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We are raising a generation of deluded narcissists
FoxNews.com ^ | January 8, 2013 | Dr. Keith Ablow

Posted on 01/09/2013 10:24:53 AM PST by rarestia

A new analysis of the American Freshman Survey, which has accumulated data for the past 47 years from 9 million young adults, reveals that college students are more likely than ever to call themselves gifted and driven to succeed, even though their test scores and time spent studying are decreasing.

Psychologist Jean Twenge, the lead author of the analysis, is also the author of a study showing that the tendency toward narcissism in students is up 30 percent in the last thirty-odd years. This data is not unexpected. I have been writing a great deal over the past few years about the toxic psychological impact of media and technology on children, adolescents and young adults, particularly as it regards turning them into faux celebrities—the equivalent of lead actors in their own fictionalized life stories.

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KEYWORDS: deluded; generation; generationy; millenials; narcissism; narcissists; psychology; raising
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An absolutely brilliant exposé on today's culture. As a 32 year old man, I'm proud to say I don't "exist" in the world of social media. I saw the writing on the wall over a decade ago.
1 posted on 01/09/2013 10:25:00 AM PST by rarestia
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To: rarestia

not difficult to accept...70% of the students are women....


2 posted on 01/09/2013 10:27:16 AM PST by B212
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To: rarestia
As a 32 year old man, I'm proud to say I don't "exist" in the world of social media.

Congratulations! You're on Free Republic which is . . . a form of social media.

3 posted on 01/09/2013 10:28:14 AM PST by BipolarBob (Happy Hunger Games! May the odds be ever in your favor.)
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To: rarestia

4 posted on 01/09/2013 10:31:23 AM PST by Doogle (USAF.68-73..8th TFW Ubon Thailand..never store a threat you should have eliminated))
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To: BipolarBob

But FR isn’t a popularity contest by how many friends you have or hown many likes you receive or how many tweeters you have following you.


5 posted on 01/09/2013 10:32:44 AM PST by Blue Highway
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To: rarestia

im 18 and its unfortunate that I have to agree with most if not all of this article


6 posted on 01/09/2013 10:33:24 AM PST by Tyrannis (Long Live The Republic)
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To: rarestia

I don’t know...the number of slackers has probably risen steadily for 47 years so the students have more reason to consider themselves gifted and driven to succeed by comparison.


7 posted on 01/09/2013 10:33:42 AM PST by bkepley
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To: rarestia
What is comical is how many yoots walk and look into gadgets without making eye contact. They stumble into other people or even brush objects. So focused on the “LOL, OMG” or playing solitaire as they stroll while holding a handheld device but have little common sense or courtesy.
8 posted on 01/09/2013 10:33:58 AM PST by ConservativeStatement (Obama is the "Disco Duck" president. A no-substance novelty that reached number one.)
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To: rarestia

Perhaps the real problem is the thrust toward “self-esteem” that permeates our schools and which is the goal of most mental health treatment. Maybe the younger generation should be taught to esteem God and others, rather than themselves.


9 posted on 01/09/2013 10:35:10 AM PST by Adventure gal
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To: BipolarBob

Not in the contemporary sense.

Prior to the advent of modern social media (e.g. Facebook and Twitter), you had bulletin boards (BBS) and web forums wherein you could pick what sub-forums you wished to browse. You could read a post about dogs or cats or ferrets and at no point were you forced to participate in the forum. If you had an insight or helpful comment to make, you could. Likewise, if you wanted to be a idiot and post your negative views, you could. However, at no point were the contents of those forums posted to a public board. They weren’t editable by the reader population, and no one could force you to read a “status update” on the board unless you configured your client to do so. Participation was completely voluntary.

Now, as outlined in the article, Facebook pages are replete with inanities, stories about the person’s life they hope others will read about and be as enthralled with as they are/were. Updates are forced to “friends.” It’s like a shrine to one’s self and not informative to any particular thing outside of the narcissist posting. Same thing with Twitter. It’s all engineered to promote self-aggrandizement.

