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Is Dad the New Mom? The Rise of Stay-At-Home Fathers
ABC News via news.yahoo.com ^ | Mon Jun 18, 2012 | SHARYN ALFONSI and CLAIRE PEDERSEN

Posted on 06/19/2012 1:54:32 PM PDT by posterchild

While Erica Howard-Potter manages her job as a high-powered tax attorney, her husband Jake Howard-Potter manages the house, the chores and the couple's very active 2-year-old daughter, Skyler.

Jake, who is a sculptor by trade, is the epitome of the so-called "trophy dad." The 37-year-old stays at home and stays fit, completing triathlons one day and expertly negotiating naptime and tea parties the next. And he is not alone.

"I had a dad say to me 'that skirt is really cute' and I thought who would have imagined that two dads would be sitting at swim class saying that a skirt is cute," he said.

According to the most recent Census, the number of stay-at-home fathers in the United States has tripled in the past 10 years up to 154,000. Yet, these at-home dads are still the exception to the traditional household and many treading in unchartered parenting waters.

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Dad the New Mom

Yes of course - because in order to help take care of one's own children one must grow breasts and lose a Y chromosome /s
1 posted on 06/19/2012 1:54:34 PM PDT by posterchild
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To: posterchild

I love the media. So on top of 10-20 year old trends.


2 posted on 06/19/2012 1:56:12 PM PDT by dmz
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To: posterchild

>>Yes of course - because in order to help take care of one’s own children one must grow breasts and lose a Y chromosome /s <<

Thank you!
It’s like when fathers say that they are “babysitting” the kids. No Dude, you’re parenting.

These poor guys have been so marginalized, they forget who they are. Dads are so important! For boys, to show them what they should be. For girls, to show them who they should pick as a Father for their own children.


3 posted on 06/19/2012 1:58:14 PM PDT by netmilsmom (Romney scares me. Obama is the freaking nightmare that is so bad you are afraid to go back to sleep)
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To: posterchild

“Is Dad the New Mom?”

No, he’s just been unemployed for three years. But, yeah, ABC, spin it to make it sound like more dads are staying home voluntarily.


4 posted on 06/19/2012 1:58:25 PM PDT by MeganC (No way in Hell am I voting for Mitt Romney. Not now, not ever. Deal with it.)
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To: posterchild

Insanity.


5 posted on 06/19/2012 1:59:42 PM PDT by BenLurkin (This is not a statement of fact. It is either opinion or satire; or both)
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To: posterchild

Research indicates that children reared by only their father do much better in life than those reared by only their mother, suggesting that perhaps “Mom” should be “the new Dad,” although that’s impossible, of course.

I would like to be independently wealthy so that my husband and I could both be full-time parents and community benefactors. Wage-slavery is a drag.


6 posted on 06/19/2012 2:00:50 PM PDT by Tax-chick (Spinach at every meal.)
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To: netmilsmom

You said that so well. My husband and I are helping to raise our nine year old grandson who has been abandoned by his father. Since he was three, he has spoken to his father twice by phone, and seen him once. Fathers are so important to their children...He has missed so much watching this precious little boy grow up. No one can take the place of a father. No matter how hard we try.


7 posted on 06/19/2012 2:00:57 PM PDT by DallasSun (Courage~Fear that has said its prayers.)
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To: posterchild
"According to the most recent Census, the number of stay-at-home fathers in the United States has tripled in the past 10 years up to 154,000."

In a country of 300 million that number is pretty insignificant. I much prefer writers who have something to say.

8 posted on 06/19/2012 2:01:16 PM PDT by circlecity
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To: null and void

Just putting in a new tagline


9 posted on 06/19/2012 2:02:29 PM PDT by Shimmer1 (There is no god but the Moon God, and a child molester is his Prophet!)
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To: posterchild

Puke


10 posted on 06/19/2012 2:03:43 PM PDT by ecomcon
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To: circlecity

Oh c’mon circlecity. I bet SHARYN and CLAIRE are just so proud of themselves for this article! They must be all atingle, as they sip their latte’s, flush with such rich sensations of diversity and relevance.

