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Nadia Lockyer tells traumatic story of how affair, drugs and deceit led to downfall
Oakland Tribune ^ | 4/22/12 | Julia Prodis Sulek

Posted on 04/22/2012 4:12:20 PM PDT by SmithL

Week after week, messages from Nadia Lockyer came in a barrage of lurid and disjointed emails, texts and photos. They were a confusing attempt to explain her tortured, drug-fueled affair with a meth addict and her crumbling marriage to state Treasurer Bill Lockyer, who is three decades her senior. One email that ended "Goodbye to everyone" seemed so desperate, so disturbing that the newspaper called police to rush to her home.

Then, in an effort to be believed and understood, the woman who had held office as an Alameda County supervisor for little more than a year sent us one more email:

"i want to and will tell you my full story, the story of steve and i, bill and i, the night of the assault, my treatment, my recent decision this week ..."

On the eve of her 41st birthday and just days after disgraced San Francisco Sheriff Ross Mirkarimi recounted his domestic violence saga in public, Nadia Lockyer on Friday sat on the living room couch at the home in the Hayward hills she still shares with her husband and 8-year-old son, apologizing for "all the drama" swirling around her traumatic relationship with Steve Chikhani, a 35-year-old convicted felon from San Jose. She then resigned from office, promising to focus on her family and recovery from addiction.

When the interview moved to a San Rafael cafe near the rehab center she still visits, she explained her layered and destructive journey -- including a near-death car accident and a more recent miscarriage -- that "led me to a place of a lot of emptiness and loneliness that made me connect with Steve and not run as fast as I could away from him."

More revelations

Her story included more shocking revelations and allegations:

"When we first met, I saw a young man who had lost all hope in his life entirely -- and for some reason I took it upon myself to restore it," she wrote in an email she prepared before the interview. "Steve and I would have never lasted as long as we did had my altruism not turned masochistic along the way. In the end I wasn't just a bleeding heart, I was a bleeding deer unable to healthfully navigate through Steve's forest of deceit and deception."

Sober for 77 days

A call and text Saturday to Bill Lockyer were not returned. However, he issued a statement Friday saying the last year had taken a great toll on his wife and their son, Diego, and it was best "that she leave public office."

Chikhani's lawyer, Adrienne Dell, said that her client still denies that he hurt her in the hotel room. As far as Chikhani calling Lockyer to apologize, she said he was "soul searching" and reading a letter he wrote to her as part of his recovery. "It was an apology for the entire relationship. There was no admission of any wrongdoing of a criminal nature."

On her birthday Saturday, while her husband was in Sacramento, she took Diego to play in the sand at Coyote Point in San Mateo. It was her first chance since her resignation Friday to make good on her promise to be a good mother. "I have a responsibility to give hope to one human being on this planet only," she said, "and that's my child."

At her home the day before, a soothing version of Rachmaninoff's "Vocalise" played on her stereo while she told her story of decades of pain and loss that drove her into the arms of addiction and another man. Her eyes big and dark, her body thin and frail, she said she's been sober for 77 days.

At one point during the interview -- in the midst of explaining the devastation she felt when her husband suggested she kill herself -- Bill Lockyer came home with the dry cleaning and quietly went about household tasks before tenderly placing his hand on his wife's shoulder, whispering "I'll talk to you later," then leaving for a meeting.

"We're married. There's no talk of changing that," she said. "We're committed to our son."

They met at a political event in 2002, a couple of years after she nearly died when her car flipped three times on a Southern California freeway. She broke 22 bones, mostly on the left side of her body, and she was on life support for nearly five days and spent six weeks in a physical therapy center. Doctors hooked her to an IV drip of morphine to deaden the pain. That's where she learned "you have this button you push for pain" and went right back to work in a wheelchair.