Free Republic is a membership forum in which participants read a news article (or vanity) and others are allows to post their comments. This is nothing like social media in the sense that Dr. Ablow is discussing and is more akin to the Elks Lodge or VFW Hall of older days where people sit around and discuss current events in a digital format.


10 posted on 01/09/2013 10:36:02 AM PST by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: rarestia

Yeah, one of them is President.


11 posted on 01/09/2013 10:38:45 AM PST by Lonesome in Massachussets (Obama: Brought to you by the letter "O" and the number 16 trillion.)
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To: rarestia

The problem isnt social media, it is the feedback that your average kid receives for doing nothing of note that used to be reserved for people that did great things.

Millions of viewers for a video on youtube of a kid doing something stupid. Hundreds of thousands of people reading dumb things on a Twitter feed. Even more that like your bad instagram photo.

What kid wouldn’t think they were the greatest thing ever? And all it takes is a few moments and some boredom and you too can be bigger that Jesus.


12 posted on 01/09/2013 10:39:31 AM PST by VanDeKoik
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not difficult to accept...70% of the students are women....

A proper point to make. The militant feminist movement of the 1960s and 1970s sought to make women "equal" with men, and in many ways, they accomplished that end not by the elevation of women but by the condescension of quintessential male-ness.

It's no longer acceptable to the lesbian feminists to hold open doors, allow women to precede through a doorway first, or hire someone based on qualifications. Everything must be central to the most important question: "Is this fair?"

I'm nauseated by the idea of "fairness," and I think if this canard isn't shot, dressed, and stuffed for display on the mantle of human history as a relic, it's going to consume our society in a conflagration of narcissistic rage.

Our current Marxist-in-chief is the leading narcissist.

13 posted on 01/09/2013 10:42:13 AM PST by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: rarestia; Blue Highway
How can I compete against a concise and well written response like that? I can't. I'd give you both a thumbs-up, a "like" and a toot Tweet in your general direction. I'm leaving this thread and taking my Angry Birds with me.
14 posted on 01/09/2013 10:42:26 AM PST by BipolarBob (Happy Hunger Games! May the odds be ever in your favor.)
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To: rarestia

I couldn’t agree more. Living in CA I am surrounded my narcissists. Go to the mall see all of these teenagers covered from head to toe with piercings and ghastly tattooes. Go to Venice Beach, pot dispensaries all over the place. Television is worse than ever. The only respite I get from TV is METV where I can watch reruns of the Beverly Hillbillies, Hogan’s Heroes, Batman, Lost in Space, and Voyage to the Bottam of the Sea. And these public schools run by these neo Stalinist teachers unions turning our kids heads into mush. All they learn about in history is Dr. MLK Jr and Cesar Chavez. I have had take my child to the Nixon and Reagan Libraries to get a real history lesson. I have told my child never even think about a tattoo or a piercing. I have enrolled her in Catechism. We go to church every week. I see to it that homework gets done before computer games and TV. I think discpline is the key. Our culture sucks. Our country is bankrupt. Our president is Marxist. All the rest of the country had to do was look at my pathetic state. But no. The rest of the nation seems hellbent determined to follow CA’s descent into hell and bankruptcy.


15 posted on 01/09/2013 10:43:07 AM PST by Trapped Behind Enemy Lines
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To: Adventure gal

High self esteem is bogus if its not earned. This ‘self esteem” push propaganda tells them they are all great even when its obvious they are worth their salt.


16 posted on 01/09/2013 10:48:33 AM PST by X-spurt (Republic of Texas, Come and Take It!)
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To: X-spurt

are NOT worth their salt


17 posted on 01/09/2013 10:50:06 AM PST by X-spurt (Republic of Texas, Come and Take It!)
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To: rarestia

They know how to text their friends on an Iphone, could Einstein do that?

Iphone = all about ‘I’


18 posted on 01/09/2013 10:50:50 AM PST by sickoflibs (Losing to O is NO principle!)
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To: Tyrannis
im 18 and its unfortunate
We can tell by your grammar.
19 posted on 01/09/2013 10:51:39 AM PST by oh8eleven (RVN '67-'68)
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To: rarestia

I know a 31 year old that was so jealous of our 57 year old VP who is a 30 veteran pilot that we called “Captain Brad” that he refused to address him as such, proclaiming, “F*** him! He doesn’t call me anything special for all MY lifetime achievements!”

