I’m sorry. I don’t buy the “traumatic upbringing” meme.
You can take siblings from the same family with the same trauma in their childhoods and not all react in the same way.
I think it has more to do with the sensitivity of the individual and how they percieve themselves. And of course..the “it’s all about me” syndrome.
Altered perception of risk, lack of coping skills.
In other news, water is wet.
Trauma may be emotional, subtle and not doled out equally. One child may be designated the *goat* and the other sibs may be inculcated into this division by being relatively favored and being taught that all familial problems are the fault of the goat.
Once the goat is effectively isolated, of course, the other siblings may realize where the true fault lies, especially as the abuser(s) will usually move on to the next designated victim. However, individual sensitivity may be a result, not just a pre-existing condition or cause.
Obsessive-compulsive behavior,risk-taking, addiction, bi-polar disease can all take several different forms. There are high-achieving people who have survived these dysfunctional families while still having *hidden* outcomes. Some have other people, from family members to other role models to eventual spouses who can help even the more damaged people cope, if not completely overcome. Others learn to love and value themselves, anyway. Many simply gut it out and no one outside the family ever really knows what happened. The “it’s all about me” syndrome can actually originate as a coping mechanism.
BTW, addiction is not just drug-related. Gambling, eating disorders, over-spending or consistently choosing destructive friends/partners can all be addictive behaviors. Exercise, sports, and a drive to achieve can be addictions usually regarded as beneficial, while being evidence of similar childhood trauma. Many victims will turn to music, theater or art, often in a compulsive manner.
The article is simplistic. Everything exists as a spectrum or continuum and many pathologies can co-exist in the same person to different degrees. Like many genetic sortings, some percentage of people in the same family may be more immune or capable of resisting the effects of childhood trauma.
I have just described my own extended birth family. The damage can be survived, but it never completely disappears. With age, one can gain some insight, especially if the parent(s) live long enough that they reveal themselves to the world by continuing their behavior outside the family. I believe there are genetic predispositions to all of these behaviors on all sides. They can often be tracked generationally. Also, within each generation, some people will be born who carry the original defect in the form of some congenital condition, such as sociopathy or schizophrenia. Some of the worst outcomes may be due to two differently damaged people having children together and passing on combinations of problems.
It is complicated.