FReeper Canteen ~ Sunday Chapel ~ THE FIRST STEP IN SOLVING INTERPERSONAL CONFLICTS ~ 24 June 2012

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[Kathy in Alaska]

 

 

 

 

THE FIRST STEP IN RESOLVING INTERPERSONAL CONFLICTS

CW Moore, in his book, The Mediation Process: Practical Strategies for Resolving Conflict defines conflict as "struggles between two or more people over values, or competition for status, power, or scarce resources." Experts in conflict management believe that conflict is inevitable in any organization or relationship. Many strategies have been developed to mediate and resolve organizational and interpersonal conflicts. What is usually missing in these mediation processes is a biblical understanding of the nature and causes of conflict. James 4:1-2 indicates that the causes of fights and quarrels among us come from our desires to win, to have our way, to get what we want, to control the outcome. Therefore, according to God's direction, the first step in resolving interpersonal conflicts requires a self-examination of our motives, desires, wants, positions, and interests. The Bible teaches us to look within, and discover our own faults, before trying to correct the faults of others. Matthew 7:3-5 illustrates this point, "And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."

Although conflict is unavoidable, it is not always negative. In fact there are some very positive outcomes that can be derived through conflict. The Chinese form the symbol for "conflict" by combining two terms: danger and opportunity. Conflict can be a destructive experience, or the opportunity to clarify confusion, roles and expectations. Conflict always provides an opportunity to glorify God, to serve God, and to grow in grace. Conflict gives us a chance to show God that we love, respect, honor, and trust Him. It also allows us to demonstrate to others God's principles of love, forgiveness, and humility. Philippians 2:3-4 advocates a spirit of collaboration in dealing with conflicts in interpersonal relationships. That is, to place the thoughts, ideas, and feelings of others on par with our own. As Stephen Covey suggests, "Seek first to understand and then to be understood."

Conflict mediation techniques and strategies are very useful and necessary. However, God would have us include some more significant ingredients to the resolution processes, the two "Great Commandments:" "To love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength ... and to love your neighbor as yourself" (Mark 12:29-31). Trust these two great commandments and they will take you where you need to go, imbue the right spirit within you, and direct you in the things you do.

CAPT Leroy Gilbert, CHC, USN

 

[ColdOne]

Hello from Idaho....how’s things?

Weather warm 81 today!

Neighbor gave me some puffball mushrooms a day or so ago....hmmmmm!

Hummingbirds and all other wild life going strong.

Fred is just fine and took out a rodent a few days ago. Now he thinks he is superdog!!!

GOD BLESS OUR TROOPS!

THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE PAST AND PRESENT!

[Kathy in Alaska]

Alas...it has been pouring ALL DAY AND NIGHT.

Oh no...does this mean Linda gets a blow dry and massage after being forced to get her hair wet?

[Kathy in Alaska]

A Blessed Lord’s Day to The Mayor family.

Hope your weekend has been restful so far. ((HUGS))

[left that other site]

We haven’t gone out yet for our final walk of the day....but I guess that is what’s in store for her.

[AZamericonnie]

LeAnn Rimes~Amazing Grace

[SandRat]

A: Give youself to God and trust in the Lord God.

[The Mayor]

Good weekend, my daughter and grand daughter flew in for the weekend. Been a year since we have seen them, so we are Blessed!

[Kathy in Alaska]

Good evening, Mac, and a Blessed Lord’s Day to you and yours.

Agreed with your sermon.

Did you have a terrific time at the parade last night? *HUGS*

Hope you got some rest today. Or did you have to work all day?

[ConorMacNessa]

Did not work today, Kathy - after staying up last night until after two, I ended up staying in bed the entire morning. I woke up with heavy nasal congestion and general weakness.

After medicating myself and eating breakfast, I took my son to stay over with a friend who lives about 30 miles away. After that took John Man to work and by the time I got back it was time to cook dinner. Mrs. MacNessa worked like a Trojan all day so I cooked dinner) Had a couple of nice stuffed salmon fillets. Then back to pick John Man from work and arrived home shortly before nine.

I was feeling somewhat better during the afternoon but have declined this evening. I actually did a fair amount of walking last night. We had to leave the bleachers at one point and get under cover due to a passing thunderstorm. Luckily, it was only a short delay.

The Silent Drill Platoon, Marine Band, Marine Drum and Bugle Corps, and the Battalion of Marine Barracks Washington all performed with consummate professionalism. Much to my delight, the Drum and Bugle Corps played "Scotland the Brave" followed by "The Minstrel Boy." I was most gratified.



Genuflectimus non ad principem sed ad Principem Pacis!

Listen, O isles, unto me; and hearken, ye people, from far; The LORD hath called me from the womb; from the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name. (Isaiah 49:1 KJV)

[Kathy in Alaska]

Welcome to the Canteen, jongaltsr....a Blessed Lord's Day to you and yours.

There are certain people who when presented with absolute irrefutable proof will doggedly cling to their false beliefs.

Something that will never change.

[Kathy in Alaska]

And hello to you, Idaho.....we are having the same weather. IT IS HOT!!! Way too hot.

Fred’s a good hunter! Good dog!

A Blessed Lord’s Day to you and yours.

[ConorMacNessa]

Kathy - take a look at post #181 on last night's thread.



Genuflectimus non ad principem sed ad Principem Pacis!

Listen, O isles, unto me; and hearken, ye people, from far; The LORD hath called me from the womb; from the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name. (Isaiah 49:1 KJV)

[ConorMacNessa]

Must retire - well past the Witching Hour here on the Right Coast. Little Mary is coming back from Kenya soon - July 18th. I made her flight reservations today. We can't wait until she gets back - I worry about her day and night while she's over there.

I'll see you n the morning - All the Best!



Genuflectimus non ad principem sed ad Principem Pacis!

Listen, O isles, unto me; and hearken, ye people, from far; The LORD hath called me from the womb; from the bowels of my mother hath he made mention of my name. (Isaiah 49:1 KJV)

[Kathy in Alaska]

Glad you were able to get SOME rest....sounds like you used it all up with a busy day.

Take good care!

[Kathy in Alaska]

Thanks, AZ, for LeAnn’s Amazing Grace.....a Blessed Lord’s Day to you and yours. *HUGS*

[Kathy in Alaska]

Prayers continue for Mary as she finishes up her project and makes her way home to her waiting and anxious family.

God Bless you good, Mac. Good night and rest well. Thanks for helping honor our troops, past and present. Thank you for your service to our country.

[Kathy in Alaska]

Thanks, Military Families, for your service to our country.

John Conlee ~ They Also Serve

[Kathy in Alaska]

To our Military -

Thank you for protecting us. Sleep well and safe.
May you be protected. May your families' hearts be at ease.

Thank you to our Allies.

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To those of our Military and Allies who gave their all,
- May your souls rest in peace. May your families be comforted.
May your/our country always remember.

[Kathy in Alaska]

The Lord's Prayer

[Kathy in Alaska]

A Blessed Lord's Day to you and your family.

The 23rd Psalm