Yep, a 31 year old loser demanding equal status to a chief airline 747 captain.


20 posted on 01/09/2013 10:54:50 AM PST by CodeToad (Liberals are bloodsucking ticks. We need to light the matchstick to burn them off.)
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To: sickoflibs

I found it telling when “i” and “my” replaced “e” (i.e. email) in Internet lingo. The Internet has become a place for narcissists to tell everyone how great they are and to allow sociopaths to sow their seeds with no consequence for their actions.

What we need in this country is a big ol’ EMP. Just wipe it all out for a few weeks and show everyone what it means to live. It’ll serve to cull the herd since many will likely go batshit crazy, while those prepared among us will shoot anyone who’s nuts enough to come looting our stores. Win-win!


21 posted on 01/09/2013 10:55:29 AM PST by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: B212
not difficult to accept...70% of the students are women....

I feel so sorry for the "black" boys being raised by these "baby mamas" filling our entitlement generation.

If they go to school, they're pushed aside to become second fiddle to the girls.

At home, being fatherless, they have no idea what a man (husband) does in a home, such as helping, holding, nurturing, hugging, laughing, helping "mom," being an island of refuge when mom's not in a good mood, being a helper around the house.

The young black boy gets to see "baby momma" have a trail of boyfriends come through the house, none of them staying too long, some of them leaving behind another unborn sibling.

Being faced with staying home to do homework for an unconcerned teacher or perhaps palling around with a future gang group.

More than likely being given moronic non-Christian first names that sound more like background sounds to music, which will make them standout the rest of their lives on resumes and job applications.

Seeing thug-like punks with hats askew doing their ominous "rap" struts, groans, and moans, covered with gold chains, jewels, and half-naked women.

Being made fun of at school if they happen to do well.

etc.

I could go on, and on, and on.

22 posted on 01/09/2013 10:56:49 AM PST by laweeks
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To: Trapped Behind Enemy Lines
The only respite I get from TV is METV ...
Me too. I just can not fathom how people can watch the insulting, asinine trash that's offered today.
I'm thiiiiiiis close to canceling cable and only my love for baseball stops me from pulling the plug ... for now.
23 posted on 01/09/2013 10:58:51 AM PST by oh8eleven (RVN '67-'68)
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To: oh8eleven

I can’t even take FNC anymore. Everytime Juan Williams or Beckel comes on I switch the channel. I love Finding Bigfoot on Animal Planet. Bobo is a hoot.


24 posted on 01/09/2013 11:01:09 AM PST by Trapped Behind Enemy Lines
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To: rarestia
On Facebook, young people can . . . “speak” in pithy short posts

Now wait a minute . . .

25 posted on 01/09/2013 11:03:38 AM PST by Jeff Chandler (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tpAOwJvTOio)
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To: Trapped Behind Enemy Lines

Our family is right there with you. Took my kids to the Reagan Library. Great experience. Nixon Library is next. We’re into Get Smart re-runs, and send the kids to Catechism, go to Church, etc.

The sad thing is not just that CA is tanking, but that the kids know it and are bummed about the future, instead of having that hope that California and America has always evoked.

My sensitive high-school age daughter is so appalled that the state of CA is going to be teaching about gay heroes in school, she actually grieves for Governor Brown’s soul. For kids with a sound moral core, they have a hard job to buck the cultural tide on a daily basis. I’m just glad my parents didn’t live to see this decline.


26 posted on 01/09/2013 11:03:57 AM PST by married21
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Wow. That’s good to know. I am not the only one out here. Some people say we should move out of CA. The way I see it, the rest of the nation is following CA’s madness, delusional disregard for piling up massive debt, and cultural narcissism. BHO would have won the presidency in both 2008 and 2012 even if CA had voted for his opponents.


27 posted on 01/09/2013 11:11:38 AM PST by Trapped Behind Enemy Lines
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To: CodeToad

I worked for a gentleman who was a retired Marine Corps Lieutenant. We called him “Lou,” even though his name was Gary. It was out of respect for him and his rank. Even as a 20-something out-of-college contractor, I understood my role in the pecking order.

