well all the men gotta do is
Have a job
Stay zipped up and faithful
be drug and alcohol free
It ain’t that big a challenge.
So how come so many can’t perform?
Unfortunately, that is definitely NOT all that men have to do, in spite of female protestations to the contrary.
It ain't that simple. You left out the woman's faults and have only listed men's "faults". Marriage is a two way street.
A guy I work out with has been married 20 years. His wife never had a high libidio and she literally stopped having sex with him 5 years ago. He is in his late 40's. He has tried everything to get her to be more affectionate to no avail. He is a great guy, keeps in shape, great provider etc but he is screwed, well not literally.
I am single in my mid 20's though I am in a long term relationship. No wonder I have no fascination on getting married at this point.
Because most of the women are lesbians, or want to be men.
Those that aren't are sleeping around, don't have a job, are alcoholics or drug addicts, AND have PMS.
Trust me when I say that many feminism polluted wives will still...
1. Spend it all
2. Say no for weeks and months on end
3. Get drunk
4. Hit thier husbands
Ain't so simple now is it sister ?!
No incentive to.
Finding someone who will respect and complement those simple points - instead of take advantage of them - IS a big challenge ... big enough that many find no incentive to try.
My husband scores 100% to those standards. He’s a good guy. I’m blessed.
It would be nice if that’s all men had to do. In my own family, two women in good marriages to good men became dissatisfied, dwelled on their resentments and escalated them, initiated divorce and broke up the foundation of their children’s lives. Their husbands wanted to try to save the marriage even after it got really bad, even after infidelity in one case.
This is my advice to women:
Find a good man.
Marry the good man.
Now comes the important part:
Spend the rest of your life appreciating him and being thankful for your good fortune.
You know his weaknesses - never attack him there.
You know his strengths - build them.
Make love to him often.
Feed him well and healthily.
Don’t be a control freak. Minimize criticism and nagging.
Forgive all the little things. Don’t let resentments build.
Teach your children to hold him in honor and respect.
If there are problems in your marriage, and they are not because he is abusive, adulterous, addicted, or abandoning, try changing your own behavior first.
Positive reinforcement is better than negative reinforcement. (look that up in terms of animal training.)
Let him see your happiness with him.
Can a good man enjoy a glass of Irish whiskey anymore?
Women do not respect men. They’re taught to be “empowered” and be dominant in the relationship. They’re also more likely (several studies have shown) to instigate violence. To me, today’s “women” are not the type of women that drives a man to be fully committed. Abortion, while hailed as “progress” for women, was nothing more than a win for promiscuous men (and women), it reduced the respect that men have for women. Now we have women behaving like promiscuous men - which doesn’t provide a foundation for respect from men.
Women are very good at pointing out the failings of today’s men but refuse to look at what they may be doing to contribute to the situation.
As a man, I’d die for my wife, I’ll work tirelessly, etc...at the end of the day, all I need is a little respect - which is then returned in love. I see far too many women these days seeing “their man” as nothing more than somebody that should treat them like a queen while they behave like a spoiled brat that appreciates nothing. Ultimately, they’re very selfish.
It’s always about the “problem with men”, when really both sides have gone off the rails.
Sorry, no, that's not near enough for many floozies (and sadly, it seems that nowadays, most women are floozies).
My brother held a job. Worked 12 hours a day to make a decent living so that he and his wife could afford to own a home and send their kids to Catholic school.
My brother “stayed zipped and was faithful.”
My brother has never touched drugs, and eventually gave up even social drinking to keep the household budget on track. See “homeownership and Catholic school” above.
My brother never hit his wife.
And indeed, none of the above were the reasons she gave me for divorcing him. Here's what she told me, herself:
- he works too many hours;
- he's put on weight.
Yep - that's it. 10 years of marriage and two kids, and, well, he works too many hours and got pudgy.
The real reason was that she was screwing everything with a protrusion that would risk disease with her (including my sister's husband) and she'd taken a training course or two in computer programming and her high school-educated blue-collar husband just wasn't snazzy enough anymore.
I'd call her a whore, but even a whore has some idea (though misguided) of her own value.
Maybe if you're planning on dating Carrie Nation.