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The Hookup Hoax. The new brainwashing: Liberated women love casual, meaningless sex.
National Review ^ | 07/23/2013 | Mona Charen

Posted on 07/23/2013 7:51:36 AM PDT by SeekAndFind

Noting the comeback campaigns of Eliot Spitzer and Anthony Weiner in New York, feminist author Hanna Rosin wonders why “50 years into the sexual revolution” women politicians lag so far behind men in the sex-scandal tally. She notes biological and evolutionary explanations only to reject them in favor of the idea that women are just too unused to power to abuse it in that way. She’s cheered, though, by surveys showing that younger women are cheating on their spouses almost as much as men, and confidently looks forward to the not-too-distant day when we’ll “find ourselves willing to look past the indiscretions” of women philanderers too.

Welcome to the feminist paradise, where the ideal is for women to model themselves not just on men, but on the worst men.

Fifty years ago, Betty Friedan, a restless Marxist, published The Feminine Mystique. Its premise was that women were miserable in the “comfortable concentration camp” of domestic life but were too brainwashed to know it. The job of feminism was to “raise the consciousness” of these benighted dupes. Friedan’s timing was felicitous. The U.S. economy was expanding dramatically, labor-saving devices had made housework much less time-consuming, and technological progress was making brain work more valuable than physical strength in the marketplace. Friedan and her many acolytes were pushing on an open door.

But they pushed in the wrong direction. Not satisfied with encouraging women to pursue careers and correcting legal barriers to women’s equality, feminists sought nothing less than the obliteration of family life and traditional sexual mores. The “double standard” in matters of sex, they taught, favored men. The solution was promiscuity for everyone (enabled by unrestricted abortion).

It was a foolish and self-defeating wrong turn.

Fifty years on, we have this dispatch from the University of Pennsylvania: “Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game Too,” a New York Times account of the way women at one Ivy League school are supposedly “hooking up” in preference to having relationships. It’s not that the sexual revolution actually favored men, the Times reassures its readers, it’s just that women are too focused on careers to make time for men. They pursue sex with “hookup buddies” without a flicker of regret.

This is the new brainwashing. Women have been sold (and sold and sold) on the notion that happiness and fulfillment are to be found in careers. Marriage and children are items to be calendared after the M.B.A., J.D., or Ph.D. Sex is recreation. Getting attached to the human being behind the sex organ can limit your internship options.

Cheerleading articles like Hanna Rosin’s 2012 Atlantic piece “Boys on the Side” argue that, far from enduring the “hookup culture,” women are enjoying their promiscuous freedom. The New York Times piece is in that mold.

I don’t believe it for a second. Neither article bothers to deny what all of the research shows — namely, that women get themselves sloppy drunk before they engage in “hookups.” If casual, anonymous sex is so enjoyable for women, why the need to anesthetize themselves first? And if women are calling the shots, why do men get oral sex in hookups far more often than women do?

The Times piece notes that the hookup culture isn’t as widespread as media treatment would suggest. According to a recent survey, 40 percent of college seniors either are virgins or have had sex with only one person. Some student groups, like the Love and Fidelity Network, are self-consciously countercultural. Still, most students must deal with the sexual degradation that is a feature of most campuses. Several women students confessed to the Times that they engaged in hookups only after concluding that waiting for a relationship was unrealistic. Here is one student’s account of a typical freshman fraternity party:

“You go in, and they take you down to a dark basement,” Haley, a blond, pink-cheeked senior, recalled of her first frat parties in freshman year. “There’s girls dancing in the middle, and there’s guys lurking on the sides and then coming and basically pressing their genitals up against you and trying to dance.”

Charming. Another girl explained why her encounters in her first two years of college “usually ended with fellatio.” Early in the evening, she’d get very drunk.

“By the time she got back to a guy’s room, she was starting to sober up and didn’t want to be there anymore, and giving the guy oral sex was an easy way to wrap things up and leave.”

It takes a lot of spin to call that liberation.

— Mona Charen is a nationally syndicated columnist.


TOPICS: Constitution/Conservatism; Culture/Society; News/Current Events; US: New York
KEYWORDS: anthonyweiner; carlosdanger; casualsex; fornication; hookup; monacharen; newyork; newyorkcity; rabbitpeople; radicalfeminists; rkselection; singles; trends; women
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To: Cowgirl of Justice
As a former flight attendant, I have worked with thousands of women. I have NEVER met one who glorified one night stands. EVER, EVER.

That is because, in reality, one night stands goes against a woman's nature to nurture.

A woman's role is to bring out the better side of the man she falls in love with and when she is talked into letting a man have his way with her when she is not ready it goes against everything she knows deep down to be true.

I do believe that the push to make women just like horny men begins in middle school sex ed where a girl is taught to let down her natural sense of modesty which was put there by God to protect her. When she has lost that and she is drunk at a party when she is 19, she will act just like a drunk frat guy, thereby fulfilling the wet dreams of "liberated" men-hating women.

21 posted on 07/23/2013 8:23:44 AM PDT by Slyfox (Without the Right to Life, all other rights are meaningless.)
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To: saminfl

the punks from the sixties completely changed our culture....................................... You got that right, and we can thank Hollywood for the intensity of the sexual propaganda. Now they have their own award show for the Porn Industry. Deep Throat was the turning point, it was down hill from there. Sex is has been cheapened, it once meant love, now its just game we play for the thrill. BTW, I’m still 20 yrs old, but I’m wrapped inside this old man’s body and can’t get out of it. :(


22 posted on 07/23/2013 8:25:57 AM PDT by Bringbackthedraft (Remember Ty Woods? Glenn Doherty ? Forgot already?)
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To: saminfl

Very concise and insightful comment.

