Skip to comments.Lifetime of love: Couple married 75 years die a day apart
Posted on 07/29/2013 10:28:21 PM PDT by South40
When Les and Helen Brown became high school sweethearts more than 75 years ago, their parents didnt believe the match would last.
Les recently slipped into a coma at the couples Long Beach, Calif., home, and hospice workers said he might live for just a few more days. Helen, who was expected to survive for some months, became very weak. She passed away on July 16. Les died the following day he never knew about his wifes death. They were 94 years old.
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Wow. The lengths some kids will go to to prove their parents wrong.
Really nice-looking couple! May they rest in peace.
“She passed away on July 16. Les died the following day he never knew about his wifes death. They were 94 years old.”
Somehow, this doesn’t surprise me. There are so many examples, for instance, of dogs who pass away not long after their masters do.
There have been experiments where researchers found that dogs can tell when their owners leave work—even at times that aren’t the usual time. The dogs start pacing, etc... They just know, just as this man felt his wife’s passing.
The bonds of affection can sometimes be so strong. May we all be fortunate enough to experience that at some point in our lives.
The loving couple is now reunited in Heaven.
p.s., kind of unrelated, but perhaps not, doggie ping, Joe 6-pack :)
“Wow. The lengths some kids will go to to prove their parents wrong.”
LOL, indeed!! :)
An aunt and uncle of mine were married for 47 years and they died 2-months apart. This couple reminded me of them.
“An aunt and uncle of mine were married for 47 years and they died 2-months apart. This couple reminded me of them.”
47 years... that is amazing. Without getting too personal, I’m having some ... trouble in my 22 year marriage. Sometimes I feel we’re staying together just for the kids. I would love to believe that love can endure for years like that. The passion may go away, but affection and love can remain. I admire people who can make it work for that long.
God bless your Aunt and Uncle.
I am starting to tear up a bit—but I will just add that our modern culture makes it so difficult for people stay in it for the long haul.
My wife and I will have been married 50 years in a few months. There have been some rough, rough periods and I’m pretty sure there will be more but the rough spots can be smoothed out. Give and forgive.
Reminds me of a corny joke told by my high school biology teacher (1963).
One of the gals in the front row was wearing a brown dress, he asked her “Do you know you look like Helen Brown?”
My folks were married for 71 years and my Mom died in 2011. Even though they lived together in the same board-and-care for about a year and a half (which my Dad entered about 6 months earlier than she did) my Dad (age 97) does not know she passed, and I have no intention of telling him. He thinks she’s out shopping or something.
I don’t really have anything profound to say about them/him. It was very difficult to find a facility where they could both live: She had cancer and suffered from horrible and extremely painful leg ulcers from excess fluid production; he had dementia. Many, many places do not like to combine medical with Alzheimer’s/dementia.
It probably would have been better for him to have passed close to when she did, but I am not the arbiter of that event. He has zero interest in continuing to live, but he has a pacemaker so he probably could not die even if he chose to. I’m confident that the place I found for them worked magnificently and was very reasonably priced and that he is comfortable and well cared for. Beyond visiting him often and accepting that he thinks I’m his brother, I don’t see much more I can do for him. The Korean woman who runs the joint is smart as hell, very observant (ex-RN for 20+ years) and is keeping him & the one other client even though she wants to retire and close the place down. I’m very grateful for all aspects of the way it all worked out. I was really, really lucky to have found it.
I'm so sorry to hear you are having troubles. Mrs. 40 and I recently celebrated our 20th. We met late in life so it's not likely we will see our 47th but who knows. Best of wishes to you.
Thank you for sharing the story of your folks. 71 years is a long time.
Thank you, Jukeman. 50 years! Amazing.
But you’re right. There are good times and bad times; your post makes me think of the Neil Young song, “You and Me.”
I suppose it’s impossible to navigate decades of married life without some turbulence from time to time.
Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary; your post means a lot to me. :) Seriously...
“Give and forgive”—that is excellent advice.
Yeah, dementia is tough. Yet...there is nothing I can see or think of that, if it were changed, would make his life, such as it is, any better. And it could easily make it worse.
