My deepest sympathies.
My experiences here turned me against uncontrolled Housing development,
Howard county SW of Balt used to be white and very conservative Republican as late as say ~2000. The ever increasing gov spending around DC with unrestrained housing development and massive immigration Balkan-nized the county and turned it solid Dem, taxes and regulations followed. And ironically wiping out millions of trees in the process they traded that for enslaving us in environmental regulations and taxes.
Now it is hopeless.
And you obviously know some about what happened at the state level.