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Time magazine cover -- forget the breast, what about the boy?
FoxNews.com ^ | 5-11-2012 | Dr. Keith Ablow

Posted on 05/11/2012 11:54:39 AM PDT by servo1969

Jamie Lynn Grumet, the 26-year-old mother featured on the cover of Time magazine breastfeeding her 3-year-old son, has done more this week than become the poster woman for “attachment parenting,” the sometimes laudable movement that advises parents to be physically and emotionally available and responsive to their children. She has shown the limits of such a concept, and the ways in which it can be twisted into a bizarre, contemptible caricature of itself.

Grumet is a model, and models have to have at least healthy dose of narcissism (television journalists like me, too, by the way). But I fear Grumet has more than what’s healthy.

Because she thought nothing of becoming far more famous than she ever was or ever would have been by getting naked on the cover of Time using her son as a prop—letting him, in fact, look right into the camera and be completely recognizable while sucking her nipple. He may never be better-known for anything than for being a breastfeeding 3-year-old on the cover of a national magazine.

Ever.

When he enters school later in his young life he may be ridiculed for it. And these realities hint at a woman who could (and I have not evaluated her) have very poor boundaries and be willing or likely not only to nurture a child, but to absorb him, deny him his personhood and render him no more than her appendage.

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In short, it is not at all clear who is the “parent” in the Time magazine photograph. Is Grumet responding to real and healthy needs emanating from her son’s psyche, or is he responding to her potentially outsized needs to be the center of attention and the object of desire (if only for warmth). Who, we can legitimately ask, is feeding whom?

See, Grumet loves being photographed. And she apparently loves having her son breastfeed. And she loves attention. And she’s happy enough to get naked in front of other people (which there may be nothing wrong with—for her). But that may or may not be the case for her 3-year-old boy, which seems not to have mattered to her—at all. And if his will was bent to hers in order to have him suck his mother’s nipple in front of a photographer and makeup artist and art director and all of America, then it stands to reason that his will may be being bent to hers in all sorts of ways—including protracted breastfeeding.

The truth is that what Time magazine may have unwittingly captured and been party to was a grotesque form of psychological abuse—the parading into public of an intimate moment (intimate for mother and child) at the sole direction of that child’s mother, who didn’t stop to think that her child may not be able at the age of three to know what he thinks about the whole thing, much less to stop it, if he wanted to.

Grumet has stained the attachment parenting movement by documenting how easily it can go wrong, when used as an excuse for poor boundaries and manipulation.

In a way, while looking at the Time magazine cover, we are all Grumet’s son and may know something of his possible plight: finding her a compelling and dramatic presence, seduced by her combination of sex appeal and motherhood—unable, in fact, to detach from her.

Talk about a prescription for psychological disaster.

This is self-centeredness at its worst, sold as good parenting. And this is an act of media violence against a child, committed by adult journalists who also commandeered his will (as did his mother), for sensation and profit. Rarely do we get such evidence of how wrong parenting can go, how poorly journalists can behave and how slow we can be to recognize ugliness when it is disguised as something beautiful.

Dr. Keith Ablow is a psychiatrist and member of the Fox News Medical A-Team. Dr. Ablow can be reached at info@keithablow.com.

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I think maybe you could breastfeed a little extra, say to 18 months or so, if your child has a weakened immune system like in a preemie. But basically if your kid has teeth and can walk it's time to lose the nipple.

Seems like some kind of protracted infancy to me.

And appearently (info from an interview I read) her mom breastfed her till she was six so nutty-ness runs in the family.

1 posted on 05/11/2012 11:54:46 AM PDT by servo1969
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To: servo1969

I dunno. When I saw the cover, I asked the same question that I know is on everyone’s mind.

It has to do with Laz.


2 posted on 05/11/2012 11:56:53 AM PDT by cuban leaf (Were doomed! Details at eleven.)
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To: servo1969

Attachment parenting seems to be another way to limit family size...


3 posted on 05/11/2012 11:57:19 AM PDT by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter knows whom he's working for)
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To: servo1969

In all seriousness, the first thing I thought of when I saw that picture was, “That kid is going to have to live with that the rest of his life.”

I think a lot of us did.


