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When the Most Personal Secrets Get Outed on Facebook
Wall Street Journal ^ | October 12, 2012 | Geoffrey A. Fowler

Posted on 10/13/2012 8:11:08 AM PDT by billorites

AUSTIN, Texas—Bobbi Duncan desperately wanted her father not to know she is lesbian. Facebook told him anyway.

One evening last fall, the president of the Queer Chorus, a choir group she had recently joined, inadvertently exposed Ms. Duncan's sexuality to her nearly 200 Facebook friends, including her father, by adding her to a Facebook Inc. discussion group. That night, Ms. Duncan's father left vitriolic messages on her phone, demanding she renounce same-sex relationships, she says, and threatening to sever family ties.

The 22-year-old cried all night on a friend's couch. "I felt like someone had hit me in the stomach with a bat," she says.

Soon, she learned that another choir member, Taylor McCormick, had been outed the very same way, upsetting his world as well.

The president of the chorus, a student organization at the University of Texas campus here, had added Ms. Duncan and Mr. McCormick to the choir's Facebook group. The president didn't know the software would automatically tell their Facebook friends that they were now members of the chorus.

The two students were casualties of a privacy loophole on Facebook—the fact that anyone can be added to a group by a friend without their approval. As a result, the two lost control over their secrets, even though both were sophisticated users who had attempted to use Facebook's privacy settings to shield some of their activities from their parents.

"Our hearts go out to these young people," says Facebook spokesman Andrew Noyes. "Their unfortunate experience reminds us that we must continue our work to empower and educate users about our robust privacy controls."

In the era of social networks like Facebook and Google Inc.'s Google+, companies that catalog people's activities for a profit routinely share, store and broadcast everyday details of people's lives. This creates a challenge...

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1 posted on 10/13/2012 8:11:10 AM PDT by billorites
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ever hear of don’t do anything you don’t want printed in the paper?

why do people think they have a right to secrecy?


2 posted on 10/13/2012 8:12:38 AM PDT by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
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To: billorites
When you make a deal with the devil....


3 posted on 10/13/2012 8:14:00 AM PDT by darkwing104 (Let's get dangerous)
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To: yldstrk

Exactly so. Don’t want your parents to know - don’t post it on facebook ffs. This isn’t exactly hard.


4 posted on 10/13/2012 8:15:29 AM PDT by JCBreckenridge (Texas, Texas, Whisky)
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To: billorites
A benign and trivial example:

I'm a long-term, but infrequent, user of FaceBook. Last summer I bought a lightweight travel backpack on line.

Later, I see that purchase broadcast over FB. I must have OK'd sharing that, but don't remember doing so and normally wouldn't.

Must check my privacy settings to make sure I'm not sharing what's kept in the back of my sock drawer...

5 posted on 10/13/2012 8:18:12 AM PDT by billorites (freepo ergo sum)
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Sorry. I never think ‘outing’ is unintentional. There are a significant number of Gays/Lesbians who are angry that anyone is still in the closet. They do not care if they compromise those who wish for privacy. This generation is so naive. I have told my son ‘don't put anything on Facebook that you wouldn't want the whole world to know’.
6 posted on 10/13/2012 8:18:29 AM PDT by originalbuckeye
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To: billorites

What, she isn’t homosexual proud?


7 posted on 10/13/2012 8:19:34 AM PDT by Irenic (The pencil sharpener and Elmer's glue is put away-- we've lost the red wheel barrow)
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WELCOME TO FACEBOOK - it’s about social networking and sharing anything and everything about your life instantly!

This is why the US Intel Community strongly suggests that people delete their FB account and stop using such invasion of personal life events network platforms!

Facebook is such a HUGE waste of time and commitment!

Unlike F/R....


8 posted on 10/13/2012 8:20:28 AM PDT by BCW (http://babylonscovertwar.com/index.html)
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To: yldstrk

There’s secrecy and then there’s privacy.


9 posted on 10/13/2012 8:21:14 AM PDT by billorites (freepo ergo sum)
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Anyone that joins a group called “Queer” anything is not keeping it personal. That's exposing sexual activities to the public.
10 posted on 10/13/2012 8:22:04 AM PDT by Varda
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if you are living a life you are ashamed of, change it to one you aren’t ashamed of


11 posted on 10/13/2012 8:23:11 AM PDT by yldstrk (My heroes have always been cowboys)
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I’ve never had ‘social sir accounts’, but here’s the long and short way to get-off Face-Butt:

http://www.wikihow.com/Permanently-Delete-a-Facebook-Account


12 posted on 10/13/2012 8:24:14 AM PDT by carriage_hill (The 0bummer Penguin: I played this country like a harp from hell.)
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I’ve never had ‘social site accounts’, but here’s the long and short way to get-off Face-Butt:

http://www.wikihow.com/Permanently-Delete-a-Facebook-Account


13 posted on 10/13/2012 8:24:33 AM PDT by carriage_hill (The 0bummer Penguin: I played this country like a harp from hell.)
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I spent an entire day in a seminar devoted to stalking people on the Internet. We had a whole section on Facebook. If you have your privacy settings totally locked down but one of your friends “likes” or comments on a post you make, and their settings are not totally locked down, then it can be found with a simple search. I sort of have assumed this so don’t post private things on my page. I mainly use it to check up on my kids and my niece and nephews whom I dearly love. So far none of them have unfriended me but I’m pretty sure that they don’t allow all of my postings on their wall. I’m not sure how to do that but I’ve been assured by one of my sons that its possible.


14 posted on 10/13/2012 8:26:22 AM PDT by Mercat (He was playing Words with Friends.)
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FaceBook did not out her, her own stupidity on how to set her privacy, notifications outed her.


15 posted on 10/13/2012 8:30:16 AM PDT by svcw (Why is one cell on another planet considered life, and in the womb it is not.)
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Later, I see that purchase broadcast over FB.

Facebook has entered ecommerce.

Call centers are now linking Facebook to customers when they call in to place an order or place the order on-line. The agent can have access to your Facebook account and see what your likes and dislikes are to help you with your purchase.

We are all living in glass houses now.

16 posted on 10/13/2012 8:30:20 AM PDT by Solar Wind
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Ms. Duncan's father left vitriolic messages on her phone, demanding she renounce same-sex relationships, she says, and threatening to sever family ties.

I have four children ... all straight ... but if any had turned out to be gay I certainly would not react in this way.

17 posted on 10/13/2012 8:30:51 AM PDT by layman (Card Carrying Infidel)
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Three can keep a secret if two of them are dead.


18 posted on 10/13/2012 8:32:26 AM PDT by glorgau
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I despise Facebook. I got lured into making an account so I could share pics with my sister and the girls. Now I'm getting friend requests and email updates hourly from every Tom, Dick and Harry. Seriously, This morning I have a friend request from a High School girl that is dating my very distant cousin, that I met at a funeral for the first (and only) time 4 years ago. Also, because of Facebook a girl my husband dated 22 years ago (When we were 18) showed up at the Hospital during family visitation when my mother-in-law was in ICU. Apparently she's been “occasionally” checking in on our family via my sister-in-law’s Facebook page for years, and when she saw we were going through a really difficult time, she sped to the hospital... to show off her new boob job. Facebook stinks.
19 posted on 10/13/2012 8:33:29 AM PDT by Casie
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What’s really sad is that this young woman has gotten drawn into this lifestyle. I’m 64 and I remember when I was in college that culture was hitting on me and there was a concerted effort to bring me into it. I cannot imagine what it’s like now. Sad.


20 posted on 10/13/2012 8:36:38 AM PDT by Mercat (He was playing Words with Friends.)
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