“The parent who broke their vows is the one left behind and the one who is abandoned to pick up and put together the pieces...”
And what if that person left to spare themselves and the children abuse?
I’m sorry, but the point here is to put the kids’ first. Period. Not to involve them in a finger-pointing ‘who’s to blame’ game.
Every other TG holiday weekend and every other Christmas holiday.
In every instance where I’ve seen these term HONORED, things work out well. If one parent wants to infringe on the other parent’s time for a ‘special occasion’ that’s when things break down.
Children of divorce shouldn’t have to worry about these things and it’s up to the parents to hold the agreement together.
to spare themselves and the children abuse?
“Abuse” is such a loosely used word these days, used to justify breaking up families and denying kids a stable home with both parents. “Abuse” can mean whatever the party who wants to break up the marriage, says it means.
Oh, I know. Just being way idealistic.
The one who broke the vow in this case IS the abusive one. The one getting themselves and the children the heck away, even and really even if they are the one filing for and petitioning for the divorce, is the one holding the family together and providing the example for the children that prison life is not for the innocent.
the less fighting the better, allowing the courts to decide.
The abusive one - do they ever really want ot see the kids or do they fight this battle to get theri moms off their backs?
The abusive one sometimes responds to not being needed nor wanted (when everyone stops paying attention to the in ln-law parent who is often the root of the problem?) and to being left alone and lets the gang do what the responsible parent thinks is best, realizing it’s best all around. Especially when the responsible parent os always respectful, proper, and doesn’t say anything bad about the other ever. No?