Kids today don’t understand pecking orders. They think that simply by virtue of existing or having some vaunted piece of paper from a university that they deserve the highest of esteem from all of their peers.

It’s been my experience that most liberals who think this way are petty and insignificant and seeking some sort of validation for their existence.


28 posted on 01/09/2013 11:15:02 AM PST by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: X-spurt

“High self esteem is bogus if its not earned.”

The new-age concept of “self esteem” is anti-Biblical. Philippians 2:3 is clear about that.


29 posted on 01/09/2013 11:17:50 AM PST by MayflowerMadam
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im 18 and its unfortunate that I have to agree with most if not all of this article

Thank you for the encouraging note that there are exceptions to my general observations.
30 posted on 01/09/2013 11:18:23 AM PST by PeterPrinciple ( Lord save me from some conservatives, they don't understand human nature any better than liberals.)
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To: ConservativeStatement
LOL - so true. There is a guy at the office here (from another company) that walks around and always has an e-reader in his hand. Takes it into the restroom with him. I thought for sure he have to break contact when he washed his hands and he did, but laid it next to the sink and continued to read while he washed/dried hands. And then he was on his way. [My brother and I affectionately call him Kindle]
31 posted on 01/09/2013 11:19:14 AM PST by mykroar ("I'm afraid I can't use a mule. I have several hundred up on Capitol Hill." - Ronald Reagan)
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To: Blue Highway

“But FR isn’t a popularity contest by how many friends you have...”

You ain’t lyin’ !! :)


32 posted on 01/09/2013 11:19:37 AM PST by PLMerite (Shut the Beyotch Down! Burn, baby, burn!)
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To: rarestia

faux celebrities—the equivalent of lead actors in their own fictionalized life stories.


sums up the whole situation.


33 posted on 01/09/2013 11:20:58 AM PST by PeterPrinciple ( Lord save me from some conservatives, they don't understand human nature any better than liberals.)
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To: laweeks

Incredibly prescient thought process here, la! I never considered the militant feminist movement entangled with the “Great Society” mentality and affirmative action. I think you may have stumbled on to something here.

By this line of reason, one could argue that it’s truly the fault of the militant feminists for the plight of the black man in this society. They held up the woman as this paragon of power (Power of the P*ssy, Vagina Monologues, etc.), took away the stigma of sex with multiple partners by providing free “birth control,” increased societal desire for sexual activity outside of wedlock “because it feels good,” promoted abortion as a substitute to child rearing, and now we have women who are having sex out of wedlock, refusing to get an abortion, having children from multiple partners, and raising their daughters to continue the cycle while the sons are left to join gangs and try to make sense of life through rap lyrics and sports stars.

That line of reasoning is going to be at the forefront of my mind now. Thank you.


34 posted on 01/09/2013 11:22:03 AM PST by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: oh8eleven

Radio is perfect for baseball, if you ask me.


35 posted on 01/09/2013 11:29:30 AM PST by RPTMS
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To: rarestia

But we really are smart and beautiful and witty and worthy of great sums of money and......Welcome to Burger Joint, ya want biggie fries or regular?


36 posted on 01/09/2013 11:31:14 AM PST by count-your-change (You don't have to be brilliant, not being stupid is enough.)
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To: Tyrannis

Apparently you have not learned about capitalization OR punctuation.


37 posted on 01/09/2013 11:33:12 AM PST by Nifster
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To: B212

Dr. Ablow hit the nail directly on the head. I’ve had the misfortune of having to interviewing some of these deluded children, and when they don’t get the job, they are shocked. When I was asked directly by one why he wasn’t selected, I was very honest. I flat told him, he had delusions of adequacy.

He didn’t know what it meant, so I had to tell him what my father use to tell me, “look it up.”


38 posted on 01/09/2013 11:37:18 AM PST by cgchief
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To: B212

Dr. Ablow hit the nail directly on the head. I’ve had the misfortune of having to interviewing some of these deluded children, and when they don’t get the job, they are shocked. When I was asked directly by one why he wasn’t selected, I was very honest. I flat told him, he had delusions of adequacy.

