Don’t really sympathize. Imagine you’re trying to get married for the FIRST time but you’re shelling out SS Tax.
I’m sorry you don’t love your partner enough to sacrifice for them.
I love my partner too much to insult him by saying I would subsidize our marriage since I have more income than he does. Men can be sensitive about things like that. I’m not sure what you mean by “trying to get married for the FIRST time.” I’ve been a widow for 6 years after 44 years of marriage.