Skip to comments.Should I Become a Woman and Risk Causing Pain to My Wife and Children?
Posted on 02/04/2013 7:53:55 AM PST by reaganaut1
Ive been living the life of a married man for 20 years. I have a successful career and three children. All this time, however, I have battled gender dysphoria and the deep sadness that comes from living a lie. From the earliest age, Ive been unhappy being male. I believed I would find happiness only once I was true to myself. I recently had my self-diagnosis confirmed, and Im initiating a transition to living as the real me. There is a cost involved: pain to my family and stress on my career. Ethically, is it right to be true to myself even if that authenticity ends my otherwise happy marriage and damages the emotional stability of my three children? If I had to maintain the lie, the emotional cost would be tremendous; a transition would share the pain with all who love me but might result in happiness. Whats the ethically correct thing to do? NAME WITHHELD, MASSACHUSETTS
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NYT commenter Jackie has a sad story of how her ex-husband ruined their family.
Just plain nuts.
A good pastor, priest, or rabbi will be far more effective than a surgeon.
“True to myself”
Translation: Indulge my perversions.
He has problems and the butcher psychiatrists have convinced him its the plumbing God gave him.
He needs God in his life.
Sheesh. And I thought I had problems.
Perhaps the most humane thing he could do would be to drive down a country lane at about 70 mph and crash his car into a big oak tree.
No—You are an immature fool—it aint about YOU!
teh grass is always greener...
find a good therapist - not one of teh avant garde nitwits, but someone who can help you accept yourself as you are.
and posting to a web page isn’t the best way to get advice...
Kind'a fitting for barroom drunks.
We all sober here in FR ... especially after Sunday church Monday mornin'
We were created to Serve God and to Love One Another. The choice to serve self is selfish and this man is choosing to serve himself selfishly rather than meet his responsibilities to take care and love his family.
He should roundly be condemned. Not only will he foster confusion in his wife (whom he promised to love), but generational confusion in his children whom he promised to love when had them with his wife.
He is forgetting the commandment not to Commit the Adulteration of Marriage and needs to die to self and serve the Lord of Love who died in the place of folks like him.
Yeah, no kidding.
While this "man" may be unhappy you have no right to happiness and if he were to pursue what makes him happy, what about the happiness of his family. Suck it up pal!
All the problems in our country and the world and the NY slimes have the gall to print an article on this subject?
Good grief, guy, grow up, man up, and ask for a brain grant.
There's a reason for that, and it isn't because someone slipped up at the baby factory and accidentally put a girl's soul in a boy's body. If you've fathered three children, the reason is likely far in the past and would need dedicated and trained therapy to discover, and probably years of intense work to rectify.
You may think it's easy to just whip out a knife and cut your penis off. But it's not. You'll go through a personal hell as you make the "transition," and, as you say, likely put others through hell as well. And, in the end, you won't be a woman. You'll be a man who looks like a woman. It's not likely that will make things better.
It's time you pushed yourself past the feel-good politically correct answer that says you were just born a screwed-up person. Take some responsibility for what you have become, even if the cause was other people in your life. Get someone to help you dig back into your memory until you find the cause, then go through the pain of dealing with it.
You will be much happier if you learn how to be the man you were born to be than trying to run away from it.
None of this seems to make much of an impression on the former dad, who is convinced that this was the only course his life could have taken.
I checked his bio. Deval Patrick only has two children.
...”To state the obvious, he fathered three children and is a man, even if he is unhappy. Many Americans cannot accept reality, or we would not be in the current mess.
NYT commenter Jackie has a sad story of how her ex-husband ruined their family.”...
I have wondered many times in my life why God made the sexual desire so insane that it destroys so much in the lives of human beings. It seems that only drug addiction can trump sex in terms of putting self interest above all else. Who in their right mind would throw away what this man has for an unknown future? Few people in this life get everything they want.
(1) Just look between your legs and see what God gave you ON YOUR BIRTHDAY!!..
(2) Read & contemplate Psalm 139... and accept the way you were created...
Ask God to help you... and heal you....
(3) ..being "true to myself" ...
...Is pop-culture psycho-babble code for extraordinary selfishness -- GET OVER IT!
(4) Stop listening to the voices (whether "doctors" or demons) that have apparently convinced you that you are a woman trapped in a male body...
-- Think about it.... REALLY??
(5) You are most correct when you realize the pain you will cause your wife of 20 years and your family.
Why can’t he be satisfied wearing womens panties like the rest of us.
What? What did I say? Um No, I never wear my wifes panties, no siree bob, nope, not me