He didn’t know what it meant, so I had to tell him what my father use to tell me, “look it up.”


39 posted on 01/09/2013 11:38:25 AM PST by cgchief
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To: rarestia

I see this culture of narcissism as a contributing factor to these mass shootings...


40 posted on 01/09/2013 11:50:48 AM PST by Homer1
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To: rarestia

Raising a generation of narcissists???

He11, we elected one president!


41 posted on 01/09/2013 11:51:45 AM PST by Adder (No, Mr. Franklin, we could NOT keep it.)
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To: rarestia

Not my kid


42 posted on 01/09/2013 11:54:45 AM PST by lesko
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To: rarestia

Is he talking about the Baby Boomers?


43 posted on 01/09/2013 11:57:57 AM PST by blueunicorn6 ("A crack shot and a good dancer")
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To: rarestia

I’m not a big fan of Facebook and the way the young people use it, but they don’t come anywhere near the deluded, self-aggrandizement found in the nannies from the Baby Boom generation who want to force the putrid ideas they come up with in their egocentric worlds on everyone else.


44 posted on 01/09/2013 12:03:29 PM PST by blueunicorn6 ("A crack shot and a good dancer")
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To: Homer1
I see this culture of narcissism as a contributing factor to these mass shootings...

I think that was one of the conclusions he was leading us to make through this article, and I don't believe it's unwarranted.

If a child is ignored long enough by a sufficiently large portion of his or her peer group, he or she will tend to act out in a very large way to gain popularity, or in this case notoriety. Girls tend to attempt or fully commit suicide, while boys tend to lash out violently.

This is taught to every Freshman psych major in every major college in the US. Having minored in psychology, I can tell you first hand that the Lanza situation was textbook masculine "peacocking" for notoriety. He was likely a poor video gamer and a social media outcast, so he resorted to physical "real world" means to enact revenge on those who "dissed" him.

Once he realized what he'd done, he saw no way out but to kill himself. Facing the public and the scorn that would've been visited upon him was more ghastly than any video game he'd ever play.

45 posted on 01/09/2013 12:09:19 PM PST by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.)
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To: Trapped Behind Enemy Lines

I’m from CA, too, and you’d think if anyone wanted to see the fruits of liberalism, multiculturalism, and open borders, all they’d have to do is look at CA, especially LA and San Fran. But do they learn? No. They race on, hell-bent on turning the rest of the country into the same mess.


46 posted on 01/09/2013 12:11:56 PM PST by Nea Wood (When life gets too hard to stand, kneel.)
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To: Nea Wood

Exactly. Sacramento is only in debt to the tune of $264 billion. In Washington DC it is $16 trillion and climbing. California should have been exhibit A on what happens when you put the liberals in charge of everything, when you abandon all standards, when you raise taxes, when you allow spending to get out of control, when you let the public service unions run loose without any restraint, when you allow pensions to get out of control, when you turn blind eye to illegal immigration. California simply let go. There is no brain’s reign around here, no discipline whatsoever. And the rest of the nation is following our insanity. That drives me crazy. The nation could have learned from our mistakes instead of repeating them.


48 posted on 01/09/2013 12:21:18 PM PST by Trapped Behind Enemy Lines
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To: ConservativeStatement

I had a smartphone for awhile, an HTC. I could even watch YouTube on it. Then I was thinking, “I’ve got a laptop at home, and if I really need a computer on the go, I’ll take it with me. If my boss needs me, she can always call or text me.” So I sold it and bought myself a Nokia 2730c-1, which has Bluetooth, FM radio, MP3, and basic internet connectivity. So much happier.


49 posted on 01/09/2013 12:49:15 PM PST by AnAmericanAbroad (It's all bread and circuses for the future prey of the Morlocks.)
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To: PeterPrinciple

But do they have their own theme music?


50 posted on 01/09/2013 12:51:45 PM PST by AnAmericanAbroad (It's all bread and circuses for the future prey of the Morlocks.)
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