Skip to comments.The Hookup Hoax. The new brainwashing: Liberated women love casual, meaningless sex.
Posted on 07/23/2013 7:51:36 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Noting the comeback campaigns of Eliot Spitzer and Anthony Weiner in New York, feminist author Hanna Rosin wonders why 50 years into the sexual revolution women politicians lag so far behind men in the sex-scandal tally. She notes biological and evolutionary explanations only to reject them in favor of the idea that women are just too unused to power to abuse it in that way. Shes cheered, though, by surveys showing that younger women are cheating on their spouses almost as much as men, and confidently looks forward to the not-too-distant day when well find ourselves willing to look past the indiscretions of women philanderers too.
Welcome to the feminist paradise, where the ideal is for women to model themselves not just on men, but on the worst men.
Fifty years ago, Betty Friedan, a restless Marxist, published The Feminine Mystique. Its premise was that women were miserable in the comfortable concentration camp of domestic life but were too brainwashed to know it. The job of feminism was to raise the consciousness of these benighted dupes. Friedans timing was felicitous. The U.S. economy was expanding dramatically, labor-saving devices had made housework much less time-consuming, and technological progress was making brain work more valuable than physical strength in the marketplace. Friedan and her many acolytes were pushing on an open door.
But they pushed in the wrong direction. Not satisfied with encouraging women to pursue careers and correcting legal barriers to womens equality, feminists sought nothing less than the obliteration of family life and traditional sexual mores. The double standard in matters of sex, they taught, favored men. The solution was promiscuity for everyone (enabled by unrestricted abortion).
It was a foolish and self-defeating wrong turn.
Fifty years on, we have this dispatch from the University of Pennsylvania: Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game Too, a New York Times account of the way women at one Ivy League school are supposedly hooking up in preference to having relationships. Its not that the sexual revolution actually favored men, the Times reassures its readers, its just that women are too focused on careers to make time for men. They pursue sex with hookup buddies without a flicker of regret.
This is the new brainwashing. Women have been sold (and sold and sold) on the notion that happiness and fulfillment are to be found in careers. Marriage and children are items to be calendared after the M.B.A., J.D., or Ph.D. Sex is recreation. Getting attached to the human being behind the sex organ can limit your internship options.
Cheerleading articles like Hanna Rosins 2012 Atlantic piece Boys on the Side argue that, far from enduring the hookup culture, women are enjoying their promiscuous freedom. The New York Times piece is in that mold.
I dont believe it for a second. Neither article bothers to deny what all of the research shows namely, that women get themselves sloppy drunk before they engage in hookups. If casual, anonymous sex is so enjoyable for women, why the need to anesthetize themselves first? And if women are calling the shots, why do men get oral sex in hookups far more often than women do?
The Times piece notes that the hookup culture isnt as widespread as media treatment would suggest. According to a recent survey, 40 percent of college seniors either are virgins or have had sex with only one person. Some student groups, like the Love and Fidelity Network, are self-consciously countercultural. Still, most students must deal with the sexual degradation that is a feature of most campuses. Several women students confessed to the Times that they engaged in hookups only after concluding that waiting for a relationship was unrealistic. Here is one students account of a typical freshman fraternity party:
You go in, and they take you down to a dark basement, Haley, a blond, pink-cheeked senior, recalled of her first frat parties in freshman year. Theres girls dancing in the middle, and theres guys lurking on the sides and then coming and basically pressing their genitals up against you and trying to dance.
Charming. Another girl explained why her encounters in her first two years of college usually ended with fellatio. Early in the evening, shed get very drunk.
By the time she got back to a guys room, she was starting to sober up and didnt want to be there anymore, and giving the guy oral sex was an easy way to wrap things up and leave.
It takes a lot of spin to call that liberation.
Mona Charen is a nationally syndicated columnist.
Soooo, liberated women are dudes?
“Progressives” have been propagandizing women for decades into believing this stuff. TV, movies, magazines,pop culture ... all of it relentlessly trying to pound into women’s heads that to be promiscuous is cool.
At the same time, the so-call traditionalists have been working equally hard to promote the “boys will be boys” meme for excusing away male sexual misbehavior.
Both sides have contributed to this moral morass we are in.
HPV and warts will supply the meaning.
I see nothing wrong with any woman having a zest for living
The hookup culture is beginning to look more and more like the wildly promiscuous male homosexual culture.
Ask any gay man over the age of 25 how satisfying and fulfilling they find the wildly promiscuous male homosexual culture, and how they feel about the things they did when they were younger.
This is not a good road to be on. We know where this road ends, and it is not a place where you want to be.
Damn! I wonder if I can score at college if I go back at 70+? It was never like that when I was there.
As a former flight attendant, I have worked with thousands of women. I have NEVER met one who glorified one night stands. EVER, EVER.
If one talked about having one, it was usually with extreme regret and self loathing.
That being said, DEMOCRAT women might thrive on such self debasing, destructive behavior, but I don’t socialize with them and don’t care how they exterminate themselves through their risky behaviors.
RE: HPV and warts will supply the meaning.
Not to worry, they’ll soon have a vaccine for that... /s
Granted, but it is a very fine line....regardless of gender.
I have long maintained that feminist 'thought' can be summed up as follows: "Men are crude, rude, vulgar, obscene, profane, inconsiderate foul pigs. Let's try to be just like them".
There are a lot of girls out there with "Daddy Issues", but the girl with "Grandpa Issues" is much harder to find...
+2 for the game point if you add "...while simultaneously faulting them for being that way."
If you've ever been party to a conversation among women, they are quite vulgar in their own right.
The shit that women have to put up with: the bleeding, the cramps, child birth... they have their own special sisterhood of crass that often rival men.
The number one sexually transmitted disease in women is depression.
Women were wired to want commitment, love, and romance. Guys just like sex.
I have believed for a long time that the punks from the sixties completely changed our culture. They popularized drug usage, casual sex, shacking up, and disrespect for our history and country. Now they are running the country. I do not see any way to change this.
Are you on the right forum? Fornicating and living in sin is not a “zest for living.” It is traveling 100mph on the highway to hell.
It was exactly like this in the late 60s-early 70’s too, except the evening ended with worries about going blind...
Fire up the DeLorean!
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