(Their IQ’s, meanwhile, are probably barely out of the single digits. They’d be better off on crack than on their tired brand of hackneyed liberalism.)


11 posted on 06/19/2012 2:06:29 PM PDT by samtheman (If we want Obamugabe out, we must vote him out.)
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To: ecomcon

I saw a ‘Tide’ commercial the other day with a guy talking about the product and doing the laundry. Then a little girl came in and asked...”Daddy, will you braid my hair.” To which he replied something like...”Fishbone or French?” I thought it was a joke, but it was dead serious. Seems like they’re trying to aim their marketing at ‘two daddies’ crap.


13 posted on 06/19/2012 2:08:03 PM PDT by RushIsMyTeddyBear (Wings cannot be redistributed, they can only be broken. ~ Oleg Atbashian (People's Cube))
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To: posterchild
According to the most recent Census, the number of stay-at-home fathers in the United States has tripled in the past 10 years up to 154,000. Yet, these at-home dads are still the exception to the traditional household and many treading in unchartered parenting waters.

Blah blah blah blah...

The fact is, the vast majority of stay home parents are women. The media would love our society to turn into a fully maternal one in the workplace.

It's not happening. Dream on Lefties...

14 posted on 06/19/2012 2:08:39 PM PDT by DoughtyOne (Republicanism: Y1 Rant Y2 Rant Y3 Rant Y4, Oh nevermind, vote for him anyway. Rinse & Repeat!)
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To: BenLurkin
Insanity

I know one of these couples. They are childless. The wife is a high power attorney. The husband renovates the house (mostly hands-on), tends a garden, drives the wife on her once or twice a week 200 mile commute and stays with her if she has to travel. Works out great for both of them and her employer.

15 posted on 06/19/2012 2:08:44 PM PDT by palmer (Jim, please bill me 50 cents for this completely useless post)
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To: MeganC

I did it for a year when Main Frames computers joined the Do Do Bird. Believe me. No one respects Mr. Mom. Especially Mom.


16 posted on 06/19/2012 2:09:23 PM PDT by massgopguy (I owe everything to George Bailey)
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To: MeganC

I did it for a year when Main Frames computers joined the Do Do Bird. Believe me. No one respects Mr. Mom. Especially Mom.


17 posted on 06/19/2012 2:09:40 PM PDT by massgopguy (I owe everything to George Bailey)
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To: posterchild

“...her husband Jake Howard-Potter”

How does a man get a hyphenated name? Did he have 2 fathers? Natural and stepfather? Was he married to another man? Typo? Just asking...


18 posted on 06/19/2012 2:09:52 PM PDT by carriage_hill (All libs & most dems think that life is just a sponge bath, with a happy ending.)
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To: posterchild

Yes and they put their pants on backwards.


19 posted on 06/19/2012 2:13:25 PM PDT by AdamBomb
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To: Tzar

The studies are corrected for income.


20 posted on 06/19/2012 2:14:09 PM PDT by Tax-chick (Spinach at every meal.)
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To: DoughtyOne

The true goal of the left is the total destruction of the traditional family,
and this topic is but one of the cracks in that institution.

Flame suit on, but I’m going to tell a truth, and it will make some mad.

Though I recognize that for some this is a short term necessity, it should not be “normal”, nor should it be considered even acceptable, long term, that the man stays at home while the woman takes on the role of provider.


21 posted on 06/19/2012 2:15:20 PM PDT by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter knows whom he's working for)
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To: massgopguy

I’m not saying that it doesn’t happen, just noting that the timing of this article comes on the heels of bad unemployment news. Smells to me like ABC is trying to spin part of the unemployment figure for their fellow traveler in the White House.


22 posted on 06/19/2012 2:15:40 PM PDT by MeganC (No way in Hell am I voting for Mitt Romney. Not now, not ever. Deal with it.)
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To: carriage_hill

His biography....

http://steelstatue.com/biography/


23 posted on 06/19/2012 2:15:47 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: MeganC

Kind of like the “funemployed” articles in 2010...


