Skip to comments.Urban Meyer will be home for dinner
Posted on 09/07/2012 1:02:56 PM PDT by cdga5for4
Before you join Urban Meyer, who is walking toward the exit of the Ohio State football office, there's a scar you need to see. A few years ago in Gainesville, his middle child, Gigi, planned a celebration to formally accept a college volleyball scholarship to Florida Gulf Coast University. It was football season, so she checked her dad's calendar, scheduling her big day around his job. As the hour approached, she waited at her high school, wanting much, expecting little. Some now-forgotten problem consumed Meyer, and he told his secretary he didn't have time. He wasn't going. His beautiful, athletic, earnest daughter would have to sign her letter of intent without him. Meyer's secretary, a mother of four, insisted: "You're going."
Eighty or so people filed into the school cafeteria. Urban and his wife, Shelley, joined their daughter at the front table, watching as Gigi stood and spoke. She'd been nervous all day, and with a room of eyes on her, she thanked her mother for being there season after season, year after year.
Then she turned to her father.
He'd missed almost everything. You weren't there, she told him.
Shelley Meyer winced. Her heart broke for Urban, who sat with a thin smile, crushed. Moments later, Gigi high-fived her dad without making eye contact, then hugged her coach. Urban dragged himself back to the car. Then -- and this arrives at the guts of his conflict -- Urban Meyer went back to work, pulled by some biological imperative. His daughter's words ran through his mind, troubling him, and yet he returned to the shifting pixels on his television, studying for a game he'd either win or lose.
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The book mentioned in the article, Lead...for God's Sake! by Todd Gongwer is excellent.
Urban Liar is a phoney, UF bent over backwards to accomodate him, and he left, leaving UF’s football program a mess.
Engage the family, or commit another NCAA violation? I wish I had the problem.
I’ve always thought it was grossly unfair to men to say:
1) you’re not a man unless you provide for your family
2) you’re not a man if you spend time away from your family in order to provide for them
Hopefully UCF will send Urbanator home to an early dinner on Saturday. Go Knights
I enjoyed Tebow’s book, and think Tebow is a fine fellow, but it was obvious he was at Florida to get a degree in football, not anything else.
The whole concept of top level college football being associated with “academics” is somewhat of a stretch.
The wifely variant of this is that she’s unhappy he doesn’t make enough money to support her in the manner to which she’d like to be accustomed, but then is equally unhappy with him if he works long hours to try to make the money.
Wow, that really hit home. Outstanding article, well worth the read. Thanks...
Despite demands of my career, I always put my family first. If I ever had to miss one of my sons’ games or performances, it tore me up. Same for my wife. And many times we had to split; one go to Aaron’s soccer game while the other went to James’ baseball game. I also coached baseball and basketball teams for them.
Maybe I’m lucky that God didn’t curse me with too many brains. Then I might have been put in a more demanding career situation, and wound up like Urban Meyer. I’m content with what I had, with no regrets.
You not only have to want what you want, you have to want what your wants lead to...wanting to be a top football coach requires sacrifice of family time...wanting to live upper middle class (or better) as the wife of a coach requires covering for him at many family events. Nothing wrong with either one as long as one has accepted the costs of their wants.
IMHO Urban Meyer is an egotistical ass, and I’m sooo glad he went to OSU amd PSU got Bill OBrien, win or lose, a real man.
Um.... Tim Tebow graduated a year early, with a 3.66 GPA... and if you haven’t noticed, he’s one of the best marketers on earth.
What a crock. If the man was having a heart condition because of the pressure what in the Hell is his wife doing letting him take the job at OSU, the school with possibly the worst, most driven to win at all costs, most unforgiving fans in the nation?
I asked that of myself when he took the job, only to hear his "medical condition", according to Fla rumors was a hot grad student that his wife found out about.
What a fraud.
They don’t call him “The Urban Legend” for nothing.
I could use a hot grad student. Let me get her name when you find it out. :)
And make no mistake, I am still the biggest fan of Steve Spurrier, except when Florida plays South Carolina.
And it’s obvious that Florida’s two titles had more to do with Tebow than Meyer.
In fact, Charlie Strong’s defense was more of a factor.
I just hope when they fire Muschamp, they look at bringing back Strong for Head Ball Coach.
Maybe you're unfamiliar with Stanford's football program or the level of "academics" a student must maintain there to participate in the program. Just getting accepted to Stanford is quite an "academic" feat.
There are many other schools that can make the same claim. Your comment shows a serious lack of knowledge about college football.
My daughter was a TA at Stanford a few years ago, in a somewhat academically challenging discipline. One of her Fall quarter students was on the football team. He got NO slack cut. He did go to the after-class sessions she held to help students who were struggling, but he got absolutely no extra credit, much less free pass.
Show me the SAT scores of the football team vs the rest of the student population.
Yup. At Stanford, you either pull the weight or you find another school, football star notwithstanding. Good friend from high school went to Stanford and played football. I got to spend a few minutes with him when Stanford came to play PSU. All he could talk about was how tough it was to balance sports and academics. He graduated with a degree in Engineering. There are lots of schools like Stanford, even though, unfortunately, there are many more unlike them.
Are you serious? The football team has to meet the same requirements for admission as everyone else. They turn some of the best athletes away every year because they don’t meet the grade. Even so, Stanford consistently fields solid teams in many sports every year. I’m guessing you also don’t know much about the Ivy League or schools like Duke either. But here you are offering your opinion anyway.....
I have first hand knowledge that the admission requirements are lower for highly desired athletes. At Ivy league and other top schools.
All things being otherwise equal, being a star athlete is a distinct advantage to any competitive admissions school, whether Ivy, Duke, Stanford, or the military academies. But the athlete cannot deviate greatly from the school’s norm. The Ivies and other competitive schools are not going to take a kid with very low SATs or GPA. The highly competitive schools will only go so far as to take an athlete who’s at the low end of the school’s mid-range. Beyond that, it doesn’t matter how good an athlete the kid is.
All things being otherwise equal, being a star athlete is a distinct advantage for entry to any competitive admissions school, whether Ivy, Duke, Stanford, or the military academies. (same is true for band at schools where that is important).
But the athlete cannot deviate greatly from the school’s norm. The competitive schools are not going to take a kid with very low SATs or GPA. The highly competitive schools will only go so far as to take an athlete who’s at the low end of the school’s mid-range. Beyond that, it doesn’t matter how good an athlete the kid is.
I used Stanford as an example of what college athletic programs could and should be as I have first hand knowledge of just how stringent their admission standards are, and that they are applied evenly. I would also offer Duke as a similar example.There are many others that can also be cited, Ivy League included - although I'm sure exceptions are made, especially for minorities who come from difficult environments. Even so, it's near impossible to go to Princeton if you're a dummy.
But let's not forget the comment I was originally responding to:
I've found that people who make broad and sweeping generalizations like this one usually don't have much of an understanding of the subject. Your mileage may vary.
Let me rephrase and not be so general with my statement...
I have first hand knowledge of Stanford and Princeton and my list could be much longer if I cared, very actively recruiting and lowering their standards to let in highly desirable athletes.
For the record, I have NO relation to Urban Meyer.
I am more loosely tied to the suburban Meyer klan.