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Growing Up With Two Moms: The Untold Children’s View
http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com ^ | August 6th, 2012 | Robert Oscar Lopez

Posted on 03/26/2013 8:51:39 AM PDT by Maelstorm

Between 1973 and 1990, when my beloved mother passed away, she and her female romantic partner raised me. They had separate houses but spent nearly all their weekends together, with me, in a trailer tucked discreetly in an RV park 50 minutes away from the town where we lived. As the youngest of my mother’s biological children, I was the only child who experienced childhood without my father being around.

After my mother’s partner’s children had left for college, she moved into our house in town. I lived with both of them for the brief time before my mother died at the age of 53. I was 19. In other words, I was the only child who experienced life under “gay parenting” as that term is understood today.

Quite simply, growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors. People in our community didn’t really know what was going on in the house. To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A's.

Inside, however, I was confused. When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.

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TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: demagogicparty; gay; gaymarriage; homosexualagenda; lgbt; marriage; nambla; sodomy; ssm; sssm
A different perspective from a guy raised in a Lesbian household.
1 posted on 03/26/2013 8:51:40 AM PDT by Maelstorm
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To: Maelstorm

No, this can’t be true. From what we’re told children of queer “parents” are just as normal as can be. He must be “confused”...

/huge globs of sarcasm


2 posted on 03/26/2013 8:57:37 AM PDT by rockrr (Everything is different now...)
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To: Maelstorm

From the article:

“I thank Mark Regnerus. Far from being “bullshit,” his work is affirming to me, because it acknowledges what the gay activist movement has sought laboriously to erase, or at least ignore. Whether homosexuality is chosen or inbred, whether gay marriage gets legalized or not, being strange is hard; it takes a mental toll, makes it harder to find friends, interferes with professional growth, and sometimes leads one down a sodden path to self-medication in the form of alcoholism, drugs, gambling, antisocial behavior, and irresponsible sex.”


3 posted on 03/26/2013 9:05:47 AM PDT by Rennes Templar (Business owners work harder! You have to support millions.)
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To: Maelstorm

Interesting.

Like gay mortality data, one rarely sees clear, unbiased stories and data about gay households.

My best evidence is my own observations - of the danger and damage of the “gay lifestyle” and my own observations of children I know “parented” by gay men and women. If you imagine that 2 lesbians raising kids is screwed up, you should see the result of 2 gay men raising kids....


4 posted on 03/26/2013 9:07:52 AM PDT by PGR88
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To: Maelstorm

After reading this article, I have no trouble believing that if this gentleman were raised in a home with a father and mother who loved each other, had a normal family life, had decent dates in high school, and grew up a typical boy, he would not be at all confused about his current sexuality, and would be a happily married man with a wife and children.

Just my humble opinion based on what I read.

He wasn’t “born that way.”


5 posted on 03/26/2013 9:09:28 AM PDT by left that other site (Worry is the darkroom that developes negatives.)
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To: Maelstorm

Interesting article, thanks.


6 posted on 03/26/2013 9:10:49 AM PDT by tet68 ( " We would not die in that man's company, that fears his fellowship to die with us...." Henry V.)
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To: Maelstorm
Truly, actions have consequences.

The author's mother, having *chosen* to live with a "partner", turned the author into an embittered, broken man.

In reading between the lines, it sounds like if she had raised the author as a single parent, the author would have had many of the same issues. But, it's hard to tell, and anyone can "what if" themselves to death.

Bottom line, as a parent, your #1 responsibility is to your child, not to yourself.

7 posted on 03/26/2013 9:14:13 AM PDT by wbill
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To: rockrr
A friend of mine has a father who is transgendered.
He used to confide to me how he would get up in the morning and wonder how his father “felt” that day and would he be a man or a woman.
This troubled him deeply. He always said his father was crazy but he loved him anyway. Now that he is grown, he still has a relationship with his dad. He said when his two children were young that they would never stay unsupervised with his parents until they were old enough to know what was going on. I guess his mom didn't care or he never told me how she felt.
So sad to have grandparents you may trust , but not really trust.
8 posted on 03/26/2013 9:14:50 AM PDT by lucky american (The Democrats will follow the big "D"even if it means going over a cliff.)
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To: Maelstorm

I don’t know if I could have handled two Jewish mothers.

Probably would have ended up goth or something...


9 posted on 03/26/2013 9:18:49 AM PDT by varyouga
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To: Maelstorm
Growing Up With Two Moms: The Untold Children’s View When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.

wait, should we believe him, who lived it, or 'Experts' who do not.

My dad said that an Expert is a 'has been (Ex) drip (pert)' or an expert is someone miles away who tell you what you want to hear!

I hope he recovered!

10 posted on 03/26/2013 9:33:32 AM PDT by ExCTCitizen (More Republicans stayed home then the margin of victory of O's Win...)
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To: Maelstorm

11 posted on 03/26/2013 9:40:28 AM PDT by WalterSkinner ( In Memory of My Father--WWII Vet and Patriot 1926-2007)
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To: Maelstorm

The raging fang-toothed man-hating feminazis are going to pounce on this.


12 posted on 03/26/2013 9:42:26 AM PDT by I want the USA back (Pi$$ed off yet?)
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To: Maelstorm

One of our friends of the family was a former gay stripper who is now a heterosexual and married.

Gays SCORN people like that.


13 posted on 03/26/2013 9:50:24 AM PDT by struggle (http://killthegovernment.wordpress.com/)
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To: left that other site

I agree but its not about the kids its about the gay. See one of the biggest contradictions in the LGBT is the B.


