Will have to agree to disagree. I have served in a behind the lines/scenes role, freeing up men to be frontline warriors. Nor do I watch Oprah. Not a butch lesbian either.
Women serve well in auxiliary roles as long as we don’t pretend they are true soldiers. The problem is pretending (as the gov’t does) that it’s all the same thing - because it isn’t.
I first served in uniform from 1985-1995 in a combat arms branch. I resigned my commission and was not in the reserves. I volunteered for active duty after 9/11 and served for 4 more years as a JAG in and deployed to Afghanistan with an air cav unit.
My point is that I have seen the integration of women nonsense from the early stages and more recently and have seen it from various perspectives (combat arms leader and in an auxiliary role) and as a JAG I had a front row seat to see what caused problems for morale and discipline.
Women in the military is a failed and very expensive experiment.