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Writer: My abortion ‘was the best decision of my life’; I’d rather have a dog than a baby
Life Site News ^ | 3/12/2012 | Ben Johnson

Posted on 03/13/2012 5:48:02 AM PDT by IbJensen

NEW YORK, NEW YORK, March 12, 2012, (LifeSiteNews.com) – American Idol judge Steve Tyler and his then-girlfriend still regret her abortion. So does former Britney Spears backup singer Kelly Clinger. So do millions of other famous and anonymous women across the country and around the world.

Not Amanda Chatel, a self-described “selfish” New York-based freelance writer. In an online article posted on the website The Gloss on Friday, she claimed she had an abortion in 2005, calling it “the best decision of my life” and writing that she prefers the companionship of her Jack Russell terrier to motherhood.

Chatel left her “very liberal” family and moved to New York City to become a writer. “I wanted a life that sparkled,” she told the New York Post. Within months, she was pregnant but could not believe her diagnosis, because she “drank too much, smoked too many cigarettes, too much pot and had also dabbled in a few other recreational items.”

Despite her fiercely “pro-choice” upbringing and her resolute decision to abort her child – supported by the baby’s father – she began to feel differently about herself. “I was all of a sudden dirty. I was a slut. I was disgusting,” she wrote.

The idea that she was “carrying something unwanted, unloved and a burden to my life and my future” wore her down. “I hated myself for thinking something that was part of me was so repulsive,” she wrote.

She proceeded to research what 10-week-old babies looked like, “torturing” herself by asking, “Did it have hands? Did it have eyes?”

“The nights leading up to my abortion, I’d lay in my bed with my hands on my stomach apologizing” and calling her unborn child by name. Still, she never saw her baby as more than “just cells.”

She claims she had an abortion on Holy Saturday 2005, adding her mother could not be with her because she could not “explain to my Catholic grandmother that Easter is canceled because my mom needs to run to NYC for her daughter’s abortion.”

How does she feel now?

“My abortion is something that never really crosses my mind at all, and in the brief moments that it does, I feel almost guilty that I don’t feel guilty about the decision I made seven years ago,” Chatel writes.

If she had become a mother, she states she would have missed out on other life experiences, like being in a cafe in Paris suffering “a necessary and deliciously inspiring heartbreak.” She would not “write for The Gloss or live in NYC or have my Hubbell.”

Hubbell, her Jack Russell terrier, was a gift from her parents in the wake of her abortion.

“Hubbell is my baby,” she wrote. “Hubbell is the age my child would be this year had I not had my abortion.” She tattooed his name on her arm “as a reminder that sometimes the most difficult decisions end up being the best.”

The author, whose Twitter handle is @AngryChatel, told the New York Post she was dedicated to remaining childless. “I am selfish!” she admitted.

“My sister, who’s two years younger, is married and has two kids,” she said. “I just look at her life, and it’s really my worst nightmare.”

Chatel is shutting down her low-traffic blog to concentrate on freelancing for such outlets as The Gloss, Untapped New York, Jewcy, and Green Shoelace.

Reflecting on her abortion, she wrote last Friday, “It was not a decision I wanted to make, but hell, it was the best decision of my life…I would not have it any other way.”

At least one detail of her story is out of place. Amanda claimed the date of her abortion, March 27, is “ingrained in my memory no matter what I try to do about it,” adding it “was the Saturday of Easter weekend.” But March 27, 2005, was Easter Sunday.

If authentic, her remorseless reaction would represent an additional deviation from the norm. Last September, the largest meta-analysis of abortion data, involving more than 877,000 women, discovered abortion led to a 155 greater risk of attempted suicide, as well as greater substance abuse and depression. A 2009 study in New Zealand found 85 percent of post-abortive women suffered a negative emotional consequence as a result of their abortion.


