I am 49, female, and have been married to the same MAN, for 25 years. We also do not cheat or carry on. Among the younger people I work with, my lifestyle is seen as quaint relic of the past. Most of them are either terminally single and sleep with whom ever comes along, divorced once or twice, divorced with kids, or with kids and never married, OR, in a homosexual relationship with or without kids, OR, in a faux marriage in which they live separate lives and date other people on the side, with full knowledge of each other’s adulterous behavior.
There ARE no traditionally married couples with over 1 or 2 kids. We are an anomaly anymore. I feel sorry for these people — but they have whatever it is they fought for. Trouble is, it really doesn’t look all that appealing, and many of them have confided in ME that they secretly envy my life.
And I tell them ...It didn’t come easy. Hubby and I fought, but we mended our differences and stayed together. We aren’t rich, we don’t party, our life is pretty routine ...but it’s a nice, warm, loving and secure relationship. Our kids do well. We have savings and a home. I don’t know what else to tell them ....none of them ever seem to want to get off the pot to create a decent life for themselves. They want to wallow in the smut because they like it ... they think it’s cool. They like partying and they like staying out all night and bragging about their exploits the next day.
I guess until it shows its really ugly end, we are going to go through a dark time in America - a morally dark time. I feel all I can do is continue to live the life I feel is best and pray for their conversion. I can’t control them, and neither does God try to either, it seems.
I see the same thing, and the statistics overall indicate that what we see is the new normal for the United States in the age of Obama. What most of the people commenting on this thread fail to recognize is that a society without a strong family basis cannot continue very long into the future, perhaps not even for another generation. That is the writer’s point, and he is right.
“There ARE no traditionally married couples with over 1 or 2 kids.”
My daughter recently gave birth in Utica which is a small city in upstate NY. Several nurses came up to her and her husband and asked if they were actually married. It seems that a married couple is now quite a curiosity in the maternity ward.
But we may have lost one of our children to that worldly lure. their reasoning is twisted, they seek council from like minded fools, not sage advice from loving parents........heart breaking.
It is a skank world out there and the numbers who partake are many. One good fact to come out of what you are reporting is that these people are WORKING! They are not part of the generational welfare crowd who live off welfare, from one generation to the next, are nothing more than sperm donors and slut-abouts, who make babies for the all the freebies they can get from oboma’s government, like a section 8 roof over their heads at a very young age, free food, phones, healthcare, education etc, and in the case of those who thug for pocket money, they also are responsible for the high crime rate, courtesy of the green light oboma gives them to plunder and be feral animals on the street, with no punishment..after all oboma is trading them the goodies for their votes. And then there are the bum-we-don't-want-to-work punks who live off welfare and work for the left, the anarchists, communists, marxists, revolutionaries who are hard-core believers, and the college crowd, who are leftist-educated and who follow the pied-piper oboma like the lemmings they are.
I am so thankful to read about people like yourself, who mirror my values. I pray that the pendulum swings back, but none of this will ever happen without the fight of our lives to be fought, for sure.
Rick Santorum was right, the family is the starting point, but see that is what Marx wanted to destroy, he knew that was the key in moving people away from God and into the arms of communism. Christianity is the only answer, we are trying to do our part in moving the truth of God's word, our website is my tagline.