted if it were legal at the time, so I'm grateful they didn't have the option regardless. They did marry 7 months before I was born.

The scary part is my grandfather on the paternal side was head the Midwest Planned Parenthood well after I was born. I'm not proud....

6 posted on 09/15/2011 4:24:27 PM PDT by BreezyDog (PLAN A: A Peaceful Restoration of the Republic.....PLAN B: A Restoration of the Republic)
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To: wagglebee

A beautiful story which brought tears to my eyes. Thank you so much for posting it.


7 posted on 09/15/2011 4:33:35 PM PDT by bronxville (Sarah will be the first American female president.)
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To: BreezyDog

I had an abortion twenty some years ago. Something I will regret to the day I die. I am so pro life now. The Lord tested me with my twenty four yr old daughter. She has three children. Never been married. Not once was the option of abortion mentioned. Never again!


8 posted on 09/15/2011 4:46:49 PM PDT by Donnafrflorida (Thru HIM all things are possible.)
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To: BreezyDog

I had an abortion twenty some years ago. Something I will regret to the day I die. I am so pro life now. The Lord tested me with my twenty four yr old daughter. She has three children. Never been married. Not once was the option of abortion mentioned. Never again!


9 posted on 09/15/2011 4:47:01 PM PDT by Donnafrflorida (Thru HIM all things are possible.)
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To: wagglebee

“child tucked safely away in my womb”

I love this line!


10 posted on 09/15/2011 4:48:08 PM PDT by diamond6 (Check out: http://www.biblechristiansociety.com/home.php and learn about the faith.)
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To: Donnafrflorida

Donna, have you been to any support groups and had therapy for this? I’m only asking because a dear friend of mine who was raised catholic had two. She never fully recovered until she went to a Christian based abortion recovery group. It is now part of her testimony about sin and Gods grace. I pray for you that you find the healing that you need and deserve.


11 posted on 09/15/2011 4:57:36 PM PDT by mpackard (Read my Lip-Stick)
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To: wagglebee
What a breathtaking, gut-wrenching testimony to the abomination which is abortion.

Compelling stuff. I'm practically shaking from reading portions of that.

12 posted on 09/15/2011 5:09:22 PM PDT by sargon (I don't like the sound of these "boncentration bamps")
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To: sargon
Here's the solution guys. It will result in a situation where a mother can still abort her child without becoming a criminal, but the abominable act itself will be so stigmatized, that abortions in this country will fall to near zero.

  1. Make elective abortion illegal, except in cases of medical necessity. Legislatively, include wording clearly intended to stigmatize the act. Stigmatization can also be enhanced in other ways by society at large.
  2. Give the father veto rights over an abortion which he opposes. If the father wants it so, then the abortion cannot happen. Impose penalties for failing to inform the fathers of their rights in a timely manner.
  3. Include various informational requirements for parental consent, alternatives such as adoption, and also explain to women how negative abortion's aftereffects can factually be, in terms of both physical and mental health.
  4. Thereafter, if a woman really wants to go ahead and abort her child, she can consult with a doctor, who can agree that there is a medical necessity for the abortion. At this point, the State can't really intrude into the doctor-patient relationship, and thus privacy issues are addressed, both individual and medical. Admittedly, it's a loophole to point 1, but at least the stigma is preserved.
Now I know the above system is imperfect, and will never satisfy the extremists on both sides, but I'm not sure we could ever get to a much better practical arrangement. Many times, if both sides are unhappy with a compromise, it is likely that it is a good and effective compromise.

That's my take on the issue, and short of an outright repeal of Roe v. Wade, it probably represents the best that could be achieved.

13 posted on 09/15/2011 5:28:52 PM PDT by sargon (I don't like the sound of these "boncentration bamps")
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To: wagglebee

My wife and I lost our first child due to a small infection of the placental sack. The child was barely into the second trimester. This was 32 years ago so there was nothing that could be done to try to save her. Yes her, a perfectly formed little girl trying so hard to survive, to draw air into her lungs, which where not ready yet. All we could do is sit and watch as she died. It hurts yet today. I set here typing this with tears dripping of my chin.

You can try to label a baby as an embryo or a mass of tissue. Using those terms will never justify abortion. Abortion is “MURDER” murder of a living human being!


14 posted on 09/15/2011 5:49:46 PM PDT by W. W. SMITH (Islam is an instrument of enslavement)
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To: wagglebee

Yes, I did. Thanks!


15 posted on 09/15/2011 5:51:47 PM PDT by Tax-chick (I welcome our new reptilian overlords. They are so quiet!)
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16 posted on 09/15/2011 5:52:03 PM PDT by silverleaf (Common sense is not so common - Voltaire)
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To: wagglebee

Back in the late 60’s early 70’s I worked in a Jewish hospital in Denver & they performed abortions. We did not admit new borns. They were sent to a Catholic hospital 2 blocks away. One night a young girl was admitted for her 3rd abortion. She & her parents carried on like it was no big deal. I still think about them today & wonder if they had any buyers remorse. I also know people who had their daughters give their babies up for adoption & are constantly trying to find them.


17 posted on 09/15/2011 6:29:21 PM PDT by Anna W
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To: wagglebee

“From all accounts, when I was delivered at St. Luke’s Hospital in Sioux City, Iowa, I was believed to be dead. Understandably so—that was the plan. And from what I’ve been told, I was left for dead–placed along the bedside table in my biological mother’s hospital room, left to be discarded like waste. “

And this is just what Barack Hussein Obama has always wanted... he actively opposed the Born Alive Infant Protection Act while he was an Illinois senator. The act provided that medical care be given to abortion survivors. Zero would have stood in the way of any medical care given to this beautiful baby (now amazing woman).


18 posted on 09/15/2011 7:16:24 PM PDT by Reddy (B.O. stinks)
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To: wagglebee

This gal needs to team up with 40 Days for Life!


19 posted on 09/15/2011 8:27:47 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: wagglebee

Not as amazing as God creating life in the womb. How can anyone want to burn up their child? What type of Moloch-worshippers are these?


20 posted on 09/16/2011 3:24:27 AM PDT by Cronos (www.forfiter.com)
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To: Donnafrflorida

Did you get misled by the entire statements that it was not a baby and it was your choice? I think the entire “get it, get it” chant can disorient us weak sinners.


21 posted on 09/16/2011 3:34:40 AM PDT by Cronos (www.forfiter.com)
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To: sargon

baby-killing should only be “allowed” in the event that it could harm the mother. This would be I’m guessing only 0.5% of the cases.


22 posted on 09/16/2011 3:37:48 AM PDT by Cronos (www.forfiter.com)
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To: wagglebee

I got pregnant when I was 19. The father’s father oh-so-kindly arranged for an abortion. I refused to do it. The father ran off. Thank God, after their initial horrified shock, my parents stood by me, arranged for me to talk to lawyers and doctors about all my options other than abortion. (My parents never once mentioned the word.) My doctor found some good Christian doctors and lawyers who couldn’t have children and would love to adopt my baby. After much investigation, discussion and prayer, I kept my baby girl.

It wasn’t easy, but I went back to college, got my degree, married a man who adopted her, and had two more children. Although it was VERY hard to be an unwed mother in a small, conservative town in the 60s, I have never regretted my decision. I could not live with myself if I had murdered my own child! PS: My daughter is an astonishingly wonderful, intelligent, compassionate woman who has contributed much to the world and to our family!


23 posted on 09/16/2011 4:30:14 AM PDT by MomofMarine
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