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Shopping cart victim says she wishes boys who injured her 'well'
nypost.com ^ | March 19, 2012 | FRANS KOSTER

Posted on 03/19/2012 7:11:29 PM PDT by Free ThinkerNY

A Manhattan charity worker who was nearly killed by a shopping cart pushed over a garage railing by teenage punks in October spoke publicly for the first time today -- expressing compassion for the pranksters who dropped the cart on her head.

Marion Hedges, during a walk outside her Upper East Side apartment, said she hasn’t received an apology from the evil-doers.

“I haven’t heard from them, but I wish them well,” Hedges said. “I do, because I feel very sorry for them.”

“I don’t know that my son would do something like that or that his friends would do something like that. But there were a lot of things in their lives to bring them to that. A shopping mall is not a place for kids to hang out.”

(Excerpt) Read more at nypost.com ...


TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; News/Current Events; US: New York
KEYWORDS: forgiveness; marionhedges; shoppingcart; violentcrime

1 posted on 03/19/2012 7:11:31 PM PDT by Free ThinkerNY
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To: Free ThinkerNY

Stockholm Syndrome.


2 posted on 03/19/2012 7:25:29 PM PDT by ZULU (LIBERATE HAGIA SOPHIA!!!!!)
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To: Free ThinkerNY

Of various responses to one’s attackers, I think hers is probably among the best for continued sanity and happiness (assuming she isn’t in shock-denial). Bitterness is a lousy way to deal with life’s unfairness.

Bless you, Mrs. Hedges.


3 posted on 03/19/2012 7:26:58 PM PDT by avenir (I'm pessimistic about man, but I'm optimistic about GOD!)
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To: ZULU

That had to be one of those news/semi-satire reports.


4 posted on 03/19/2012 7:42:06 PM PDT by ngat
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To: ZULU

They need their a$$ kicked.


5 posted on 03/19/2012 7:44:50 PM PDT by logitech (Who's here so vile, that will not love his country? If any speak, for him I have offended)
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To: avenir

You are correct. Carrying around anger will only hurt herself.


6 posted on 03/19/2012 7:48:05 PM PDT by PGR88
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To: avenir

Bless you.


7 posted on 03/19/2012 7:55:24 PM PDT by SuzyQue
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To: Free ThinkerNY

Of course you haven’t heard from them. They do NOT care about you at all. You are NOTHING to them.


8 posted on 03/19/2012 7:58:39 PM PDT by GeronL (The Right to Life came before the Right to Pursue Happiness)
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To: PGR88
My pastor says harboring bitterness for another is like trying to kill someone else by swallowing poison.

Always thought that was pretty deep; Pastor Max is a pretty good pastor.

9 posted on 03/19/2012 8:03:50 PM PDT by cport (How can political capital be spent on a bunch of ingrates)
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To: cport
My pastor says harboring bitterness for another is like trying to kill someone else by swallowing poison.

I like that.

10 posted on 03/19/2012 8:08:03 PM PDT by PGR88
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To: PGR88

Some anger keeps you sharp and ready for any trouble that comes your way. WHile the victim couldn’t have anticipated the assault from above, a little paranoia and anger can save your life because it makes you aware of your environment.

Most crime victims don’t pay attention to their environment when they go for a walk, to work, running, etc. That is why they are easy targets.

Anger can be general, as well as aimed at a specific target, group, etc. You just need to know how to control it and harness it in an emergency.

I chased a drug dealer for 6 months, and with the help of a very good Fairfax County, Va. detective and a couple of kids, we nailed him and got him sent to jail.

Nobody threatens my family and gets away with it. The kid is still changing his underwear because he knows what I’ll do to him if he every shows up in our neighborhood again.

Besides, my K-9 needs a new toy to play with.


11 posted on 03/19/2012 8:11:16 PM PDT by MadMax, the Grinning Reaper
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To: PGR88

I heard it put this way recently: Resentment is taking a bad thing someone did against you and using it against yourself.