Meeting Bill

When she met Bill Lockyer, Nadia Maria Davis -- daughter of a prominent immigrant-rights lawyer -- was back on her feet, a newly minted, 29-year-old lawyer working for a community hospital, and had been elected to her first public office as a Santa Ana school board member. He was the 59-year-old attorney general for the state of California with a long Democratic Party résumé. They talked about litigation affecting an Army base closure.

"For days and weeks after that he tracked me down," she said, before she finally accepted his invitation to dinner. "As soon as we did, we immediately connected and talked for ever and ever and ever."

She had no idea he was 30 years older. "I thought he was 12 years younger" than he was, she said. When he told her his age, "I was in shock, but we were too far into it."

Their son was born two months after they married. One political operative called their union "a match made in political heaven."

Troubles soon began. Moving to Hayward from Southern California, she left behind her family and close friends and never rebuilt a close social circle. She felt controlled by a husband who always wanted his wife and child to travel with him, she said. "I felt isolated."

She took responsibility for her brother, who had been diagnosed with severe mental problems, and moved him into their home.

In the midst of it, she desperately wanted a second child, but her husband, she said, "wouldn't even have a conversation about it." She remembers crying herself to sleep. About five years later, in 2009, he suddenly changed his mind. "It was so flippant for a woman who was 38. Why hadn't he been able to do that before?" She got pregnant quickly, but was heartbroken when she had a miscarriage at four-and-a-half months.

She began feeling that "our marriage was a fraud."

She met Chikhani in 2010, while she was still working for the Alameda County Family Justice Center and was running for county supervisor, a campaign paid for by a $1.5 million donation from her husband's political war chest.

She says the relationship didn't become physical for months, but like being her brother's caretaker, she was drawn to help Chikhani, an addict with a criminal record for fraud. And he provided something she had been missing in her marriage -- "a peer."

"People I'm sure wonder, why the hell was Nadia involved with this guy?" she wrote in her pre-interview memo. "It was more than just our mutual loves in nature, music, movies and food. It was spiritual."

He promised to give her the second child she always wanted.

Affair unravels

But by last summer and fall, the relationship became explosive and traumatic, jealous and paranoid. Romantic pillow talk turned to screaming accusations, then tearful apologies. "Drugs and alcohol contributed to the drama and chaos of the relationship," she said, refusing to disclose her drug of choice.

She visited him in jail over the summer, signing in as a defense lawyer, even though she wasn't his attorney of record, saying Friday she didn't know the jailhouse policies.

Last July, the day he was released from Santa Clara County's Elmwood jail, a night spent together turned into a day crying when she felt he was pushing her away. By November, she found him "naked with other women" who knew who she and her husband were, and by January she began receiving messages and photos that made her think someone wanted to blackmail her.

She wanted to hire a private investigator, but she said her husband refused. On Feb. 3, she and her husband fought on the phone.

"He asked me, 'Why have you been talking to him? Why don't you just go ahead and commit suicide?' " she said in an account that was not disputed by Bill Lockyer's staff. His spokesman, Tom Dresslar, said: "It's not the appropriate time to get into the details, but suffice to say they had a heated argument and they both said hurtful things that they regret."

She packed bags for herself and son and checked into the Homewood Suites in Newark to find "a peaceful place." Chikhani called, insisted on coming over as her "protector."

Within hours, however, police were called to the hotel and she was left with traumatic memories, she says, of Chikhani's "eyes staring like stones straight into mine," and feeling his hand clench around her neck. "It haunts me to this day," she said. Chikhani has denied attacking her.

The story had made headlines ever since. Nadia Lockyer entered a rehab facility in Marin, where she felt "my story had yet to be heard and I was so desperate to get it out."

She wrote a suicide letter, she said, and "began to cut a sheet and tie it together, crying nonstop for my child, my son, how on earth could I do this to him." The clinic manager came just in time to stop her, she said.

And now, she says, she's starting to heal.