TOPICS: Constitution/Conservatism; Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: abortion; amandachatel; evil; moralabsolutes; postabortivewomen; prolife; selfishness
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More and more folks are narcissistic or sociopathic and truly do view children as possessions they plan to acquire if and when possessing a child will fulfill the parents' needs. Such diseased minds have seared consciences and truly feel no guilt when they deliberately and intentionally pay a doctor to spill their own child's blood because it had the audacity to be conceived by the parents' fulfilling their belly's desires when it wouldn't suit the parents at present to be parents and it is easier to them to have a dead child than to have a living a child out there being raised by loving parents who desperately wanted one and would treasure the child and sacrifice for their children like sane people do, investing in the child and sincerely seeking to meet the child's needs, not having a child so the child can...

Sounds a bit like Stanley Dunham.

1 posted on 03/13/2012 5:48:13 AM PDT by IbJensen
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To: IbJensen

Search.


2 posted on 03/13/2012 5:49:56 AM PDT by the invisib1e hand (There is life after FR.)
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To: IbJensen

What a self-centered, egomaniacal, vapid little bitch.


3 posted on 03/13/2012 5:52:24 AM PDT by RightOnline (I am Andrew Breitbart!)
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To: IbJensen

Jack Russell terriers deserve better mommies

Someday her sister’s kids will pick crazy Aunt Amanda’s nursing home and Aunt Amanda will leave all her money to the SPCA

At least Stanley Dunham saw her child as a ticket to Africa to be part of a tribal harem... if you want to believe the story about Barry’s paternity


4 posted on 03/13/2012 5:53:27 AM PDT by silverleaf (Funny how all the people who are for abortion are already born)
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To: IbJensen

She’ll never know what she missed, but God knows.

Parenthood changed my perceptions about many things. What this poor soul doesn’t realize is that it would have changed hers, too. Or she would have wound up like Casey Anthony, because she’s that evil. One of the two.


5 posted on 03/13/2012 5:55:46 AM PDT by bolobaby
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To: the invisib1e hand

This woman will never know what true love is. Most people think it’s the love between a man and a woman. I submit it is the love you feel for your children. There is nothing like it. Is it easy? No, but it is the most enduring and satisfying.


6 posted on 03/13/2012 5:56:01 AM PDT by refermech
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To: refermech

Amen.

But you don’t know it until you experience it.

And those that don’t experience it? They take your words as “hate”
The world is getting flipped upside down.


7 posted on 03/13/2012 5:59:10 AM PDT by Scotswife
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To: IbJensen
I wonder why morons like this doesn't get sterilized so she can't get pregnant..especially if they are going to open their legs to any Tom,Dick or Harry..These women are ignorant fools..
8 posted on 03/13/2012 6:05:15 AM PDT by PLD
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"Chatel left her “very liberal” family and moved to New York City to become a writer. “I wanted a life that sparkled,” she told the New York Post. Within months, she was pregnant but could not believe her diagnosis, because she “drank too much, smoked too many cigarettes, too much pot and had also dabbled in a few other recreational items.”

Thus, an unemployed lefty justifies her abortion because a baby would have interfered with her boozing and drugging.

9 posted on 03/13/2012 6:11:15 AM PDT by circlecity
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To: IbJensen

“I prefer my dog to a child; after all, my agenda can still be fulfilled, if not by the womb, then by Public School recruitment”.


10 posted on 03/13/2012 6:11:48 AM PDT by C210N
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To: refermech

Good point, and no woman can accurately say that she loves a man if she is willing to kill that man’s child by abortion.


11 posted on 03/13/2012 6:15:42 AM PDT by DNA.2012
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To: IbJensen

This is evolution at its best.

Who would want a child of this beast in our world?


12 posted on 03/13/2012 6:17:28 AM PDT by Da Coyote
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If she had become a mother, she states she would have missed out on other life experiences, like being in a cafe in Paris suffering “a necessary and deliciously inspiring heartbreak.” She would not “write for The Gloss or live in NYC or have my Hubbell.”

Mental illness is such a tragic thing to behold.


13 posted on 03/13/2012 6:18:15 AM PDT by reagan_fanatic (2012 isn't an election - it's a restraining order.)
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To: IbJensen

If this bitch’s mother had her aborted, it would have been the best decision in her life.