12 posted on 03/19/2012 8:12:28 PM PDT by SaraJohnson
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To: GeronL

I have a friend who was knocked over in an airport staircase by some idiots who loaded a cart up with luggage and tried to take in down a stairway. She was hit by the suitcases as they fell out of the cart. The idiots never even stopped to check if she was okay. I’ll have to ask her if she is ready to forgive them - after multiple surgeries.


13 posted on 03/19/2012 8:17:56 PM PDT by ladyjane
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To: GeronL

I have a friend who was knocked over in an airport staircase by some idiots who loaded a cart up with luggage and tried to take in down a stairway. She was hit by the suitcases as they fell out of the cart. The idiots never even stopped to check if she was okay. I’ll have to ask her if she is ready to forgive them - after multiple surgeries.


14 posted on 03/19/2012 8:18:06 PM PDT by ladyjane
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To: MadMax, the Grinning Reaper

I agree we must not have blind-faith in all of humanity either. I think what you described is a proper sense of vigilance, and justice. Those are clear-headed. Anger (and self-pity) is blinding.


15 posted on 03/19/2012 8:20:15 PM PDT by PGR88
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To: MadMax, the Grinning Reaper

You can be my next door neighbor anytime. I salute you.


16 posted on 03/19/2012 8:24:22 PM PDT by mkjessup (Jimmy Carter is the Skidmark in the panties of American history, 0bama is the yellow stain in front!)
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To: ladyjane

Forgiveness does not preclude justice. In other words, the court system should deal with the guilty.

But when you are a victim of a crime, if you walk around in resentment of the perp, he has planted that poison in your heart and being. He does not deserve that spot within the victim and resentment is not hurting the offender, it is hurting the victim. Pursuing justice and forgiving are not the same thing.


17 posted on 03/19/2012 8:24:54 PM PDT by SaraJohnson
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To: ladyjane

bump!


18 posted on 03/19/2012 8:27:06 PM PDT by GeronL (The Right to Life came before the Right to Pursue Happiness)
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To: SaraJohnson

“Nothing consumes a man more completely than a passion for resentment’’.— Neitzche


19 posted on 03/19/2012 8:28:21 PM PDT by jmacusa (Political correctness is cultural Marxism. I'm not a Marxist.)
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To: PGR88

I’m angry that we have allowed punks and gangs to wander at will for so long. Liberals made all kinds of excuses for their existence and behavior, but none of them suffered at their hands because they lived in fancy neighborhoods and never walked anywhere.

We, the working people, are the main targets of the criminals because we are out there walking down the block, to work, or the bus/subway, or to the local store.

Our kids are exposed to gangs and drugs because the police never admitted that either existed for years. My daughter and niece once gave me the names of 18-27 Hispanic/black gangs that existed in our area, while the police had just told me at a community meeting that there were only 5-7, and not all were dangerous. I sent them the rest of the names their intelligence unit missed.

I’m tired of drunk drivers hitting my family’s cars, and those of my neighbors (18 times in 3 years). We finally got the police off their asses, provided them with license plate numbers, home addresses, etc. and cleaned up our neighborhood, including wiping out a little drug operation.

The fact that my son is a federal police officer, and is very striking in his uniform, with K9, sent out a message to newcomers that you don’t cause trouble in our neighborhood or you could get shot or arrested, or bitten, then shot, and then arrested. You just can’t image how quiet it has been during the past few years. I wonder why.

I don’t mind rehabilitation, but in some cases, as in the situation of this poor woman who was struck by the shopping cart, her life has been severely damaged if not wrecked. My anger is directed at the bastard who did it. He needs to pay, if only as an example to the next jerk who might think it is funny to drop a cart on someone’s head.

In fact, someone was driving in nearby Maryland and kids threw a hugh stone thru their car window, nearly killing the person, and crippling them for life. The victim didn’t deserve that. That is why I’m angry. It could have been me, or my family. I can’t reserve my anger just for my family and friends. A stranger deserves the right to life just as much as anyone else.

Remember, an injury to one is an injury to all. We must get collectively angry if we are to have anything done. Nice platitudes and psychobabble don’t mean shit out in the real world. We are our brother’s keepers and that means protecting one and all from the barbarians.