14 posted on 03/26/2013 9:50:44 AM PDT by Maelstorm (This country wasn't founded with the battle cry "Give me liberty or give me a govt check!")
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To: Maelstorm

Wow, great point. Isn’t it only intellectually honest that the “L” and “G” members of this community be supporting their “B” members and advocate in favor of being married to both a man and a woman at the same time?


15 posted on 03/26/2013 10:32:42 AM PDT by Fair Paul
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To: Maelstorm

Indeed.


16 posted on 03/26/2013 10:33:36 AM PDT by left that other site (Worry is the darkroom that developes negatives.)
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To: Maelstorm

I remember watching Patrick Macnee, the actor from the Avengers, on Larry King Live several years ago. He was raised by a lesbian mother and her “partner”, which he mentioned to Larry King. King then said, “And you turned out OK.” Macnee corrected him and replied, “No, I didn’t.” He went on to explain how he became an alcoholic, and had trouble with relationships with women. I think he had been married 3 times at that time. He blamed these things on his confusion about being raised with 2 “mommies”.


17 posted on 03/26/2013 11:01:32 AM PDT by murron (Proud Mom of a Marine Vet)
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To: rockrr

My kids’ high school had an ED (Emotionally Disabled?) program for kids who had serious social issues that impacted their learning.

Among it students were the children raised in single sex parental households. Not one of those kids was ‘normal.’ Not one. I always had special feelings for those kids because there was not a thing they could do to alter their homes’ lifestyles.

It would be interesting to see where they are now, what they’ve done with their lives, and what lifestyle(s) they’ve chosen to follow for themselves as adults.


18 posted on 03/26/2013 11:13:05 AM PDT by EDINVA
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To: Maelstorm

Did this man ever think of how his father must have lived?

His father who lived with a woman who had sex with him as an act she carried on because she had to cover her trail,and not because she enjoyed it.His mother who took advantage of his father and his paycheck, but was never really in love with him.She slept with him and lived with him in a farce of love.She used him.
Does he ever wonder if his mother ever felt punished by having a male child? Did she use him, like she used his father, and raised him because she had to and not love?

How can a woman sleep with a man, profess love for him and go out and perform cunnilingus on the woman she really wants to be with.If she were honest she would have left his father and moved out before he was even conceived.


19 posted on 03/26/2013 11:19:22 AM PDT by Venturer
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To: Maelstorm; stephenjohnbanker; ding_dong_daddy_from_dumas; Gilbo_3; Impy; NFHale; BillyBoy; ...
RE: My peers learned all the unwritten rules of decorum and body language in their homes; they understood what was appropriate to say in certain settings and what wasn’t; they learned both traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine social mechanisms.
Even if my peers’ parents were divorced, and many of them were, they still grew up seeing male and female social models. They learned, typically, how to be bold and unflinching from male figures and how to write thank-you cards and be sensitive from female figures. These are stereotypes, of course, but stereotypes come in handy when you inevitably leave the safety of your lesbian mom’s trailer and have to work and survive in a world where everybody thinks in stereotypical terms, even gays.
I had no male figure at all to follow, and my mother and her partner were both unlike traditional fathers or traditional mothers. As a result, I had very few recognizable social cues to offer potential male or female friends, since I was neither confident nor sensitive to others. Thus I befriended people rarely and alienated others easily. Gay people who grew up in straight parents’ households may have struggled with their sexual orientation; but when it came to the vast social universe of adaptations not dealing with sexuality—how to act, how to speak, how to behave—they had the advantage of learning at home. Many gays don’t realize what a blessing it was to be reared in a traditional home.
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It was not until I was twenty-eight that I suddenly found myself in a relationship with a woman, through coincidences that shocked everyone who knew me and surprised even myself. I call myself bisexual because it would take several novels to explain how I ended up “straight” after almost thirty years as a gay man. I don’t feel like dealing with gay activists skewering me the way they go on search-and-destroy missions against ex-gays, “closet cases,” or "homocons.
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This man's story will be buried for sure. A boy raised by two lesbo wimmin, that is a design for disaster. If one 'single' mom doesnt work, give him two.

20 posted on 03/26/2013 11:23:34 AM PDT by sickoflibs (To GOP : Any path to US citizenship IS putting them ahead in line. Stop lying about your position.)
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To: left that other site

Here’s my $.02.

If one is born homosexual, then where is the test to prove it? There’s a test for Down’s, etc. Let’s just suppose - just suppose - that one is born that way. Would the left be ok with abortion of a homosexual baby?

If one is NOT born homosexual, and it is choice, then what is the “trigger” that causes one to choose homosexuality?

Very simple questions, that should be able to be proven one way or another.

/I have a homosexual family member, and I just wonder, why? Why is he homosexual? What makes him want sexual relations with another man? It just doesn’t make any sense.


21 posted on 03/26/2013 12:09:08 PM PDT by ro_dreaming (G.K. Chesterton, “Christianity has not been tried and found wanting. It’s been found hard and lef)
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To: ro_dreaming

I think that the left would be very conflicted if a pre-natal test for homosexuality precipitated an abortion.

On the other hand, they don’t seem to have a problem with China and India aborting entire generations of FEMALE Babies, so who knows?


22 posted on 03/26/2013 12:16:16 PM PDT by left that other site (Worry is the darkroom that developes negatives.)
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23 posted on 03/26/2013 3:49:07 PM PDT by SunkenCiv (Romney would have been worse, if you're a dumb ass.)
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To: sickoflibs

It really saddens me to see how children are used as props in their war against sexual morality, not only their own hapless children but our own chilren as well because they want our children’s minds, the younger the better.


24 posted on 03/26/2013 5:45:51 PM PDT by cradle of freedom (Long live the Republic !)
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25 posted on 03/26/2013 5:50:13 PM PDT by narses
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