And just as often the father splits and takes up with a new woman because he can't handle what's going on at home.
The government condones removing the father, and with it, any semblence of boundaries and structure--equating it all as "abuse." The mom is free to treat Junior like the little "man of the house" which in itself is abusive. Mom gives the child what I call A.S.S. (adult spousal status) allowing him to call the shots in the home. She assassinates dad's character in front of Junior, creating massive loyalty conflicts ("if you love mommy you'll hate your dad"). When Junior, who is now confused, extremely angry and hateful, gets physically too strong to handle, she puts him on mind bending meds.
When dad finally gives up in sheer hopelessness, having spent tens of thousands in legal fees just to preserve his basic parental rights, and decides to move on, mom gets further enraged: