Skip to comments.Couples who share the housework are more likely to divorce, study finds
Posted on 09/30/2012 12:27:22 AM PDT by Jyotishi
Divorce rates are far higher among modern couples who share the housework than in those where the woman does the lions share of the chores, a Norwegian study has found.
The report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work. Photo: ALAMY
In what appears to be a slap in the face for gender equality, the report found the divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 per cent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.
What weve seen is that sharing equal responsibility for work in the home doesnt necessarily contribute to contentment, said Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled Equality in the Home.
The lack of correlation between equality at home and quality of life was surprising, the researcher said.
One would think that break-ups would occur more often in families with less equality at home, but our statistics show the opposite, he said.
The figures clearly show that the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate, he went on.
(Excerpt) Read more at telegraph.co.uk ...
That’s easy. I try to help out and dry the dishes. My wife gets p.o.ed because I used the wrong towel.
This study may have merit.
I should have just gone out and changed the air filter in the truck.
My husband will not be reading this story.
Don’t take it so personally, it is a good idea to have a separate towel just for drying the dishes. Good idea to ask first.
Couldn’t you just use the right towel? ;) Like my husband after 15 years of marriage and two kids “can’t figure out” how to do laundry. He can ace advanced Physics and Chemistry but not “wash on delicate, lay flat to dry.” I never fell for that one!
I think this was discussed on TMZ, hope he doesn’t watch that show.
Your current husband will not be reading this story. (Fixed it for you ;-)
Interesting article. Being that I come from the persepctive of a more tradiional marriage, I think it isnt about chores per say, but about what chores are done by the man. There are things my wife doesn’t want any part of: Electrical, Plumbing, HVAC, Painting, Lawn Mantenance, and generally fixing stuff that breaks. She doesn’t want me getting into her business and I don’t want her in mine. She picks the menus, kids clothing, wash, and other domestic responsibilities. I think the reality is that we’re pretty happy performing the roles we like. I don’t have to pretend to be a mother and wife, and she doesn’t have to be “he woman”. We just respect each other as is. I can take care of her responsibilities if she is out of the home, of course, but no nearly as well. She could do mine too, but she’d hate it. Meanwhile, I make the paycheck we live on together. AS the kids grow up, she can add to the income if she likes, but it’s not at all required. We live within our means and that isn’t likely to change.
In short, straight woman don’t want to be married to “man chick”.
Well "wommins' work is wommins' work".....
Says the Architect and Father of 2 well ducking the fry pan! :~)
So Tiger Woods sits down in front of his television to enjoy watching NCIS.
So his wife, Elin, walks in and seeing Tiger relaxing, she thinks she’ll join him on the couch.
As she approaches she asks “What’s on TV?”.
“DUST!” Tiger replies....
And that’s how it all got started....
It is the radical egalitarianism of Marx which doesn’t work (as all his “ideas”). He throws out the nature of woman and the nature of man and expects them to be “happy” (and identical).
The Dialectic materialism pits man against woman in this process to “reach” utopia (which is not possible) but this pitting groups against each other is necessary for “progress” and actually creates resentment of each other—and no respect—because you are forced to deny your very nature. But with the dialectical process-—this destruction is necessary-—to destroy all traditions, history, Natural Laws and Christian ideas of compatibility. Egalitarianism demands uniformity-—that is why Marxists can replace women with men and get homosexual marriage. No difference between men and women.
It is absurd—I know-—but look how many people fall for the “sodomy urge is a Right” idea and men can be interchangeable with women—and it makes actually no difference to a human baby to be devoid of a mother or father.
Cultural marxism is trying to remake males and females to be the same- -to destroy the Laws of Nature and nature’s God and destroy differences (not possible)-—and by social engineering they can change customs/practices-—force men to dress and act like women and visa versa-but when it goes against nature (like Chastity Bono who was raped by a lesbian when she was a child)—it destroys happiness and harmony.
This is an attempt to remake man and women-—destroy the complementary aspects and differences-—(can’t have differences especially God-given ones). Marxism is designed to destroy the Natural Family and concepts of mother and father—and collapse Western Civilization (Christianity).
They want children to have no family connections and to be raised by the State. All will be slaves. To do this-—they have to destroy the maternal instinct-—which is already dulled because of abortion. The “nurturing” women are being conditioned to kill their own genetic offspring from childhood and planned parent indoctrination. (it is working—look at Fluke). Disgusting—women like her would have been ostracized, even 30 years ago. Now her immorality, and Godlessness is celebrated by many women (and men) and she is celebrated by the president of the USA. Sickening.
I think the whole thing is stupid.
I mean, yuh gladly get to help clean and it’s like having one of those bosses who is constantly in your stuff, while you’re trying to be helpful and do a good job.