14 posted on 03/13/2012 6:18:57 AM PDT by dfwgator (Don't wake up in a roadside ditch. Get rid of Romney.)
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Despite her fiercely “pro-choice” upbringing and her resolute decision to abort her child

This statement right here points to how much the Left bastardizes words. "Pro-choice" is supposed to mean that the person can choose. In this case, "choice" means abortion, period.

The Left wants us to believe that pro-life means that women will be forced to have and keep children. They want us to believe that pro-choice means that they can choose to abort or to carry the child to term. In an overwhelming number of cases, women who claim to be "pro-choice" feel that they don't want a child but damn the consequences of having sex with every Tom, Dick, and Harry on the block.

I'm gonna call BS on this author. My bet is that she's using this as an unverifiable truth to further an agenda. I bet no one ever knocked her up nor did she ever get pregnant. If she can produce proof, I might listen, but she'll never get any of my sympathy. You don't want a baby? Keep your legs closed or join a convent!

15 posted on 03/13/2012 6:19:10 AM PDT by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: RightOnline
fluker slut

16 posted on 03/13/2012 6:19:26 AM PDT by y6162
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To: IbJensen

Just wow - what a read - glad I wasn’t eating while I read it


17 posted on 03/13/2012 6:19:56 AM PDT by F15Eagle (1 John 5:4-5, 4:15, 5:13; John 3:17-18, 6:69, 11:25, 14:6, 20:31; Rom10:8-11; 1 Tim 2:5; Titus 3:4-5)
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To: reagan_fanatic

“Mental illness is such a tragic thing to behold”

Best decision of her life, she’s so happy she did it, but her twitter name is AngryChatel. Don’t all happy well adjusted people add “Angry” before their name?

So sad that these wacko liberals don’t even know they are wacko!


18 posted on 03/13/2012 6:25:17 AM PDT by No Socialist
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To: IbJensen
“I was all of a sudden dirty. I was a slut. I was disgusting”

I got news for ya honey, you still are.
19 posted on 03/13/2012 6:26:42 AM PDT by mkjessup (Jimmy Carter is the Skidmark in the panties of American history, 0bama is the yellow stain in front!)
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To: IbJensen
The funny thing to me, as a committed antiabortion person, it that these type of articles actually make me wonder if I shouldn't SUPPORT abortion?

There are some people's genes that simply don't belong in the pool. If they want to keep themselves out, you almost have to think of it from two perspectives. One, a completely innocent child has been murdered, but two, maybe the effect of this worthless POS will end here. Sad as it seems, the benefit of one almost outweighs the other.

20 posted on 03/13/2012 6:28:31 AM PDT by I cannot think of a name
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To: Da Coyote

“Who would want a child of this beast in our world?”

Thousands of couples would have given this woman’s child a good life. The baby would have been truly loved, cared for and been seen as precious. The author did say one thing that was correct... she was selfish. Her selfish nature denied a human being life and a couple the joy of raising that baby into adulthood.


21 posted on 03/13/2012 6:31:17 AM PDT by momtothree
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To: y6162

I wouldn’t fluker if you held a gun to my head......


22 posted on 03/13/2012 6:31:36 AM PDT by RightOnline (I am Andrew Breitbart!)
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To: Scotswife

I was actually a lot like this woman.(I’m a man) I swore I’d never have kids but due to a strange twist of fate the kids(Twins)arrived. I haven’t had a moments rest since then! But it’s amazing to be involved and watch them develop. They turned 10 today. Happy birthday Jonathan and Michelle!!


23 posted on 03/13/2012 6:32:16 AM PDT by refermech
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To: IbJensen

The time to decide whether or not to have a child is BEFORE you have sex, not after the baby is conceived. If she didn’t want a baby, she should have used contraceptives or better yet, kept her pants zipped. She isn’t a pioneer, a liberated woman, a icon for “women’s rights” or whatever. She’s just plain stupid, selfish and lazy. And because of her lack of responsibility, an innocent life is snuffed out.