4 posted on 05/11/2012 11:57:52 AM PDT by cuban leaf (Were doomed! Details at eleven.)
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To: servo1969
The San people nurse until the kids are 5. They are directly descended from our most common African ancestors and until recent times were migratory hunter/gatherers.

Breasts work as long as you make them work!

5 posted on 05/11/2012 11:58:10 AM PDT by muawiyah
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To: servo1969

You just know that kid will have the cover plasted on his locker and never live it down. That’s one sick, sick, sick mama.


6 posted on 05/11/2012 12:00:01 PM PDT by bgill
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To: servo1969
. . . he may be ridiculed . . .

He MAY be ridiculed? This poor kid will never live this down for the rest of his life.

Imagine this kid's life on the playground. What in the hell was his mother thinking? He’ll always be known as “the kid with the tit in the mouth.” For decades, people will wonder “where is he now” and give him unwanted attention.

This woman must be a sick bastardess to do this to her kid. And where in the hell was the little guy’s father to stop this insanity? I understand that he wouldn't even come out on a talk show this sickee was on this morning. And that the kid was acting like a brat.

She absolutely should be ashamed of herself!

7 posted on 05/11/2012 12:00:06 PM PDT by laweeks
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To: cuban leaf

They should have used me instead of the kid.


8 posted on 05/11/2012 12:00:45 PM PDT by Fido969
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To: MrB

No, it’s a way to build your own self-esteem through the child.

When I was young and raising my first child, we lived in a resort town with a beach. One day a few women with preschool age kids went to the beach and let the kids run around and play while we socialized . The one woman was president of the local La Leche League. About every 20 minutes her kid, who was between 2 and 3 would run up to her, pull down her bathing suit and stand there sucking away.

I never went to the beach with the woman again.


9 posted on 05/11/2012 12:01:37 PM PDT by Eva
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To: muawiyah

what happens when this kid asks his friends over for lunch LOL


10 posted on 05/11/2012 12:01:37 PM PDT by molson209
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To: servo1969
Most of the population of the planet Earth live in third-world countries, and most third-world families sleep in one room on one bed. They don't earn or use much money, so they don't have formula to feed their babies, so they nurse long past the point where inhabitants of the first-world are offended.

You have to ask yourself who the real weirdos are.

11 posted on 05/11/2012 12:01:37 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum (Do I really need a sarcasm tag? Seriously? You're that dense?)
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To: servo1969

I personally feel the whole thing is rather perverted.


12 posted on 05/11/2012 12:03:51 PM PDT by stars & stripes forever (Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord!)
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To: servo1969

It is the public nature not breast feeding till three. It is only uncommon in western cultures that it has become an issue.


13 posted on 05/11/2012 12:03:58 PM PDT by svcw (If one living cell on another planet is life, why isn't it life in the womb?)
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To: E. Pluribus Unum
You have to ask yourself who the real weirdos are.

We may be the weirdos, but then again, we don't live in a third-world country.......yet.

14 posted on 05/11/2012 12:05:34 PM PDT by dfwgator (Don't wake up in a roadside ditch. Get rid of Romney.)
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To: muawiyah

“Breasts work as long as you make them work!”

Yeah? Just try to get them to mow the yard.


15 posted on 05/11/2012 12:06:56 PM PDT by Jack Burton007 (This is Jack Burton in the Pork Chop Express, and I'm talkin' to whoever's listenin' out there.)
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To: dfwgator
Point is, that's the way all humans lived up until the last hundred years or so.
16 posted on 05/11/2012 12:07:56 PM PDT by E. Pluribus Unum (Do I really need a sarcasm tag? Seriously? You're that dense?)
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To: E. Pluribus Unum

So, in the 3rd-world context, breast feeding to the age of 5 makes sense. In the context of the rest of the world, though, it doesn’t. Breasts are sex objects. You favor public breast-feeding? Breastfeeding at work? I am asking myself who’s the weirdo.


17 posted on 05/11/2012 12:09:18 PM PDT by Clara Lou
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To: servo1969

The general rule is... if the kid can ask for it... it’s time to stop breastfeeding.


18 posted on 05/11/2012 12:09:18 PM PDT by TexasFreeper2009 (The Tea Party isn't dead... we're just waiting)
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To: servo1969

The first thought that occurred to me is that she is doing this more as a form of weight-loss for her modeling career than for the boy’s well-being.