She imagines a new life, focused on recovery and family. She has already thanked her husband for "his incredible patience and love and understanding despite the things I shared about past hurts and losses." She has also apologized.

"I'll never feel I can do it enough," she said. "He says, 'I know. I know, Nadia. I know.' "


TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; Editorial; Government; US: California
KEYWORDS: cultureofcorruption; drugs; drugwar; lockyer; nadialockyer; rat; warondrugs; wod; wodlist; wosd

1 posted on 04/22/2012 4:12:28 PM PDT by SmithL
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To: SmithL

I never heard of her.


2 posted on 04/22/2012 4:13:59 PM PDT by Mears (Alcohol. Tobacco. Firearms. What's not to like?)
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To: Mears

Ya. Why was this nonsense posted here?


3 posted on 04/22/2012 4:16:40 PM PDT by Henry Hnyellar
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To: SmithL

Why do these nit wits get to screw up and us normal people pay through the nose without screwing up


4 posted on 04/22/2012 4:18:58 PM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: Mears; Henry Hnyellar
A lot more information at Keyword: Lockyer.
5 posted on 04/22/2012 4:21:46 PM PDT by SmithL (If you reward certain behavior, don't be surprised when you see more of that behavior)
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To: yldstrk

“Why do these nit wits get to screw up and us normal people pay through the nose without screwing up”

Because they are our RULERS, and we are mere peasants. Now finish plowing that field before it gets too dark!/sarcasm;)


6 posted on 04/22/2012 4:23:12 PM PDT by Frank_2001
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To: SmithL; fieldmarshaldj; AuH2ORepublican; Impy; GOPsterinMA; randita; BillyBoy; Sun; ...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igkLRcud87Q


7 posted on 04/22/2012 4:23:35 PM PDT by Clintonfatigued (A liberal's compassion is limited to the size of other peoples' paychecks)
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To: Henry Hnyellar

I’m not saying it’s nonsense,it’s just that the name means nothing to me so I ignored the article.

If I was smart I wouldn’t have posted anything.

Not too smart today.


8 posted on 04/22/2012 4:23:47 PM PDT by Mears (Alcohol. Tobacco. Firearms. What's not to like?)
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To: SmithL

Thanks.


9 posted on 04/22/2012 4:24:46 PM PDT by Mears (Alcohol. Tobacco. Firearms. What's not to like?)
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To: Henry Hnyellar

“Ya. Why was this nonsense posted here?”

It is nonsense, but these people are the ruling elite in California. No doubt the ruling elites elsewhere in the country are not far behind. Putting up with these phonies and frauds as “the best and brightest” and qualified to lead does indeed make a statement about California and the rest of the country.

Read ‘em & weep, folks. Not for these cretins, but for your country, for your Constitutional republic.


10 posted on 04/22/2012 4:25:12 PM PDT by Cincinnatus.45-70 (What do DemocRats enjoy more than a truckload of dead babies? Unloading them with a pitchfork!)
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To: SmithL
If Kalipornia loves a soap opera/trainwreck.... they should make her their Governor. lol.

One email that ended "Goodbye to everyone" seemed so desperate, so disturbing that the newspaper called police to rush to her home.

Wow. Normally wouldn't they just send a reporter and photographer over? If she were a conservative I guess.

11 posted on 04/22/2012 4:27:17 PM PDT by GeronL (The Right to Life came before the Right to Pursue Happiness)
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To: Mears
I never heard of her.

She and her husband are two prominent members of the Democratic Party and the political class here in California. It wouldn't be fair to say that all members of the political class in California are drug-addled loons who aren't capable of managing their own lives let alone the 8th largest economy in the world, but it would explain a lot about the shape California is in these days.
12 posted on 04/22/2012 4:39:56 PM PDT by AnotherUnixGeek
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To: SmithL

First of all, the way she met her lover is called “thirteen stepping”.