I wish her Jack Russell would bite her in the butt.


24 posted on 03/13/2012 6:32:46 AM PDT by fatnotlazy
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I’d say “not guilty” but I’m fairly sure you got the wrong girl. Here she is:

I also found this little nugget while searching. She’s around 34 and it sure doesn’t sound like the “best decision of her life”.

She was pregnant, and wouldn’t be able to hide it much longer, so she was letting all of her patients know. She’s due at the end of June and plans to be on maternity leave for two to three months, but would be available for phone sessions.

I did what society and past experience had taught me is appropriate, and gleefully congratulated her. Then, within milliseconds, burst into tears and cried through the rest of my session…and well after I walked out the door, too. It wasn’t the best of timing.

In the days before my session, I’d briefly broken a four-month run of “no Facebook” for all of 90 minutes. In that small amount of time, I noticed how many old ‘friends’ were either pregnant or married. As I stared down my one-bedroom apartment and a life that lacked both a serious relationship and even the glimmer of a baby, I deactivated my profile once more, then proceeded to have the first big breakdown I had had in a long time. I felt completely alone.

MY THERAPIST IS PREGNANT AND I HATE HER FOR IT

25 posted on 03/13/2012 6:36:13 AM PDT by varyouga
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To: circlecity
Thus, an unemployed lefty justifies her abortion because a baby would have interfered with her boozing and drugging.

So.... she's a SLUT.

26 posted on 03/13/2012 6:44:12 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post)
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To: IbJensen

The selfish b*tch doesn’t deserve the dog. The dog deserves better!


27 posted on 03/13/2012 6:46:32 AM PDT by pgkdan (Rick Santorum 2012. Conservative's last, best chance!)
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To: IbJensen

She doth protest too much. Sad story all around.


28 posted on 03/13/2012 6:46:50 AM PDT by fullchroma
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To: IbJensen

I agree! Sluts like her should not procreate. They should live in shitholes like New York City, San Francisco, Chicago and be urbanites until they die of drug overdoses and rid the planet of their ilk.


29 posted on 03/13/2012 6:47:41 AM PDT by Redleg Duke ("Madison, Wisconsin is 30 square miles surrounded by reality.", L. S. Dryfus)
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To: IbJensen

I wish the author’s mother had thought the same way.


30 posted on 03/13/2012 6:54:33 AM PDT by ImJustAnotherOkie (zerogottago)
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To: IbJensen

Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; Who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness. Isaiah 5:20


31 posted on 03/13/2012 6:54:53 AM PDT by Linda Frances (Only God can change a heart, but we can pray for hearts to be changed.)
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To: IbJensen

I don’t think more and more folks feel this way. I think truly it’s less and less since the 70s. But it is still in the ether that murder is a “woman’s reproductive right” and just a “choice.”

This woman could have carried the child Gd made and given him up for adoption and then gotten her dog. We lie to girls that that is not the one right thing to do if you create a baby you don’t want.

And believe me, when we were still in a world where a heartstrings tugging song like “love child” (Diana Ross) could be written, there were a lot less women risking unwanted pregnancy.


32 posted on 03/13/2012 6:56:05 AM PDT by Yaelle (Santorum 2012 - we need a STEADY conservative President)
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To: Da Coyote
"This is evolution at its best.

Who would want a child of this beast in our world?

There's a LOT of self-hatred in the political left.

33 posted on 03/13/2012 7:04:00 AM PDT by cookcounty (Newt 2012: ---> Because he got it DONE.)
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To: y6162
This is the slut in question:


This isn't her:

34 posted on 03/13/2012 7:05:06 AM PDT by NCC-1701 (In Memphis on January 20, 2009, pump price were $1.49. We all know what happened after that.)
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To: PLD

They’re NOT women, they’ee skanks and should be regarded as such.


