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Should I Become a Woman and Risk Causing Pain to My Wife and Children?
New York Times ^ | February 1, 2013 | CHUCK KLOSTERMAN

Posted on 02/04/2013 7:53:55 AM PST by reaganaut1

I’ve been living the life of a married man for 20 years. I have a successful career and three children. All this time, however, I have battled gender dysphoria and the deep sadness that comes from living a lie. From the earliest age, I’ve been unhappy being male. I believed I would find happiness only once I was true to myself. I recently had my self-diagnosis confirmed, and I’m initiating a transition to living as the real me. There is a cost involved: pain to my family and stress on my career. Ethically, is it right to be “true to myself” even if that authenticity ends my otherwise happy marriage and damages the emotional stability of my three children? If I had to maintain the lie, the emotional cost would be tremendous; a transition would share the pain with all who love me but might result in happiness. What’s the ethically correct thing to do? NAME WITHHELD, MASSACHUSETTS

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TOPICS: Culture/Society
KEYWORDS: disorders; genderiddisorder; homosexualagenda; mentalillness; psychology
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To: reaganaut1

Suck it up, buttercup!


61 posted on 02/04/2013 9:25:11 AM PST by fungoking (Tis a pleasure to live in the Ozarks)
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To: windcliff

I wonder had the guy’s wife just let him lay about in her lingerie, that it would have become such an issue now.


62 posted on 02/04/2013 9:34:25 AM PST by onedoug
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To: rbg81

I’m a woman and I can’t imagine it either.


63 posted on 02/04/2013 9:34:39 AM PST by POWERSBOOTHEFAN (Causing trouble since 1976)
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To: reaganaut1

Suck it up and go to the grave as a father and a man.


64 posted on 02/04/2013 9:36:03 AM PST by Inwoodian
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To: reaganaut1
Should I Become a Woman and Risk Causing Pain to My Wife and Children?

1) A man cannot "become a woman".

2) How much do you hate your wife and children?

65 posted on 02/04/2013 9:37:15 AM PST by Jim Noble (When strong, avoid them. Attack their weaknesses. Emerge to their surprise.)
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To: massgopguy

GOOD ONE!!!


66 posted on 02/04/2013 9:39:42 AM PST by DickBrannigan (When did logic become reversed, and right became wrong, and wrong became right?)
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To: vwbug
"Why can’t he be satisfied wearing womens panties like the rest of us."

"Oops, did I say that out loud"?

You're funny, vwbug!

67 posted on 02/04/2013 9:39:42 AM PST by hummingbird
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To: reaganaut1
Answer:

"Be true to yourself Mitt. You won't carry enough votes to be Senator either, so you might as well live out your golden years happy."

68 posted on 02/04/2013 9:43:36 AM PST by Abundy
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To: reaganaut1

If he was born a male, there is no way that he can become a woman. He can cut and whack,and nip and tuck to his heart’s content, but at the end of the day he is still a male.


69 posted on 02/04/2013 9:45:45 AM PST by sport
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To: dagogo redux
“I believed I would find happiness only once I was true to myself. “

Hey, I know! How about being true to your wife and children?

Selfish dope.

70 posted on 02/04/2013 9:46:56 AM PST by hummingbird
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To: reaganaut1

My God...he wants to be told its okay to destroy his family by mutilating his body to match his psychosis. YOU ARE MENTALLY ILL if you think you are something you, genetically, are not...a duck, a chicken, Lincoln, Marie Antoinette, anything. Now we’re making the mental illness real instead of curing it? He will FOREVER be male, but he won’t have family if he does this, and rightly so.


71 posted on 02/04/2013 9:54:40 AM PST by ClearBlueSky
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To: rbg81

“For the life of me (as a man), I can’t imagine what would cause a man to look down at his Johnson and think: “That’s really gotta go.””


You can’t? Well, there are plenty of ‘causes’ for this. How about for raping? (in all it’s forms), pedophilia?, bestiality?, molestation?, irresponsible seed-spilling?....I mean....the list could get quite extensive. Everyone knows that life here, on earth, has been spent in idolatry of the penis. Let’s not kid ourselves.


72 posted on 02/04/2013 9:58:42 AM PST by ourworldawry
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To: rbg81

“For the life of me (as a man), I can’t imagine what would cause a man to look down at his Johnson and think: “That’s really gotta go.””


You can’t? Well, there are plenty of ‘causes’ for this. How about for raping? (in all it’s forms), pedophilia?, bestiality?, molestation?, irresponsible seed-spilling?....I mean....the list could get quite extensive. Everyone knows that life here, on earth, has been spent in idolatry of the penis. Let’s not kid ourselves. It’s just that...many men don’t see these things as ‘cause’ enough.


73 posted on 02/04/2013 10:00:18 AM PST by ourworldawry
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To: reaganaut1

No, he is insane like most Democrats, up is down and down is up, good is evil and evil is good, we live in Bizarro world!


74 posted on 02/04/2013 10:01:38 AM PST by IslamE (epiphany)
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To: reaganaut1

We have lost the concept of self-sacrifice. It’s why divorce rates are so high — nobody thinks they should stay together “for the children” anymore. And in fact they’ve made an industry out of self-aggrandizing proclamations that the children are actually better off if the parents don’t “live the lie”.

But love and acceptance isn’t something that just happens, it is a choice of will. Nobody wants to make choices of will anymore, and we are discouraged from it. “Be true to yourself”. I guess if yourself is a lying cheating pedophile mass murderer, maybe we don’t want you to be “true to yourself”.

The liberals love this. They know that the result of people being “true to themselves” is that they will shirk all responsibility, leaving it up to the government to care for everybody.


75 posted on 02/04/2013 10:02:17 AM PST by CharlesWayneCT
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To: reaganaut1
Should I Become a Woman and Risk Causing Pain to My Wife and Children?

You can't become a woman, at best you can become a eunuch.

I would suggest you find someone who actually treats gender identity issues rather then someone who plays along with your problem.

Find out why being a "guy" makes you unhappy. Bad relationship with your dad or your mom is usually the cause but it could be something else.

And for the love of mike don't make your wife or kids upset about the matter. This is your problem. Why do you want to make it theirs?

The time has come to "man up". And forget about the "happy" bit. I have yet to meet anyone who is happy all the time. Being unhappy is part of life. Deal with it.

76 posted on 02/04/2013 10:03:04 AM PST by Harmless Teddy Bear (Promotional Fee Paid for by "Ouchies" The Sharp, Prickly Toy You Bathe With!)
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To: vwbug
Are you a lumberjack?

Are you OK?

77 posted on 02/04/2013 10:03:15 AM PST by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilization is Aborting, Buggering, and Contracepting itself out of existence.)
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To: Oberon

How sad :(

Somehow our culture has reached a point where one’s “sexuality” is the most important characteristic. Instead of looking at this with reason, what will be the most beneficial to all involved, people are encouraged to be selfish. Modern psychiatry tells them to embrace any and all ideas of sexual identity.

I find it difficult to understand how somebody could be an unselfish, loving, father but then make such a selfish decision. What does somebody *gain* by this? Unreal.


78 posted on 02/04/2013 10:03:15 AM PST by fuzzylogic (welfare state = sharing consequences of poor moral choices among everybody)
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To: reaganaut1
To quote Eagles, Get over it.
79 posted on 02/04/2013 10:08:20 AM PST by Phlap (REDNECK@LIBARTS.EDU)
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To: ourworldawry
Is your name Origen by any chance?
80 posted on 02/04/2013 10:10:13 AM PST by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilization is Aborting, Buggering, and Contracepting itself out of existence.)
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