Second, like most alcoholics in early recovery, she’s a little on the dramatic side. He said he was in a run down motel room and he slit his wrist. The phone rang and he thought “What if I get to wherever I’m going and I’ll always wondered who that was who called.” So, he put a band aid on his wrist and answered the phone. He said “I remember all 12 of my suicides”.


13 posted on 04/22/2012 5:14:35 PM PDT by Terry Mross ("It happened. And we let it happen." - Peter Griffin, FAMILY GUY)
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To: GeronL

We had a pastor that did that very same thing. Sent out an email to out of town parishioners saying adios, one of them called the popo to go rushing to his house and take him to the hopsital and the next day he sent another email saying basically “never mind”


14 posted on 04/22/2012 5:37:23 PM PDT by yldstrk ( My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: SmithL

Where is her RESIGNATION ?


15 posted on 04/22/2012 5:45:37 PM PDT by jennychase
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To: SmithL

Why bother? This is typical of California politics ( particularly Bat Area politics). Lockyear (him has long been a sleaze. His wife is an admitted addict and alcoholic.

What else would you expect? And while she may be saying all the right things now, I doubt that will last. I feel sorry for their child


16 posted on 04/22/2012 6:09:42 PM PDT by Nifster
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To: jennychase

already done several weeks ago... still took to long


17 posted on 04/22/2012 6:12:59 PM PDT by Nifster
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To: SmithL
She explained that she was running for office in June 2010 when she met Chikhani at a chemical-dependency program and began her relationship with him. She was dealing with chronic pain and wasn't an addict then, she said.

then what in the hell was she doing there then????

18 posted on 04/22/2012 6:13:28 PM PDT by Chode (American Hedonist - *DTOM* -ww- NO Pity for the LAZY)
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To: Clintonfatigued

Thanks for the heads-up.

Looks like the two Dem screw artists are giving it all they got to rehab Treasurer Bill’s long-range plans to run for his next office——since he’s prohibited from being Treasurer again.

Probably Nadia also has plans for another run at public office.....these people love sucking off the taxpayers.

Nadia knows she has to turn herself into a “victim” to manipulate the voters. Using their kid——Diego——as a rehab tool is really low-down.

The big problem is Nadia’s got an itch only Chikhani can scratch. Treasurer Bill better brace himself......soon as Chikhani beckons, Nadia’s off and running, and unzipping, as fast as she can.


19 posted on 04/22/2012 6:14:00 PM PDT by Liz
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To: SmithL

“Her eyes big and dark, her body thin and frail, she said she’s been sober for 77 days.”

Get back to me, after 770 days.

I have 6652 days, and 77 days is commendable, but the individual ought to be off the air, listening and learning, not spouting off to media, or anybody.


21 posted on 04/22/2012 6:30:39 PM PDT by truth_seeker
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To: jennychase; Nifster
CA: Embattled Alameda County Supervisor Nadia Lockyer resigns
22 posted on 04/22/2012 6:44:24 PM PDT by SmithL (If you reward certain behavior, don't be surprised when you see more of that behavior)
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To: SmithL

“Their son was born two months after they married” the baby was 7 months pre-mature?!?! WOW!


23 posted on 04/22/2012 7:20:48 PM PDT by isom35
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To: SmithL

Typical California Democrat politico.

In other words, out of their f*cking minds, and taking the state with them.


24 posted on 04/22/2012 7:33:42 PM PDT by MadMax, the Grinning Reaper
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To: AnotherUnixGeek

Thanks for the info.


25 posted on 04/22/2012 8:32:02 PM PDT by Mears (Alcohol. Tobacco. Firearms. What's not to like?)
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To: SmithL

“....I wasn’t just a bleeding heart, I was a bleeding deer unable to healthfully navigate through Steve’s forest of deceit and deception....”

Block that metaphor!

As to those who question why this is posted, please be aware these people are DEMOCRATS DEMOCRATS DEMOCRATS.

Goose/gander ‘nuff said.


