Skip to comments.OK, I have a question...
Posted on 12/02/2011 10:49:21 AM PST by US Navy Vet
Why is it that "Conservative Women" like Ann Coulter, Laura Ingram, Christine O'Donnell and the like are well into their 40s and 50s and still are not married of have any prospects. Seems to me that having a normal family would be one of the largest conservative things that they can do.
I could imagine being VERY hard to live with...esp. Coulter.
Christine O’Donnell, I could imagine her being pretty neurotic to have around as a girlfriend or wife.
I honestly don’t know the answer, however.
Probably more career-driven than anything else.
“Just a question. FLAME ON!”
I read that Laura Ingram was engaged to be married until she was diagnosed with cancer.
Conservativism, responsibility, and independence tend to travel together. It doesn’t surprise me at all that conservative women with demanding media and writing gigs have chosen not to subject either a husband or children to such a life.
Ann Coulter is in love with Mitt Romney and he is already married.
With O'Donnell and Ingraham I'm unsure.
They haven’t met me;)
Because the truth is, women cannot have it all.
So, they decided to destroy the family.
It’s the Garden of Eden all over again.
No flame from me but I believe these women are using their God given rights to make their own choices in life.
As a liberty loving man, I respect their decisions.
Yep, the scumbag dumped her as soon as she was diagnosed. He then went on to date “Perky (not) Katie Couric”.
I’ve noticed that none of those mentioned have put out a cookbook......just sayin’ :)
O’Donnell is a witch.
Who marries a witch if they know about it in advance?
Well I’m pretty sure Coulter is a tranny. S/he even has an Adam’s apple.
Perhaps they prefer to marry for love and not someone’s political strategery.
I've never understood why having a family is considered the "normal" thing to do.
I've been a conservative my whole life, and have never married, nor have I ever wanted children. Luckily, later in life, I finally found a woman who feels the same way.
Apparently they are very busy.
What I find interesting is that you equate
“normal” with women having families and not high powered careers.
Bachmana, Palin, Malkin...
I imagine they focused on their careers and time slipped by.
Let me know when Dana Perino is available.
Their LAWYER personalities pretty much explain it. They are victims of their own self-image. The smartest and only opinion in the room. Narsissistic men don’t fare any better.
Why is Mary Matalin still married to the Louisiana Carvelle Snake?
...With all due respect, isn't it an individual choice? Perhaps this should be in the "Stir Shtt Up Catagory"? Subtitle, "Stirring shtt up today"? No flame on or off,
Something about Coulter makes me think she plays for the other team. I'm not sure what gives me that impression but it's there.
I will have to say to the OP, this is an interesting question and I have often wondered this myself.
Wonderful point sir!
IIRC - Laura Ingraham was engaged - but fiance split when she went through treatment for breast cancer. She still wanted a family, and has adopted 3 children.
I suspect that highly competent conservative women with high standards have trouble finding equally high quality conservative men.
In fact ...my 27 year old daughter has a similar complaint .....where are all the good/conservative/Christian men??? She intimidates many guys - she is college educated, ICU Nurse (which means ability to be strong/assertive and push back at Doctors to get what is needed for patients). She is a 1LT in the Army Reserve (Nurse Corps) - soon to be Captain. She does much of her own car maintenance (under my tutelage) ...and is very independent and capable...but, as I said, for many guys who are not accomplished - they are intimidated. Where are the strong conservative, capable and accomplished guys who want the same in a woman??
Probably several factors here.
1. They haven’t found someone they consider their better (women don’t generally like to pick men they believe are obviously less intelligent than them). Hard to let them be the head of the house if you feel that way.
2. Don’t really need them as they aren’t apparently itching for a family. In every other aspect independent and self-sustaining.
3. Further along you live alone, the harder it is to live with someone else. You get used to having everything your way and don’t have to make joint decisions and end up compromising sometimes.
4. Schedules they have may not work for them to have a relationship that is that intense and deep. Requires a lot of time and work to make it work. Don’t want to end up divorced if they can’t ‘do it right’.
As for Laura, beyond the jerk that didn’t stand by her, she has very high standards that are difficult to stand up to.
She has now adopted 3 children and has a stressing schedule.
I’d guess her “must” list includes;
Clear ability and willingness to commit and endure her schedule.
Condi Rice is not married.
“I’ve never understood why having a family is considered the “normal” thing to do.”
Conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected.
The usual, average, or typical state or condition.
Given the above definition and these stats...
Percentage of population that is married: 59%, down from 62% in 1990, 72% in 1970.
Percentage of population that has never married: 24%. AND Percentage of people who have ever been married by the age of 55: Both males and females: 95%
I would say 24% is not normal and 95% getting married is pretty normal.
Having kids according to Pew Research: Nearly one-in-five American women ends her childbearing years without having borne a child, compared with one-in-ten in the 1970s.
So again...it would appear that is is “normal” to have kids.
In the great buffet line of life, maybe they skip the kielbasa because they like the tacos better?
How is this News/Activism?
There’s some question as to if Condi Rice can see past the color of her skin when it comes to politics. There have also been rumors as to which team she plays for. Still the narcissistic self-image seems to apply.
It is puzzling, but more puzzling is why some folks don’t expect their political brothers and sisters to practice what they preach. I don’t have any interest in peering into the lives of any of these women. Yet it is odd to hear people who champion the family and the benefits of a conservative philosophy living as single moms, who until not long ago were the scourge of the nation, or as unmarried women in this age group, who would be called lesbians or sluts by some (not me, I’m a single man in my 40’s—and you know what that makes people think).
Can one champion the values of the traditional family while not living in one? I think so. I am not a military member, yet I praise and support the military, in part because my father and relatives have and are in the military. (Thank you for your service, US Navy Vet.) So it’s a complicated answer.
To use a devalued term, maybe it just means we shouldn’t judge folks who aren’t outwardly what we think they should be. Folks who aren’t living the same way we are aren’t necessarily enemies, and can be for the same values, as long as their life choices are merely alternatives, and not destructive, to traditional families.
It’s been my experience that very successful career-minded women remain single or have greater than average difficulty settling into a traditional committed relationship. It’s really often a matter of priorities. Many of these women will say they want a serious long term relationship, but when it comes right down to it, their career is the most important thing in their lives and receives the most nurturing. All else is secondary.
From the potential partner’s prospective you can surely imagine this presents a dilemma.
Their typically enormous ego and their inclination for an independence that borders on unapproachability is such that it can serve as a barrier to intimacy.
Anyway, that’s my take. The women you cited may fall into this category and some may not. It’s unlikely I will be dating any of them, so...
Yep, the scumbag dumped her as soon as she was diagnosed.
Thank goodness he showed his true colors before they were married!
Condi Rice would definitely have a hard time finding someone, she is
just the perfect woman. Attractive, brilliant, traveled she would definitely
have to lower her standards to find a perfect partner!!!!!
If he is the type to go after Couric then it looks like Laura had a close escape there!
Do you have to be married to be conservative? Isn’t it enough to be pro-small government, a supporter of the Constitution, and for the sovereignty of the individual? I’m just wondering.
That's all well and good at work.
In interpersonal relationships, it's domineering. Or bitchy. Or something. It's not good, in any case.
I'm sure you're very proud of your daughter.
If I were her age ... and single ...
I wouldn't touch her with a 10 foot pole.
Has nothing to do with being "intimidated"
Has everything to do with not needing the drama. I have enough trouble with high-maintenance, hyper-competitive jackasses at work. I don't need it at home.
I'm sure that's not what you wanted to hear. It's the truth as I see it.
And if you're thinking that I must be some sort of arrogant bastard ....
I think Laura Ingram probably has more of a family than those who criticize her. Three children seems to be an adequate family to me.
I guess(now that I think about it) is that most of them live in areas where there are more spineless, metrosexual TURDS than you can shake a stick at.
Although I can’t speak for them personally, but much of your answer lies in simple male-female dynamics.
Females tend to be far more particular about whom they invest their time and energy with. Basically the man they typically want to be with is of an equal social standing with or higher.
If a woman has a high social standing, it can be difficult for them to find a man of equal social standing or higher.
She is still an attractive, bright woman. But can't find a decent man?
She claims to be Catholic so certainly knows that God wants children raised by a mother and father. She had to have many decent men pursue her, yet she choose to import accessory children and raise them alone?
She claims to be pro life but regularly gives over her show, and a huge forum, to Tammy Bruce, a pro abortion, unrepentant lesbian?????????
Would Rush get away with turning over his show to a pro abortion, homosexual? Tammy Bruce has written about Laura bringing her children over to her house.
You can scream at me all day. But my common sense brings me to a conclusion about Laura. One that I don't respect. And most importantly one that I feel harms her children.
AND I have called to simply ask the question, why would she have Bruce as a regular guest host. They wouldn't let me thru.
IIRC, Laura Ingraham was engaged and the man dropped her when she got cancer.
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