My take on this is that it’s a 3-sided cluster with no good guys in sight, not the three principals (Serbs, Croats, Bosniaks), not any of the outside players (us, the EU, the Russians, the Chinese).
There were plenty of atrocities in every direction among the 3 principals.
The flame wars over the Balkans in the late 90s and early 2000s when I started lurking/posting on FR were legendary.
Yep. And in a fight with no good sides we jumped in to help those with whom we share no history, religion or values. I remember the fighting about it here as well.