It was a very difficult battle, but we had our wishes followed.
Having a "Dr." in front of my name, and a bit of inside knowledge of patients rights and federal hospice guidelines, made all the difference.
I don't know how the average American can fight them and not get squashed.
I just matched the doctor tone and timbre as I told her how it was going to be. She finally screamed she’d “let someone else deal with me in the morning” and slammed down the phone. By the morning my gut feeling
that the problem was overmedication was proven correct and I made some changes in terms of care providers. I have NO respect for one group of doctors and the hospice at a major teaching hospital in the southeastern US.