Out of control, controlling parents.
Paying the college expenses doesn’t entitle ANYONE to completely dictate and spy on the student’s life.
Demanding the $66,00 back is just plain stupid.
The child of such parents would have been better leaving at 18 and making her own way ,especially if she is that good academically and in her chosen field.
There are quite a few parents who try to have success and fame through their children and the most obsessed parents attempt to deny ANY independent actions or thought.
Or the parents may just have consuming,genuine-to-them fear the child will do something,anything, not “right” in the eyes of the parents.
Such parents can ruin a child’s chances for success and maturity,or at least severely delay those things.
I KNOW,from personal experience.
At some point, the parents and the child need to transition to a new stage in their relationship, but some parents don’t know when to let go. Sometimes, it’s up to the child to put their foot down and draw those lines.
I was living with my parents during my first couple years of college, when my parents decided that I was going to move with them, out of state, because they were planning to retire, without even discussing it with me. So, I worked overtime, saved my money, got a roommate, and secured my own place, without discussing it with them. I think they got the message then that it wasn’t okay for them to make decisions for me anymore.