Skip to comments.Is Facebook Making Us Lonely?
Posted on 05/16/2012 8:59:54 AM PDT by Brandonmark
Yvette Vickers, a former Playboy playmate and B-movie star, best known for her role in Attack of the 50 Foot Woman, would have been 83 last August, but nobody knows exactly how old she was when she died. According to the Los Angeles coroners report, she lay dead for the better part of a year before a neighbor and fellow actress, a woman named Susan Savage, noticed cobwebs and yellowing letters in her mailbox, reached through a broken window to unlock the door, and pushed her way through the piles of junk mail and mounds of clothing that barricaded the house. Upstairs, she found Vickerss body, mummified, near a heater that was still running. Her computer was on too, its glow permeating the empty space.
The Los Angeles Times posted a story headlined Mummified Body of Former Playboy Playmate Yvette Vickers Found in Her Benedict Canyon Home, which quickly went viral. Within two weeks, by Technoratis count, Vickerss lonesome death was already the subject of 16,057 Facebook posts and 881 tweets. She had long been a horror-movie icon, a symbol of Hollywoods capacity to exploit our most basic fears in the silliest ways; now she was an icon of a new and different kind of horror: our growing fear of loneliness. Certainly she received much more attention in death than she did in the final years of her life. With no children, no religious group, and no immediate social circle of any kind, she had begun, as an elderly woman, to look elsewhere for companionship. Savage later told Los Angeles magazine that she had searched Vickerss phone bills for clues about the life that led to such an end. In the months before her grotesque death, Vickers had made calls not to friends or family but to distant fans who...
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So uhhh.. who paid her utility bills for that year?
Seriously. I am 15 minutes late with a payment and they are threatening to turn it service off.
Probably set up automatic payments from her bank account.
Folks managed to be lonely for years without facebook. Life is what you make of it, facebook or no facebook.
When they tell you you’ll be more “connected”, expect that you’ll be more disconnected.
When they tell you they want to “empower” you, expect them to accumulate more power over you.
“Seriously. I am 15 minutes late with a payment and they are threatening to turn it service off.”
Ohhh you have my Electric Provider...
If I am not up at 6 am writing the check the day it’s due they are calling me to find out if I am okay...
Agree, but I do find it amazing that someone can have 1,,813 “friends”.
I don’t Facebook and I don’t tweet. Waste of time.
***I do find it amazing that someone can have 1,,813 friends”.***
Embarrassing to get those chain emails that advise you to ‘send to six or more friends’ to ensure good luck and good health’. I struggle to find 2!!!
My kids and other family members have ordered me not to put them on any lists. LOL!!!
The best way to connect with other human beings (besides FR) is to enjoy small talk with store clerks and other people who share our space - even if it’s just for a moment. Surprisingly, young people seem to enjoy a laugh or a funny story -it’s ‘like’ a whole new experience for them.
Who misses smiling faces? We all do!!
Interesting how the Mass Media portray average Americans as ignorant, helpless and directionless.
I don’t know about ronery, but it’s making “us” phony, inexplicably cocky and self-absorbed.
No. Through FB I’ve met cousins I never knew existed and have made great real-life friends, made business contacts, and have gotten invitations to events I would never have otherwise heard of. Facebook has helped me network with coreligionists and fellow conservatives to work for common goals. It’s helped me stay in closer touch with my daughter, who now lives and works some distance away, and see what her friends and coworkers are really like. It’s also let me stay in touch with my own former colleagues after we were all laid off; we would definitely have lost touch after we left the company. So it’s been great and has certainly made our family less lonely or isolated.
Isolation is chosen. You always have the option to reach out to others.
I facebook. My wife and I have a joint account and use it primarily to post pics of the kids and grandkids for out-of-state relatives to see.
I agree with the article, however, and know a few people who are so lonely in their real lives, they spend all day on facebook just ‘fishing’ for comments so they’ll have someone bite and show interest in their miserable lives.
Status updates like, “Wow...that was interesting...”, or “Hmmm...I wonder what that means”, or some other hypothetical question which is only meant to elicit a response to engage a conversation - are incredibly obvious indicators of a lonely life.
I think our sense of community started falling apart long before Facebook.
