I never knew I was homophobic until my son told me he was gay.
Now, I don’t think I was judgmental, other than stating my belief that I thought it was immoral and wrong. The I stated facts on how gay men seem to die sooner than non-gay men.
I’ve got a label I have to live with. I don’t care about my label. I’m concerned with a lifestyle my son won’t live long with.
Hate the sin, love the sinner.
If your son is at some point interested in getting help, there are a lot of links/resources on this thread. Even if he isn’t at this point, there might be some useful information you might be interested in.
Not born this way: The facts, plus help available
Save California ^ | Various authors
I have never feared or hated homosexuals but I must say that I am pleased that all of my children are heterosexual and I have taught them to neither fear nor hate homosexuals but to pray for them.
I cannot imagine not loving one of them if he or she were homosexual. I have striven to make my love for my children unconditional. I have hated some of the decisions they have made from time to time but there has never been a time when I didn't love them.
This is very hard- no one is judging. My husband’s brother who he is very close to has a gay son - no one in the family will talk about it. They present themselves as the Perfect family. I actually feel sorry for my mother in law to have to keep up with her Perfect! presentations to the outside world.
Very difficult dynamics.