24 posted on 06/19/2012 2:17:05 PM PDT by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter knows whom he's working for)
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To: massgopguy

I guess it’s verboten to say men are better suited to work outside the home and women are better suited to stay home and raise the children.

My career oriented wife figured that out about 5 minuted after our daughter was born.


25 posted on 06/19/2012 2:17:28 PM PDT by Tea Party Terrorist (they all stink)
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To: posterchild

BARF........


26 posted on 06/19/2012 2:17:50 PM PDT by SECURE AMERICA (Where can I sign up for the New American Revolution and the Crusades 2012?)
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To: RushIsMyTeddyBear

Actually, though I’m not good at it, I like to braid my daughters’ hair, and they like me doing it. It’s a bonding thing.


27 posted on 06/19/2012 2:18:46 PM PDT by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter knows whom he's working for)
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To: Tea Party Terrorist
I guess it’s verboten to say men are better suited to work outside the home and women are better suited to stay home and raise the children.

Only "verboten" where the left has the power to "verbot" it. The truth is an enemy to their ideological father.

28 posted on 06/19/2012 2:19:51 PM PDT by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter knows whom he's working for)
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To: Responsibility2nd
The Muse, galvanized and powder coated steel, 27' x 24' x 13', 2005

 

He makes large giant steel statues of nude forms.

 

Gallery.

29 posted on 06/19/2012 2:21:08 PM PDT by Responsibility2nd (NO LIBS. This Means Liberals and (L)libertarians! Same Thing. NO LIBS!!)
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To: MrB

You won’t get any guff from me.

I totally agree.

I will tell you though, I have seen women stay at home and turn the children against the father. Every once in a while you’ll get that gem that has no restraining bolt whatsoever.

Men could do that too though, so I’m not trying to make the case it could only be one-sided.


30 posted on 06/19/2012 2:22:51 PM PDT by DoughtyOne (Republicanism: Y1 Rant Y2 Rant Y3 Rant Y4, Oh nevermind, vote for him anyway. Rinse & Repeat!)
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To: MrB

Fishbone or French?


31 posted on 06/19/2012 2:25:51 PM PDT by null and void (Day 1246 of our ObamaVacation from reality - Obama is not a Big Brother [he's a Big Sissy...])
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To: netmilsmom

Couldn’t have said it better!


32 posted on 06/19/2012 2:27:04 PM PDT by Silentgypsy
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To: DallasSun

I thank the Creator for the fathers who take care of the children. There is no substitute for those who care. God bless the parents (biological or otherwise!)


33 posted on 06/19/2012 2:30:32 PM PDT by Silentgypsy
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To: Responsibility2nd

From his bio:

“Howard-Potter grew up in New York City...”

Sounds like a lib, who had 2 ‘homo daddys’, who gave him the hyphenated name. Nah. That bio isn’t giving any real background for me to make that reach.


34 posted on 06/19/2012 2:30:56 PM PDT by carriage_hill (All libs & most dems think that life is just a sponge bath, with a happy ending.)
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To: MeganC
ABC is trying to spin part of the unemployment figure for their fellow traveler in the White House.

You got that one right.

37 posted on 06/19/2012 2:34:55 PM PDT by Silentgypsy
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To: posterchild

I’m a stay at home father.

Although I’m divorced and my kids are grown and out of the house.

Life is good :-)


38 posted on 06/19/2012 2:36:24 PM PDT by VeniVidiVici (Congrats to Ted Kennedy! He's been sober for two years now!!)
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To: netmilsmom

I take care of my daughters part time and work part time building a business. I’m able to do so because I spent many years as a single guy making good money while living very modestly. Now that I am married I can work from home and also provide good parental care for my children. Nobody needs to give me an allowance and none of my appendages need to fall off.


39 posted on 06/19/2012 2:37:17 PM PDT by posterchild
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To: Responsibility2nd

I found another guy with hyphenated name: Ambrose Evans-Pritchard. I went back to his father’s bio - EE Evans-Pritchard - but no family background history on the two names.


40 posted on 06/19/2012 2:46:25 PM PDT by carriage_hill (All libs & most dems think that life is just a sponge bath, with a happy ending.)
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To: Silentgypsy

Absolutely. I could not agree more.