I refer to the new culture as an old culture, paganism. The proponents are the neo-pagans. Combine this pattern of sexual behavior with weakening health care services and promoting stress and you will see a reduction in quality of life and possibly life expectancy.

On a lighter note, genealogy research will be almost impossible to do.


23 posted on 07/23/2013 8:31:15 AM PDT by iacovatx (Conservatism is the political center--it is not "right" of center)
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To: struggle
Women were wired to want commitment, love, and romance. Guys just like sex.

It's been said "Men give love to get sex; women give sex to get love".

24 posted on 07/23/2013 8:33:25 AM PDT by DuncanWaring (The Lord uses the good ones; the bad ones use the Lord.)
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To: rarestia
In a healthy society, women keep their crudity in the 'sisterhood', men keep their crudity in the 'brotherhood', and everybody cleans up their act in mixed company. And marriage provides both sides a private little window into how the other half thinks.

American society is not healthy, and has not been for a very long time.

25 posted on 07/23/2013 8:35:02 AM PDT by ArrogantBustard (Western Civilization is Aborting, Buggering, and Contracepting itself out of existence.)
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To: Puppage
Liberated women aspire to be dudes. And not just any dudes, but trivial, no-count, triflin', shallow, sh*t-for-brains dudes.
26 posted on 07/23/2013 8:35:46 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o ("The story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves short." Abraham Maslow)
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To: SeekAndFind

Introducing Next Day Wart Away by Ronco!


27 posted on 07/23/2013 8:35:57 AM PDT by chris37 (Heartless.)
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To: al baby; SeekAndFind

Promiscuity is as pro-sex as the clap.


28 posted on 07/23/2013 8:37:18 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o ("The story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves short." Abraham Maslow)
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To: Mrs. Don-o
Liberated women aspire to be dudes

They want to be gay guys in women's bodies.

29 posted on 07/23/2013 8:37:22 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: Haiku Guy
"Damn! I wonder if I can score at college if I go back at 70+? It was never like that when I was there."

They're all in the nursing homes now....check that out. ;-)

30 posted on 07/23/2013 8:38:07 AM PDT by Average Al
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To: ArrogantBustard

I agree 100%. I am the consummate gentleman around the womenfolk in my family, and when it’s just the guys, we can get crass.

I don’t agree with the idea of a woman being “one of the boys,” but my wife fits that bill well enough. I don’t bother to try to understand the crudity of femininity.


31 posted on 07/23/2013 8:40:09 AM PDT by rarestia (It's time to water the Tree of Liberty.d)
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To: SeekAndFind
This is about female animals (I won't call them women) setting male animals up to be sued for a lifetime of income, so read The Golden Uterus Syndrome.

Men ... BEWARE ... WARNING ... DANGER !!!!
32 posted on 07/23/2013 8:43:56 AM PDT by Yosemitest (It's Simple ! Fight, ... or Die !)
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To: al baby

I see nothing wrong with any woman having a zest for living

6 posted on 7/23/2013 10:58:05 AM by al baby (Hi Mom)

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Were you intending that to appear as if you were coming on to your mother? ;-)


33 posted on 07/23/2013 8:46:07 AM PDT by SoothingDave
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To: iacovatx
On a lighter note, genealogy research will be almost impossible to do.

My wife, who passed away May 30, was a genealogist. Twice each year I had to go work in Utah and she always went with me to do genealogical research.

34 posted on 07/23/2013 8:52:36 AM PDT by saminfl
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To: Haiku Guy
Way back in --- was it 1970? --- Germaine Greer wrote "The Female Eunuch" in which she basically said that the problem isn't that fags are expected to act effeminate, but that women are expected to act like fags.

Poor Germaine. She was always all over the map. She'd say something like "I seek freedom to be a person, with dignity, integrity, nobility, passion, and pride that constitute personhood" --- and then start acting like a pomiscuous moron and moral midget (like a male homosexual) -- and then wonder why she had lifelong problems with deperession and substance abuse.

Sad and disappointing.

35 posted on 07/23/2013 8:56:14 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o ("The story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves short." Abraham Maslow)
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To: Bringbackthedraft

I believe it was Bill Clinton and Monica that made Fellatio the way to go.

Right after Bill it started in Middle school.

Of course it’s been around a long time, it’s just that few “good” girl admitted to it.Once sex was mostly just the missionary position during dating and experimenting later on , after marriage. Now anything goes including anal sex, watching girls perform on each other, and multiple partners.


36 posted on 07/23/2013 9:09:01 AM PDT by Venturer
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To: SeekAndFind

And the follies of youth will lead to the loneliness of later life.

Enjoy it while you can, as “ hookups” are what life is really all about..


37 posted on 07/23/2013 9:11:31 AM PDT by patriotspride
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To: DuncanWaring; struggle
It's been said "Men give love to get sex; women give sex to get love".

The big problem with that is that it means men are incapable of love. When a person views another person as a service utility, that is not love, no matter how he tries to dress it up.

I'm not sure why men would want women to believe them incapable of love, nor why men would want to believe that about themselves. Maybe a man can explain.

38 posted on 07/23/2013 9:12:29 AM PDT by Tax-chick ("Thomas will explain everything.")
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To: patriotspride

And the follies of youth will lead to the loneliness of later life.

Enjoy it while you can, as “ hookups” aren’t what life is really all about..


Fingers typed too fast.... Meant to say aren’t not are.... :) :)


39 posted on 07/23/2013 9:13:09 AM PDT by patriotspride
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To: Puppage

As the article points out, women ought to not only become like men, but the worst kind of men. Only then can they be equal.


40 posted on 07/23/2013 9:13:49 AM PDT by Blood of Tyrants (Inside every liberal and WOD defender is a totalitarian screaming to get out.)
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