35 posted on 03/13/2012 7:09:29 AM PDT by Mr. C (Take Back America!)
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To: NCC-1701
She looks like the average lib. Shouldn't be hard to find the father of the murdered baby; he'll be missing an arm.
36 posted on 03/13/2012 7:09:40 AM PDT by liberalh8ter (Barack has a memory like a steel trap; it's a gift ~ Michelle Obama)
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To: NCC-1701

Odd how when I first saw the Asian woman I felt a little surprised and suspicious so I went to look it up myself. When I saw the real one I thought immediately “Yup, that’s her alright!”

What is it with liberal women and ugly thick glasses anyhow?


37 posted on 03/13/2012 7:09:40 AM PDT by MNDude
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To: refermech

Well said. Thanks.


38 posted on 03/13/2012 7:10:53 AM PDT by moovova (Is Fluke REALLY pronounced Fluck?)
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To: IbJensen
She's likely a much better "owner" than she would be as a parent.

Something tells me her "ownership" skills might have come in handy if she had been born in the 1820's American south.

39 posted on 03/13/2012 7:15:55 AM PDT by Sgt_Schultze (A half-truth is a complete lie)
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To: IbJensen
The idea that she was “carrying something unwanted, unloved and a burden to my life and my future” wore her down. “I hated myself for thinking something that was part of me was so repulsive,”

Better for the little one to be back with God, than in the hands of that repulsive woman.

40 posted on 03/13/2012 7:19:14 AM PDT by mware (By all that you hold dear on this good earth, I bid you stand, Men of the West)
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To: NCC-1701
“This is the $lut in question”

Uggg! there definitely was some booze involved.

41 posted on 03/13/2012 7:22:17 AM PDT by DAC21
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To: IbJensen

Very sad that she didn’t figure out how completely selfish she is until somebody else was sacrificed at her altar of “freedom”.

Tragic. This woman is pitiful.


42 posted on 03/13/2012 7:24:11 AM PDT by jagusafr ("Write in Palin and prepare for war...")
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To: IbJensen
“The nights leading up to my abortion, I’d lay in my bed with my hands on my stomach apologizing” and calling her unborn child by name. Still, she never saw her baby as more than “just cells.”

This poor woman is obviously deeply conflicted and "compensating" for what she has done. Its clear that deep in her heart, she knows her grave error, and mourns her child, yet can't bring herself to admit it. Yet she uses the fake words and notions of the abortion movement as cheap justification.

43 posted on 03/13/2012 7:27:21 AM PDT by PGR88
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To: NCC-1701

my bad...

All fluker sluts look the same to me...


44 posted on 03/13/2012 7:29:20 AM PDT by y6162
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To: IbJensen

Another slut.


45 posted on 03/13/2012 7:31:55 AM PDT by onedoug
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To: IbJensen

It’s too bad that her mother didn’t believe in birth control or abortions.

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46 posted on 03/13/2012 7:32:15 AM PDT by flatfish
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To: IbJensen
There are sociopaths, narcissists and simple run-of-the-mill weak and selfish people in the world.

The problem with our society is that we give greater honor and legal protection to them than we do to those who try to do right even if when it hurts.

This silly woman sounds like she is deluding herself, although maybe she is a sociopath.

One thing of which I am confident is that Miss Chatel would never truly give a rat's tail as to what I, or anybody else, would want but would certainly expect us all to cater to her every wish.

47 posted on 03/13/2012 7:35:20 AM PDT by Tribune7 (GAS WAS $1.85 per gallon on the day Obama was Inaugurated! - - freeper Gaffer)
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To: IbJensen

What a shame her parents weren’t dog lovers....


48 posted on 03/13/2012 7:35:34 AM PDT by Niteranger68 (Quit poking holes in the life raft!)
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49 posted on 03/13/2012 7:38:25 AM PDT by wagglebee ("A political party cannot be all things to all people." -- Ronald Reagan, 3/1/75)
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To: IbJensen

Wonder if she’ll feel the same when she’s sixty, old and alone...?


50 posted on 03/13/2012 7:39:30 AM PDT by Jack Hammer
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