41 posted on 06/19/2012 2:55:32 PM PDT by DallasSun (Courage~Fear that has said its prayers.)
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To: Shimmer1

Also for a new tag line...


42 posted on 06/19/2012 3:03:55 PM PDT by MortMan (If it comes in a box, it's hardware.)
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To: posterchild

Oh this thread is going to be fun. I was a stay home dad, for 17 years, only going back to work when the youngest was 15.


43 posted on 06/19/2012 3:04:06 PM PDT by Melas (u)
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To: massgopguy
I did it for a year when Main Frames computers joined the Do Do Bird. Believe me. No one respects Mr. Mom. Especially Mom.

You stayed home with your children, and your wife didn't respect you? That's rather sad actually.

44 posted on 06/19/2012 3:05:58 PM PDT by Melas (u)
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To: MrB
Though I recognize that for some this is a short term necessity, it should not be “normal”, nor should it be considered even acceptable, long term, that the man stays at home while the woman takes on the role of provider.

That philosophy went out with the idea that women should marry up. That was back when a man would have been severely threatened if his wife earned earned as much as he earned, let alone multiples of his income. In my lifetime it's not been uncommon to see female doctors and lawyers marry non-professionals who honestly don't have the same earning potential. No one bats an eye these days.

I stayed home with my children, because it was an easy decision. Didn't believe in daycare, so we could live on X if I worked and she stayed home, or live on 5X if she worked and I stayed home.

45 posted on 06/19/2012 3:12:18 PM PDT by Melas (u)
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To: MrB

I knew a couple that did this - the husband’s career, teaching, would survive interruption better than the wife’s, a research field. And he was a bit burned out by teaching in an inner city school for troubled children.

He did a fantastic job as a father - warm, affectionate, playful, instilled good discipline, taught his children independence and a scientific frame of mind. And he was quite masculine.

When the children were all old enough for school he went back to teaching.


46 posted on 06/19/2012 3:19:14 PM PDT by heartwood
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To: Melas

I got layed off 15 years ago and decided to take a little time off while on unemployment. I made a little side money and helped take care of her mother and sister who moved in with us.

No, my wife did not respect me. Even though I held up my end of the load, her daily having to go to work grinded on her and she started making comments by month 2. I was off 6 months and heard about it for next 5 years whenever she would get mad.

Its the only 6 months I was out of work since I was 16 and I am now 50. So, yes, in the end, your wife will NOT respect you not working no matter what they say at first and mine was all for it when I started.


47 posted on 06/19/2012 3:19:45 PM PDT by packrat35 (Admit it! We are almost ready to be called a police state!)
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To: posterchild

I saw this report live on nightline. It never stated the reason why so many more men are at home with the kids. There are no jobs for the men. They where all mid thirties to forties with degrees and NO PROSPECTS for wpork while their wives are protected by the status of ‘minorities’ in the work place.

Sometimes you must read between the lines of a story or a news report!


48 posted on 06/19/2012 3:23:06 PM PDT by Jim from C-Town (The government is rarely benevolent, often malevolent and never benign!)
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To: packrat35
Its the only 6 months I was out of work since I was 16 and I am now 50. So, yes, in the end, your wife will NOT respect you not working no matter what they say at first and mine was all for it when I started.

I can't disagree strongly enough. I did stay home with children, for 17 years. I never felt like my wife didn't respect me. As a matter of fact we've been married for over 20 years, and we're still going strong.

49 posted on 06/19/2012 3:23:43 PM PDT by Melas (u)
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To: packrat35
I have been at home with the kids, four boys, including infant twins for over three years since O’Bumbler was emasculated. I have no doubt that my wife respects me. She tells me so often. She knows Darn well that I do a much better job with the kids than she would and she says so often and to everyone.

That being said, I would prefer that I was working, if for nothing else I made 75% more than she did, until I made nothing!

50 posted on 06/19/2012 3:34:15 PM PDT by Jim from C-Town (The government is rarely benevolent, often malevolent and never benign!)
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