Posted on 04/12/2013 5:27:10 AM PDT by traderrob6
For many women, having a child is a joyous, albeit life-changing, occasion. But for 57-year-old Isabella Dutton of Britain, it was her biggest mistake.
Dutton, a typist, wrote a first-hand account for the UK’s Daily Mail in which she details her regrets about having her two children, Stuart and Jo.
“My son Stuart was five days old when the realisation hit me like a physical blow: having a child had been the biggest mistake of my life,” she wrote. “I felt completely detached from this alien being who had encroached upon my settled married life and changed it, irrevocably, for the worse.”
Dutton said that despite her indifference, she invested all of her time and energy into caring for her children. But she soon came to resent their neediness and the time spent doting on them that could have been used to “reflect, read and enjoy her own company.”
(Excerpt) Read more at living.msn.com ...
"Daughter, if that is true, then we regret having you."
The height of selfishness, and ignorant enough to admit and describe it.
What a lowlife.
I’m sure the feeling is mutual. Just wait until her kids go to pick her old folks home. I’m sure they’ll take great care.
I think that some people, if they were brutally honest with themselves, would admit that they should not have had their children when they did. Especially young or out-of-wedlock mothers. In that sense, they can regret having kids. But to look back over the kids’ entire childhood and still say that you regret having them is a monumental act of self-centeredness. Let’s see how this “mother” feels if her kids regret having her as their mother and dump her off in a nursing home to die alone.
And expecting people to nod in understanding and sympathy.
Some people are damaged, they have children, and cannot love and value their children.
Some people are damaged, they want to have sex with people of their own gender.
Some people are damaged, they want a surgeon to re-make them in a different gender.
Plenty of people are damaged. It's always been that way -- by our very nature, we are all damaged to some extent. No one is perfect.
The central problem is this: Society now looks at the damaged people and says "Well, that's perfectly normal. Only a very bad person would criticize someone for being like that. By all means, carry on. Don't change! Don't repent! Don't try to do better! You are fine just the way you are: perfectly normal."
Until we regain the ability to judge the damaged people and say, "You're doing it wrong" our society will not get well.
If there’s any justice in the world that’s exactly what will happen.
Well Adam Lanza’s mom probably wondered what she ever did to deserve him...........
Great episode in Doc Martin where his mother tells him what a mistake it was to have him and how it ruined her life. Explains a lot about the Doc. Great series if you haven’t seen it.
And MSN posts this story in its “Living” section. What birdcage-lining trolls they are.
What she has to say is unpleasant, but it also sounds like this mom could have used some help and a few Mother's Day Outs. The loss of autonomy when one has small children is hard to deal with, and the culture does not value or honor motherhood anymore. They just provide the abortion clinics.
I'm willing to give her the benefit of a doubt, and hope that she finds some support and encouragement, which I think may be what she really wants, but doesn't know how to find it.
Exactly. This article is the print version of the Jerry Springer show.
I wouldn’t be surprised if it turns out the writer was paid to write an article to an already planned headline.
There are people to numerous to count who cannot have children and desperately want them. If parenting is too big a burden for this woman, she should give the child up for adoption to someone who would provide the child a loving home.
you want one of the shooters as your kid? How do you think their mothers feel having been sentenced to managing one of them
This is so very right. Thanks for giving me a jolt of common sense to start my day!
Her first child was five days old when she realized she had made a “mistake”. She should have found a loving couple to raise this child... one that would actually love him. Yet, she went on to have a second child... knowing full well that she had no feelings for the children she brought forth into this world. She is selfish, self absorbed and lacking something in her psyche. I pity her children.. who know the world realizes their own Mother sees them as parasitic and destroyers of her “life”.
Well, unlike most people on FR, I do sympathize. I never wanted children, I don’t enjoy being around them, and I have no idea why anyone does. Now fortunately for me, I knew this at a very young age. I always said I’d never have kids (and people didn’t believe me, argued with me, scolded me) and I didn’t. I don’t regret it either. It’s a pity she didn’t recognize this about herself earlier in life: some of us are simply not cut out for parenthood. Better to know it and just don’t do it.
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