Why is it such a good thing to introduce 5-year-olds to the public display "ceremonies" of life passages that are ... ordinary?? KINDERGARTEN graduation?!? You're training five-year-olds to attach anxiety and significance on others (looking for daddy in the audience and when he's not there, being disappointed) when an ORDINARY event passes. Please be honest enough to recognize that any public display celebration of something any normal kid does at such a young age, is ONLY for the adults.
Stop being so touch-feely and start thinking.
Training them? Nay, not me. I simply observed what the children DO and reported the same. You are the one imputing agendas. Look inside yourself, Clarice. Re-read and think again.