I so agree. I was forced to move to GA, and without the internet, and eventually Facebook, I would have been so much more isolated. I am a member of a group of conservative ladies on FB who share my hobby, and we are incredibly close, even though most of us have never met in person. Last week I went out with a couple friends from high school which wouldn’t have happened without Facebook. I also keep track of my cousins, and know far more about their lives than I ever have.
So, if it wasn’t for Facebook, those people would have a thriving social life? I doubt it.
I use fcebook to see if the women I am interested in are involved before I waste my time.
It seems people post articles either into a black hole or AT one another. Responses are of course so constrained by the character limit, that the service's structure works against real engagement.
I understand their reasons for the design, but ultimately it doesn't foster either valuable interpersonal relationships or meaningful discussion. So what's the point? As a news medium it's good, but calling it social media is an exaggeration. I think it could be improved, however, but I'm unaware of serious changes that have ever been implemented there. So, Twitter largely blows, if you will.
I agree with you on this, sodpoodle.
I am “disabled” and sometimes when I'm waiting on doctor/dental appointments, I chat with others. You can tell right away if they are willing to chat or just want to be left alone.
Since I have down times, I spend time in bed with Internet and Free Republic.
Just going to doctor appointments is very draining physically which puts me back in bed again.
At least, I have Free Republic and a few other sites here and there.
I do feel lonely at times, but Free Republic almost always gives me the cure for loneliness!
I better get on the Facebook wagon. Sounds like I'm missing out not being connected with close family and friends!
Neither do I. If I choose to connect with my family and friends I pick up the phone and we plan a get-together. That simple.
If this cannot be arranged for work schedules then we chat on the phone and catch up until we can meet.
I want to see a face or hear a voice from my frineds and family. It does make a difference.
“I think our sense of community started falling apart long before Facebook”.
I have always wondered if people weren’t distanced before Facebook and that made FB more attractive to some. For example, my parents grew up in a town filled with relatives.. Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, second Cousins... etc. People today may be more distanced from relatives geographically. People may also have less time to simply get to know neighbors and socialize with them. Facebook promised a way of “friending” hundreds if not thousands of people. Sort of sad.
“I dont Facebook and I dont tweet. Waste of time”
In case you didn’t get the memo, Free Republic is “social media”, like it or not.
Just more perceived anonymity here, so you get the “I shot and killed my neighbor’s pets, buried them, and my neighbors never knew what happened to them, HAHAHA!” posts, like yours, and the inevitable cringeworthy sado-homo prison anal rape/torture/murder fantasy posts to be meted out as “justice” that one frequently sees here on crime threads.
You won’t see a lot of posts like those of FB or Twitter.
It’s all just information, useful or not. How one uses these outlets to disseminate or gather information is their business.
Pat Bertram’s take on these article sums it up well http://ptbertram.wordpress.com/2012/05/04/facebook-makes-us-fill-in-the-blank/
I agree on Facebook, disagree on Twitter. Hash tags make information on any important topic readily available to everyone. People often think Twitter is like Facebook, with mundane status updates, but it is far more powerful from a spontaneous information and action standpoint.
I cancelled my Facebook account Saturday after hearing the co-founder moved to Singapore to avoid US taxes. That and the fact employers are now asking for your ID and password.
My children are not happy because now they must send photos to me and call when there is a family event rather than relying on FB posts
Now that we're there, makes you wonder what the next future will bring.
Let’s be clear about one thing in particular - I take no particular pleasure (although there is some satisfaction in it) in having to put down an undisciplined animal whose owner couldn’t be bothered to restrain in a responsible manner. When it comes to a choice between my horses and an animal who has, despite two warnings to its owner repeatedly run them in their turnout, there is only one answer. Idaho law explicitly supports it. Note that although we share the area with coyotes we have yet to shoot one because they don’t bother our livestock.
I therefore have no qualms whatsoever about taking such action. Same deal with feral cats we can’t catch and other critters hazardous to our own.
As for anonymity, you may have noticed that I publish my essays under my own name for all to see. I retain my screen name for the sake of convenience only, as it is a recognizable handle.
In conclusion, take your snarky response and stuff it. You clearly have no understanding of life in the country and the circumstances and responsibilities that accompany it.
Yvette Vickers (August 26, 1928 2010 ?)
Sometimes, I'm not so sure I want to find out.