Skip to comments.Love, Commitment, and Valentine’s Day
Posted on 02/14/2013 2:30:54 PM PST by Kaslin
Theres nothing very romantic about a man being beheaded because of his politically incorrect views. But February 14 marks the 1744th anniversary when tradition tells us that St. Valentine was executed in the Roman Empire for practicing his Christianity.
This was under a persecution of Emperor Claudius II, who banned his soldiers from marrying because he thought that single men could serve as better warriors.
He also forced the emperor-worship of a predecessor, Gallienus, upon the empire. This was something practicing Jews and Christians could not do---they worshiped God alone.
Author Bill Federer notes the consequences of Claudius actions on an Italian bishop (or priest?) named Valentine: When the Emperor demanded the Church violate its conscience and worship pagan idols, Bishop Valentine refused to comply.
Not only did Valentine not worship the emperor, he also surreptitiously married young couples.
Federer notes, Saint Valentine was arrested, dragged before the Prefect of Rome, who condemned him to be beaten to death with clubs and then have his head cut off on February 14, 269 AD.
Before he was beheaded, tradition tells us he prayed for the wardens ill child, and she got better. The bishop wrote her a small note and said it was "from your Valentine."
As Paul Harvey used to say, And now you know, the rest of the story.
Valentines Day is a great time to remember the importance of love in marriage. Something that seems to be often lacking these days. I just learned this week is National Marriage Week USA.
I gave a speech at my wedding in 1980 in my wifes church in Norway on The Ten Cs of a Happy Marriage. I dont remember everything I said, but here a few key points I made.
The first C of a happy marriage for us is Christ, the foundation of our marriage. When we made Him #1 in our lives, everything else worked out, come what may.
About twenty years ago, I was on the road around Valentines Day. I called a florist to request flowers to be sent to my wife, and I dictated this message to accompany the flowers:
Roses are red,
Violets are blue.
I love you the most,
Except for you know who.
The florist didnt understand and was reluctant to even write it up that way. Are you sure?
Yes, Im sure. My wife, Kirsti, picked up the message right away, as to the you know who.
I remember another C was commitment. If youre committed to each other, then youll work things out, even if hard. This is not the same as romantic feelings. Its rock solid commitment. Feelings come and feelings go. Then feelings come back, and they go. But commitment slogs on.
I remember a man who got married before I did. He also got divorced before I got married. I asked what happened. They got into a fight. OK, that happens to virtually everyone.
And then he said, Dont you love me anymore? And she hesitated and said, Im not sure.
He shouted, Thats it. Its over. And it was off to the divorce court.
But feelings of love are one thing, and commitment to each other in love is a different thing. Millions of couples today think that that if they fall in love with the right person, then the feelings of love will continue. But, again, feelings come and go. Commitment remains the same.
My wife and I made an agreement that before we got married, we could freely talk about divorce. But after we got married, we wouldnt even joke about it, since divorce is not an option.
I used to laugh at the late Mrs. Billy Grahams joke, when she was asked if she ever considered divorce. Divorce? No. Murder? Yes.
I say I used to laugh until I saw some episodes of true crime documentaries, showing where til death they departed---because one of them murdered his or her spouse.
Another key C for a happy marriage is communication. So often couples communicate on different levels. After a fight, if the husband buys her flowers, she might think hes trying to buy her love. Talking things out is so helpful. Marriage Encounter weekends teach excellent tools for communicating with each other.
One great question to ask is: What can I do to prove to you that I love you? Listen to the answer, and then do it.
The last C for a happy marriage I want to highlight is confession---confessing sin and forgiveness of same. Im sorry are some of the most important words in any language.
The Bible says, dont let the sun go down on your anger. In other words, dont go to bed with a fight unresolved.
So on the anniversary of a third century saint who prized his faith in the Lord and the importance of marriage above his own life, we can renew our commitments to love those whom God has placed in our lives, including our spouse. Happy St. Valentines Day.
Happy St Valentine’s Day, Albion
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