I worked in a strip club in Portland, OR for a year. Bartender and worked up to bar manager.
It’s nonstop dramarama. Quite a few of the girls were addicted to either booze or drugs, incessant catfighting, complaining about lousy tippers or bad boyfriends/husbands/significant others, them getting falling-down drunk on the job, or I recall one of them gambling her tips away over the course of her shift and hitting me up for $150 to cover her rent. I declined.
There were two of the women at the place that were cool; both were teetotalers, didn’t use drugs, and were frankly pretty normal. No major issues, no drama, friendly, not catty. One of them also worked as a bartender there as well, and she was very professional and good at her job. Both were married, one had kids, the other didn’t. For both of them, it was straight-up moonlighting to pick up a few extra bucks.
The rest of them......eech. Problems galore.
Sounds like hard earned $$$ to me.
The “normal” women you speak of remind me of the character in the film The Wrestler...it was an odd little movie, but the acting was good.
It all boils down to what individuals want to do with THEIR life. I think a woman is making a mistake going down that road, but not my decision.