Different kind of men. Different kind of motivations.
I am sorry that the South lost, and most (though, apparently, not you) give them credit for giving it a noble effort with no lack of commitment or courage on their part.
No, I don't give them credit for jack. Their cause was not noble. Their courage was wasted.
Fairy tales abound on both sides, if you wish to speak in those terms. The biggest of which is that Robert E. Lee was a traitor.
Oh I've got a bigger one for you. The persistent claim that the South did not rebel over slavery.
Different kind of men. Different kind of motivations.
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You are entitled to your smug, small-hearted, and — I would assert — ahistorical view of outstanding men such as Robert E. Lee, Thomas Jonathan “Stonewall” Jackson, and James Longstreet, to name a few.
Nice.