Our sons will be old enough to join the Boy Scouts in a few years. And what bothers me about the prospect of gay leaders is not so much that my sons might be molested (though of course that concerns me deeply). What I see as a more immediate and hard to fight danger is simply holding someone with obvious homosexual tendencies up to boys as a “leader” and someone to emulate. Here in California, I see young men all the time who are not gay ... but who ACT like the biggest queers on the planet. They have picked up these queer mannerisms as being somehow cool, and I swear I meet young men all the time who lisp, posture and generally act like queens. Yet they are shacking up with young women, etc., so if they are indeed gay it’s only part-time. I am forced to conclude that a very gay-friendly culture, like we have here in CA, promotes the posturing that we see in the gay culture. I DO NOT want my boys picking that up as being “cool.”
I think you are very perceptive and your concerns legitimate. I had noticed the same thing with some college students I taught (straight guys who were acting gay, even though they had girlfriends - a liability of cultural osmosis.)