You cannot discard Scripture passages that you don’t like. Scripture says plainly:
“You who fear the Lord, praise him!”
“The Lord confides in those who fear him”
“Let all the earth fear the Lord”
“For great is the Lord and most worthy of praise; he is to be feared above all gods.”
“My flesh trembles in fear of you; I stand in awe of your laws.”
“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge”
“To fear the Lord is to hate evil”
“A wise man fears the Lord and shuns evil”
“Through love and faithfulness sin is atoned for; through the fear of the Lord a man avoids evil.”
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
... and so on ...
It appears contradictory to both love and fear the Lord. But wrestle with this tension, rather than discard it.
Theo... Then explain just this one scripture section: 1John 4
16 God is love, and those who abide in love abide in God, and God abides in them. 17 Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness on the day of judgment, because as he is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear; for fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not reached perfection in love. 19 We love because he first loved us. 20 Those who say, I love God, and hate their brothers or sisters, are liars; for those who do not love a brother or sister whom they have seen, cannot love God whom they have not seen. 21 The commandment we have from him is this: those who love God must love their brothers and sisters also.