I usually just raise an eyebrow these days, start listening to her invective and walk off.
There are plenty of peaceful places on te planet where I can stand around doing nothing or just be helpful and not be:
You want to complain, try to biss me around while I am taking the initiative to do my part or fair share?????
Then you are going to be a one woman band on an island and less one so called employee that you think is your personal rug.
I’m not a rug.... I’m a magic carpet and I can fly away...anytime fasger and with more grace than you and your wretched broom stick...
Know Your Roll
Thus once again demonstrating the curse of discontent laid on woman in Genesis 3:16....
Wouldn’t want you wondering what your “Wusband” is up to these days..../S
I joke, but I actually prefer doing things like the laundry because that way I know it will come out the way I want it to. I am better with more traditional female stuff, and my husband is better at (attempting!) to fix things. It’s probably the way we were raised, and what skills we learned. My niece was babysitting for us and my husband “as a favor” threw her $100 cashmere sweater she had left at our house into the laundry and then dried it on high. When it came out I think it could have fit the cat! His excuse was well why did she need a $100 cashmere sweater? My answer was “well now she’s going to have two because you need to replace that one!”
We have a rule in my home that has stood us in good stead for over twenty five years now:
You can ask my help, or tell me what to do: you don’t get to do both....
Hey, it’s been 15 years, I’ve probably called him much worse then a âwusbandâ before.... Well, yeah I KNOW I have!
No, no, no, I would never hit anyone with a frying pan... That would be implying I can cook!
Actually my husband really likes it when I bake. I don’t have a ton of time to do it, so one time (we were college students I was very busy!) I intentionally under baked a cake so he’d just say we’d buy one next time. I can’t believe I was so devious— that was before we were married at least! But he loved that cake! Said it was the best cake he ever had— simple chocolate cake, chocolate frosting. I fessed up. I haven’t been able to duplicate that cake ever, and that’s always what he says he wants on his birthday!
Mine is “ask me”. I’ll jump right on it and with excellence.
I do not like beimg told what to do....at all.
That said, i get told what to do all.the.time
Yo trabajo en el cagadero.
Yeah! That's the ticket
Feeling needed (yes, even in such things as mundane chores) is an important part of marriage.
Women listen up.
If you need something done and want the husband to do it pronto, just simply say “Oh, I'm going to (insert whatever time consuming and/or difficult job here). Could you just run out to the store for me and get what's on this list?” Then hand husband a list containing feminine hygiene products on it. Husband will practically beg to do the harder job every time! Ha Ha!
My wife understands the word of G*D and knows Ephesians 5:23 is truth. I love her dearly, but she knows that that I am the Head of the house.
When I have a project bigger than I can do on my own, I “bounce the idea” off of my husband to get his opinion on how best to do the job. Then a few days later I'll get all the tools and parts out and start fiddling with it. He has NEVER been able to not join in or take over! But he is very skilled in all kinds of carpentry and home repair and it must be torture to stand by and watch me fumble around with his tools! Haha!
Wait, my girlfriend is busy making popcorn.
Honey and I both were working full time when we met. I would be gone weeks at a time and the last thing I wanted to when I came home was to do housework. So, I sat Honey down and told him between wifely duties, cooking and cleaning, I was just too exhausted so he would need to pick the two most important to him.
He hired a housekeeper.
...but my wife WILL :))
If he were moslem he would have taken another wife or two.
If I could find the right gal I’d be happy to let her move in and take over all the house chores.......
Obviously they did not take into account if your Wife is disabled.
One doesn’t want to think through the rest of his hiring options!
Good post savagesusie.
Nah. He is the best man I have ever met. He knew how physical my job was and hired someone from our church to surprise me.
study considerations: 1) bossy woman selection bias; 2) husband has housekeeping skills for escape.
I find this very hard to believe. I’ve always shared tasks with my wife in my home and we’ve been married for 46 years....in spite of navy deployments even. As a matter of fact she has been battling lung cancer for the past 2 years and I’m doing ALL the work. If you love your wife you do what is important and necessary.
Years ago Joan Rivers said she & her husband were lying in bed & she asked him to `talk dirty’ to her. So he said,
“The bedroom, the bathroom, the kitchen, the hall carpet...!”
My wife does the laundry & I’m Mr. Fixit so that’s traditional. But I like to cook & she can outshoot me with the .45 automatic. Oh, well.
“Dont take it so personally, it is a good idea to have a separate towel just for drying the dishes. Good idea to ask first.”
Whats wrong with letting them dry on the drying rack?
Don’t they dry in the dishwasher? all by themselves with no effort?
hm... well lets see... if I am doing all the work anyway... why the heck put up with the hassle vs I would be lost without them...
Yep, I can see why this would be so.
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