19 posted on 05/11/2012 12:12:00 PM PDT by Gman (Anglican Priest)
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To: servo1969

20 posted on 05/11/2012 12:12:03 PM PDT by Lucky9teen (Peace is that brief glorious moment in history when everybody stands around reloading.~Thomas Jeffer)
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To: servo1969

Yeah, I wouldn’t mind having some of that for lunch, but I don’t really care how long she breast feeds junior. Just don’t do it on a magazine cover.

I’ll bet her husband is really proud of her and his kid.


22 posted on 05/11/2012 12:12:31 PM PDT by laweeks
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To: Jack Burton007

My breasts wouldn’t mow the lawn but standing without a shirt in the yard they’d work having someone else to mow the lawn.


23 posted on 05/11/2012 12:12:31 PM PDT by svcw (If one living cell on another planet is life, why isn't it life in the womb?)
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To: laweeks

Yeh but I bet he’ll have a Lambourghini before any of us. Even a 3 year old can be a prostitute....thanks to his mom.


24 posted on 05/11/2012 12:13:25 PM PDT by Sacajaweau
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To: Jack Burton007

Look, some things are difficult and highly resistant to change ~ like providing homosexual couples with a right to a vaginal delivery ~ you grab one of those ol’boys and lay out the problem to him he’ll blanch white as a sheet!


25 posted on 05/11/2012 12:14:07 PM PDT by muawiyah
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To: E. Pluribus Unum

First off, you sicko, I never said that was their “only purpose.” But ASSume away, like the Trayvon crowd.

Just FYI, dummmy, I had 4 children, all of them nursed.


26 posted on 05/11/2012 12:15:18 PM PDT by Clara Lou
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To: Clara Lou

Breasts are for feeding the young, you have assigned an extra use.


27 posted on 05/11/2012 12:15:18 PM PDT by svcw (If one living cell on another planet is life, why isn't it life in the womb?)
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To: servo1969
Seems like some kind of protracted infancy to me.

Article states he's 3 years old.

Looks to me like 3 going on 5 or 6.

28 posted on 05/11/2012 12:16:52 PM PDT by Real Cynic No More (OBAMA!!'s name is all caps as sarcasm to indicate a lack of respect, as he does not deserve it)
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To: servo1969

Looks like a case of incest with a minor to me.


29 posted on 05/11/2012 12:17:17 PM PDT by Evil Slayer (Onward, Christian soldiers, marching as to war....)
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To: svcw

1) See post #26.
2) Are you saying that that “use” is not one intended by God?


30 posted on 05/11/2012 12:18:05 PM PDT by Clara Lou
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To: servo1969

Does the boy have a role model to aspire to?


31 posted on 05/11/2012 12:18:39 PM PDT by ctdonath2 (Cloud storage? Dropbox rocks! Sign up at http://db.tt/nQqWGd3 for 2GB free (and I get more too).)
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To: Clara Lou
hmm ~ sex objects ~ lots of things are sex objects if you look at them that way. There was once a "Hello Kitty' vibrator.

Lasted about 2 minutes into the first phone call to the company headquarters.

Breasts provide lactic fluids to young'ns. Simultaneously they are made up of some degree of erectile tissue ~ and are tied into the nervous system with a special link that does all sorts of things.

However, the purpose is the purpose. The rest of that stuff keeps you in her tree and not somebody else's tree!

Remember, in nature all genes have multiple purposes. Else you'd be a sea slug.

32 posted on 05/11/2012 12:19:40 PM PDT by muawiyah
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To: servo1969
The term attention whore comes to mind.
33 posted on 05/11/2012 12:21:04 PM PDT by Menehune56 ("Let them hate so long as they fear" Oderint Dum Metuant), Lucius Accius, (170 BC - 86 BC))
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To: TexasFreeper2009

I have no problem what so ever with breastfeeding... I have no problem even with breastfeeding in public (although I would encourage women to use a cloth of small towel to cover themselves while they feed their child.

BUT

I have a HUGE problem with what THIS WOMAN did! This is out and out child abuse! and someone (either this woman or the editors of TIME) needs to be put in jail for this! I find it OUTRAGOUS, and is sexual exploitation of a child, distribution of child pornography and is no different than if TIME had a picture of that poor kid sucking on his dad’s wee wee.

