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Divorce rate higher for couples that share housework, study finds
MSN ^ | September 30, 2012 | Allison Linn

Posted on 09/30/2012 10:12:51 PM PDT by detective

A new study is challenging the conventional wisdom that sharing household duties such as scrubbing the kitchen and toilets will reduce your odds of divorce.

But, the researchers caution, the findings are not an excuse for men or women to start shirking their chores.

Researchers used 2007-08 data on thousands of Norwegian adults to determine possible links between marriage, housework and happiness.

They found that divorce rates were actually higher for the approximately 25 percent of couples who shared housework equally than for the 71 percent couples where women did more or all of the housework.

Divorce rates also were significantly higher among the 4 percent of households in which the men did the majority of the housework, although the sample size was quite small for that group.

“The main point is that there is little to indicate that gender equality at home protects against divorce, as many people think and as is typically maintained by scholars in the field,” Thomas Hansen, a researcher with a Norwegian social research institute and one of the co-authors of the study, told TODAY in an e-mail.

Still, Hansen cautions that spouses should not take this as a sign they can throw in the dish towel – or vacuum, dust pan and sponge.

“This should not be interpreted as a causal effect, i.e., that (equality) leads to divorce,” he wrote.

Instead, it could be an indication that the type of modern couple that shares housework equally might also have more modern views on marriage and divorce. In addition, women in those households may have more financial independence to get out of an unhappy marriage.

The full study is available here. If you don’t happen to read Norwegian, skip to page 223 for the English-language summary.

Who does the housework in your home?


TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: divorce

1 posted on 09/30/2012 10:12:55 PM PDT by detective
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To: detective

It probably has more to do with not defining roles and making some mutual stuff seem like a chore or exclusive.

If you are good in the kitchen together that’s fine.
If you’re good alone there, that’s fine, but if that’s her domain, you need to relax and let her do it.


2 posted on 09/30/2012 10:36:14 PM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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To: detective
Sounds like bull to me. Even the study’s author doesn't see a cause and effect correlation between shared housework and divorce. Who knows the real causes of the breakups? More likely, the causes were money, adultery or some such. Doubt it was housework.

FWIW — my parents shared household chores and child rearing. Mom.washed dishes and Dad dried. Dad mowed the lawn and Mom raked and cleaned up. Marriage lasted 45 years till Dad passed.

3 posted on 09/30/2012 10:36:48 PM PDT by fatnotlazy
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To: detective

Looks like a convenient excuse in getting out of house work.


4 posted on 09/30/2012 10:41:37 PM PDT by Republican1795.
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To: detective; All

It’s probably because the lady of the house isn’t happy with the quality of the gentleman’s domestic talents. (as they say)...And then, the fight started.

I’d love to have a part time housekeeper/ dog wrangler. I actually need one. But it isn’t worth it because of the inevitable discord it would create. Mr K hasn’t washed a dish or done a load of laundry in almost 26 yrs. I’m sure someone would have called the cops long before now if he had.


5 posted on 09/30/2012 10:45:08 PM PDT by KGeorge
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To: detective

I like being in the kitchen, its a central place to the home, but some gals don’t want you in there.
I Like a gal that helps with the yard or putting on a roof, but some guys can’t take it.
They feel emasculated.

Often it just comes down to your partner wants to help but they suck at what they are helping with and sometimes its just a matter of they feel threatened if You enter their traditional domain.


6 posted on 09/30/2012 10:45:14 PM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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To: KGeorge

I think yer onto something.


7 posted on 09/30/2012 10:46:34 PM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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To: mylife

LOL Ohhh yeah.


8 posted on 09/30/2012 10:47:56 PM PDT by KGeorge
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To: KGeorge

It’s a dance.
Why do you always want to dance? LOL


9 posted on 09/30/2012 10:51:09 PM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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And then the fight started...

LOL


10 posted on 09/30/2012 10:55:33 PM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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To: detective

Currently we both work at home but I do most of the cleaning and the cooking and the food shopping. My wife edits a quarterly magazine for an exercise club and writes books requested by a publisher (like trivia or pregnancy), while I work for her doing research on the internet. So she is more busy.

Plus I am increasingly allergic to dust so I need to keep on top of that.

This is probably too much information.

If we get divorced, it would most likely be for a much younger woman.

(that last bit is a joke)


11 posted on 09/30/2012 11:36:17 PM PDT by Berlin_Freeper (Obama at the UN: The future must not belong to those who slander the prophet of Islam.)
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To: mylife

when i am cooking in my kitchen nobody else is allowed in there.


12 posted on 10/01/2012 1:02:15 AM PDT by Secret Agent Man (I can neither confirm or deny that; even if I could, I couldn't - it's classified.)
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To: detective

Fake study likely from some conservative group. Everybody knows that Norway is a people’s paradise and everyone is very happy there.


13 posted on 10/01/2012 2:28:06 AM PDT by 1010RD (First, Do No Harm)
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To: detective

I guess the wife & I have been on shakey ground for 35 years.


14 posted on 10/01/2012 3:01:28 AM PDT by tbpiper
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To: tbpiper

Hope my better half doesn’t see this....or else my suitcase will be thrown out in the yard by sundown.


15 posted on 10/01/2012 4:19:02 AM PDT by jmax (Full mag inserted, round in chamber, safety is off.)
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To: Berlin_Freeper

She likes young women?


16 posted on 10/01/2012 4:25:39 AM PDT by sakic
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To: detective

But is the divorce rate higher in households where the woman mows the lawn, trims the hedges, paints the trim, shovels the snow, cleans out the gutters, and rakes the leaves?


17 posted on 10/01/2012 4:55:20 AM PDT by ProtectOurFreedom
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To: mylife

Well, the woman is the one who sets the criteria for judging the quality of his work. Even if they share the tasks, if she is not happy with how he does/things, she gets mad anyway. Instead of being mad that he doesn’t do things, she will be mad at how inept he is, from her point of view.

The other issue is that his sharing of the tasks sets a new baseline for judgement. So, while she may be happy he does dishes or laundry, then that becomes a given, as she wonders why he won’t vacuum or wash windows. And watch out if he sits down to take a breather while she is doing some other chores.


18 posted on 10/01/2012 5:37:03 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego
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To: mylife

Well, the woman is the one who sets the criteria for judging the quality of his work. Even if they share the tasks, if she is not happy with how he does/things, she gets mad anyway. Instead of being mad that he doesn’t do things, she will be mad at how inept he is, from her point of view.

The other issue is that his sharing of the tasks sets a new baseline for judgement. So, while she may be happy he does dishes or laundry, then that becomes a given, as she wonders why he won’t vacuum or wash windows. And watch out if he sits down to take a breather while she is doing some other chores.


19 posted on 10/01/2012 5:37:14 AM PDT by Dilbert San Diego
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To: mylife

LOL I guess everybody gets loopy this/ that time a’ night. (That went right over my head, so I googled it. tv show?)

No, no, no. That’s men’s work (although I confess I’m a little possessive of the edging)


20 posted on 10/01/2012 6:41:48 AM PDT by KGeorge
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