26 posted on 04/22/2012 9:42:22 PM PDT by jocon307
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To: SmithL

Ohmigosh, I just read the whole article.

California must be gonna fall into the sea.

What a load of tripe, what a crock of sh*t.

I’m a victim, you’re a victim, we’re all victims!

Let us celebrate our victim-hood, our dysfunction, our addiction!

Talk about this won’t play in Peoria, this wouldn’t play in any state in the US, including Massachusetts and the formerly great state of NY.

These 2, 3, more? losers need to slink away into obscurity, you can’t even run your own pathetic lives, but you seek to rule ours?

And this is the press treatment you get?

This is like the SNL joke about Obama “do you want a pillow”?

Our nation really is DOOMED if this is acceptable.


27 posted on 04/22/2012 10:02:27 PM PDT by jocon307
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To: SmithL

Translation: it was all everyone else’s fault.


28 posted on 04/23/2012 2:10:09 AM PDT by nickcarraway
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To: Henry Hnyellar
Why was this nonsense posted here?

Because it's interesting to find someone who can lie about their past more than Obama.

29 posted on 04/23/2012 5:33:57 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post)
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To: Chode
then what in the hell was she doing there then????

As she explained, she needed 'counseling' to better understand the operation of the 'button' (morphine dispenser) on her 'chair'.

30 posted on 04/23/2012 5:41:16 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post)
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To: Liz
Using their kid——Diego——as a rehab tool is really low-down.

Why not? She already used the kid (got pregnant) as a means of trapping an older, financially secure man into marriage.

31 posted on 04/23/2012 5:44:36 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post)
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To: truth_seeker

“Her eyes big and dark, her body thin and frail, she said she’s been sober (and doing meth instead) for 77 days.”


32 posted on 04/23/2012 5:46:10 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post)
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To: isom35

“Their son was born two months after they married” the baby was 7 months pre-mature?!?! WOW!

Wonder how long he had ‘known’ her? Three months?


33 posted on 04/23/2012 5:50:44 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post)
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To: UCANSEE2

Yeah-—heh.

But Treasurer Bill better get a paternity test on Diego before he finances another office for his wife...it’s beginning to dawn on TB that he married a slut.


34 posted on 04/23/2012 6:33:45 AM PDT by Liz
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To: UCANSEE2; Liz; Clintonfatigued
Using their kid——Diego——as a rehab tool is really low-down.
That would be the same kid that she took to the motel to meet her boyfriend the night she got all those injuries.
35 posted on 04/23/2012 8:26:15 AM PDT by SmithL (If you reward certain behavior, don't be surprised when you see more of that behavior)
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If drugs were illegal, this never would have happened.
36 posted on 04/23/2012 9:07:26 AM PDT by JustSayNoToNannies (A free society's default policy: it's none of government's business.)
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To: SmithL; Clintonfatigued; AuntB; Tennessee Nana

The hyphenated Nadia emerged——she’s a lying, addicted slut with an itchy crotch-—who loves getting beat up and having Treasurer Bill’s son, Diego, watch.....

Just like they do in the Third World.

Notice how they’re nervously underplaying the son ‘s latino name—in an effort to hide Nadia’s hyphenated origins.

I want to see her papers (/snix).


37 posted on 04/23/2012 1:44:44 PM PDT by Liz
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To: UCANSEE2
and i have a bridge for sale too...
38 posted on 04/23/2012 2:47:19 PM PDT by Chode (American Hedonist - *DTOM* -ww- NO Pity for the LAZY)
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To: Liz
.it’s beginning to dawn on TB that he married a slut.

I thought that's why he married a girl young enough to be his granddaughter who was several months pregnant.

39 posted on 04/25/2012 7:44:18 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post)
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To: Liz

P.S.

And on drugs.


40 posted on 04/25/2012 7:45:09 AM PDT by UCANSEE2 (Lame and ill-informed post)
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