Anger, leading to real justice, is the one thing that can unite us as a people. I agree that blind anger is not good, but directed anger helps to make our world a safer place. After 9/11, Americans finally got angry and got justice after ignoring the atrocities of the Khobar Towers, World Trade Center One, USS Cole, etc. No one wanted to point a finger, name a culprit, do justice to our dead and wounded and maimed.

I prefer to be a little angry because I was raised to be angry at injustice and crime. And I do something about it.
Call me angry, call me mean-spirited, call me anything you want to, but in the end, I bring the bastards down.

Two drunks went to jail last night when I helped the manager of a local drugstore locate and identify to the police these guys who had threatened her for not selling them beer at night. If the one who had threatened the manager, a woman, had made a move, I would probably be in the hospital today getting his teeth out of my fist.

MadMax, who really isn’t so mad, but just perpetually pissed off.


20 posted on 03/19/2012 8:53:01 PM PDT by MadMax, the Grinning Reaper
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To: SuzyQue

Thanks. You, too.


21 posted on 03/19/2012 9:15:43 PM PDT by avenir (I'm pessimistic about man, but I'm optimistic about GOD!)
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To: Free ThinkerNY

This guilt tripping white woman is a “liberal” Eloi. They are everywhere.

The Amy Biehl Syndrome.

“When 26-year-old Biehl drove a friend home to the township of Guguletu, outside Cape Town, on August 25, 1993, a black mob pelted her car with stones and smashed its windows while shouting racial epithets. Biehl was struck in the head with a brick, then dragged from her car and surrounded by a mob who stoned and stabbed her to death while she begged for her life.[1]

Four of Biehl’s murderers were convicted for her killing; however, in 1998, all were pardoned by South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission. Biehl’s family supported release of the killers, and her father shook the murderers’ hands, stating that

“ The most important vehicle of reconciliation is open and honest dialogue...we are here to reconcile a human life which was taken without an opportunity for dialogue. When we are finished with this process we must move forward with linked arms.[1]”

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amy_Biehl

This account omits the fact that the thugs were unrepentant and jeering at their trial. After serving only 5 years they were reportedly greeted by Amys parents, invited over for dinner, and given money and jobs by the parents of the daughter they murdered!

Such is the groveling with todays racists”liberals” involving blacks, even those who have grievously harmed them or their families.

MLK said to judge blacks by the content of their character not by the color of their skin yet todays “liberals” can only see the color of their skin and ignore the content of their character.

I bet this woman in NY would not be so forgiving if the thugs that gravely injured her were white racist instead of black racists.

“Liberalism” is a mental disease.


22 posted on 03/20/2012 3:09:49 AM PDT by Uncle Lonny
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To: MadMax, the Grinning Reaper
I bring the bastards down.

Good.

23 posted on 03/20/2012 3:19:18 AM PDT by who knows what evil? (G-d saved more animals than people on the ark...www.siameserescue.org.)
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To: MadMax, the Grinning Reaper

I totally agree with you.

But just look at some of the other posters in this forum. And this is a CONSERVATIVE group.

Personally, I like the epitaph on Sulla’s tombstone:
“No friend ever served me, and no enemy ever wronged me, whom I have not repaid in full”.

Sometimes its necessary to temper Christianity with a little Paganism.


24 posted on 03/20/2012 5:59:59 AM PDT by ZULU (LIBERATE HAGIA SOPHIA!!!!!)
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To: MadMax, the Grinning Reaper

Your neighborhood sucks. You should find a safer place to raise your daughters.


25 posted on 03/20/2012 6:07:22 AM PDT by wtc911 (Amigo - you've been had.)
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To: Free ThinkerNY

“But there were a lot of things in their lives to bring them to that. A shopping mall is not a place for kids to hang out”

Where has she been? Thats where all the teens hang out. Hanging at the mall does not make you want to throw a shopping cart at someone. She should save her sympathy for the next victims of these little monsters who will surely need it.


26 posted on 03/20/2012 8:17:06 AM PDT by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose of a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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