CPS should get involved on this.


34 posted on 05/11/2012 12:23:08 PM PDT by TexasFreeper2009 (The Tea Party isn't dead... we're just waiting)
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To: servo1969

Waiting for some lefty wing nut to criticize the militaristic woodland camouflage pants on the kid.


35 posted on 05/11/2012 12:23:08 PM PDT by Jumpmaster (Defund the Left!)
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To: TexasFreeper2009

NAILED IT !

36 posted on 05/11/2012 12:26:13 PM PDT by Evil Slayer (Onward, Christian soldiers, marching as to war....)
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To: cuban leaf

When I saw the cover, I thought this kid had better grow up to be a cage fighter or live out the song, “Boy named Sue”.

What the hell were these people thinking?


37 posted on 05/11/2012 12:29:23 PM PDT by Texas resident (November 6 - Vote Against obama)
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To: Texas resident

I think the kid’s pretty lucky actually..... /snark


38 posted on 05/11/2012 12:30:26 PM PDT by bicyclerepair ( REPLACE D-W-S ! http://www.karenforcongress.com)
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To: TexasFreeper2009

If you think this was weird you should see what goes for normal in scandinavia.


39 posted on 05/11/2012 12:31:26 PM PDT by central_va ( I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: bicyclerepair
I think the kid’s pretty lucky actually..... /snark

I would make the supreme sacrifice and volunteer to take his place.

40 posted on 05/11/2012 12:32:59 PM PDT by central_va ( I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.)
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To: muawiyah

Don’t San people have teeth?

Teeth are God’s and nature’s clue that kid is ready to wean.

We ignore God and nature’s messages at our peril.


41 posted on 05/11/2012 12:38:34 PM PDT by amihow
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To: muawiyah

Don’t San people have teeth?

Teeth are God’s and nature’s message that the kid is ready to wean.

We ignore God and nature at our peril. Always. As my mother said a thousand times, you can’t flim flam Mother Nature.


42 posted on 05/11/2012 12:44:27 PM PDT by amihow
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To: svcw

I just hand my son $10.00 to mow the yard and I keep my moobs under my shirt.

Post a picture of your “yard mowing inspirations” so we can all see their magic. LOL


43 posted on 05/11/2012 12:45:21 PM PDT by Jack Burton007 (This is Jack Burton in the Pork Chop Express, and I'm talkin' to whoever's listenin' out there.)
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To: TexasFreeper2009
I agree with every thing you said. And I decided I will no longer ever buy a copy of Time magazine again.

My contempt for Time and the cover creatures scares me,I seldom react to things I dislike so vehemently but I thought it almost pornographic if not actually pornographic.

And I hope Time loses so much business that they are out of it in a month or two.

44 posted on 05/11/2012 12:45:24 PM PDT by saradippity
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To: ctdonath2
"Does the boy have a role model to aspire to?"


45 posted on 05/11/2012 12:46:41 PM PDT by SnuffaBolshevik (In a tornado, even turkeys can fly.)
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To: central_va; bicyclerepair
I would make the supreme sacrifice and volunteer to take his place.

Those skinny jeans do it for me. Oh Lawd....That woman is hot.

46 posted on 05/11/2012 12:48:18 PM PDT by trailhkr1 (All you need to know about Zimmerman, innocent = riots, manslaughter = riots, guilty = riots)
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To: Jack Burton007

The world is just not ready yet!


47 posted on 05/11/2012 12:48:34 PM PDT by svcw (If one living cell on another planet is life, why isn't it life in the womb?)
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To: central_va
I would make the supreme sacrifice and volunteer to take his place.

What do breasts and toy trains have in common?

48 posted on 05/11/2012 12:50:23 PM PDT by dfwgator (Don't wake up in a roadside ditch. Get rid of Romney.)
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To: svcw

Chicken. LOL


49 posted on 05/11/2012 12:56:55 PM PDT by Jack Burton007 (This is Jack Burton in the Pork Chop Express, and I'm talkin' to whoever's listenin' out there.)
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To: dfwgator

Everybody wants to play with them?


50 posted on 05/11/2012 12:57:15 PM PDT by vladimir998
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