His doctor says: If he is eating and has a smile on his face now and then, he’s doing fine. He has a ravenous appetite (eating being probably the only thing he has of any “feel” nature) which is good. I will tell you that I have thought he was at a “knee in the curve” in his overall health 47 times and was about to enter a steep decline towards the inevitable. And every time, he just slows down a teeny bit and gets little bit less chatty...but that’s about it.
“My aunt and uncle were both incredible people. I spoke to her more than I spoke to my own mother and she told me she spoke to me more than she spoke to her own son. We were very close.”
I was closer to my grandmother, on my father`s side, than I was to my mother. Sometimes that`s how it is in families; “Babi” was a wonderful lady.
” I only discovered after her death that she had had that relationship with all my siblings. :-)”
LOL! She was a wise woman. I always tell my son and daughter, “You’re my favorite son” and “You’re my favorite daughter.” They have now, being in their teens, realized that I will not pick favorites. I was lucky to have one of each. ;)
“I’m so sorry to hear you are having troubles.”
Yes, I guess it’s just a part of married life. Riding the waves of the ocean, as a surfer does, so to speak. :)
“Mrs. 40 and I recently celebrated our 20th. We met late in life so it’s not likely we will see our 47th but who knows.”
I will pray that you do. Even if you don’t make it on this Earth, you will be together. And thank you for your kind reply. All the best,
“The Mrs, and I will be celebrating our 50 in 35 days. We were High School sweethearts, and We Love each other more everyday. Yes Good times and some hard times including a stint in Viet Nam. We credit a lot of Our contentment to Our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. Two Lovely Daughters, and 7 wonderful Grandchildren. We were married ten years before we had Children. Just gets Sweeter everyday, will Pray you realize there is nothing better then you have right at home.”
God bless you—I hope you have a beautiful, wonderful anniversary.
Thank you so much for your post—and for your service in Vietnam. A friend of our family was seriously injured there—and then he got spit on in O’Hare airport as he was coming home, his knee shattered. He is a lawyer, was my father’s protege in a Chicago law firm. I don’t know if he is still practicing.
Vietnam vets were treated horribly, beyond words. It was a terrible time in our country. And I still consider the U.S. my country—going tomorrow to get my new passport, so I can see my Dad! :)
I love your screen name, btw.
I appreciate everyone’s answer to me. At this point, I have to get to sleep. I am on a weird sleep schedule, but still have to function as a mother tomorrow. ;)
I was sorry to hear about your wife.
We all go through hard times. My only suggestions are - recommit your self to the idea of marriage and it being a lifelong commitment and go out of your way to do good things for you marital partner - also prayer can help.
Bless you in your endeavors.
We had a well liked popular freeper about 7 years ago whose longtime wife died of uncle charlie
He followed her less than a year later
God bless lifelong love
Try to get counseling together to work on what is bothering you. It can make a huge difference.
She passed away on July 16. Les died the following day he never knew about his wifes death. They were 94 years old.
Personally, I am glad he never knew. It would have been horrible for him I would imagine. Both dying the same day and time may have been better, but this was pretty perfect.
My parents met when he threw his name and address to her out the back of the army truck he was riding in as they passed thru the small town of Alexandria, TN on 1942. They married in October of 1945. Dad died in 2006, one month shy of their 61st anniversary. Mom followed him 3 months later.
We all knew it wouldn’t last!
Dementia is God’s way of saying “Just shut up and sit with me and love me”, as Jesus loves us when we’re not aware of Him. Why he gives some of us the depth/hardship of experiencing that love, and others a quick heart attack 30 years earlier, is a mystery.
Im having some ... trouble in my 22 year marriage. Sometimes I feel were staying together just for the kids. I would love to believe that love can endure for years like that. The passion may go away, but affection and love can remain. I admire people who can make it work for that long.
Also, read “The 5 Love Languages” It’s a quick read with a powerful message that could be summarized in a magazine article. It can restore the affection and romance lost in stale marriages.
Without getting too personal, Im having some ... trouble in my 22 year marriage.
Without getting too personal, if he does something that irritates you, wait at least 24 hours before you mention the issue. If you can still recall what it was 24 hours later, ask yourself if it is worth causing an argument over. Most of the time you’ll decide to forgive and forget without ever mentioning a word. Be quick to forgive. It’s easier than staying angry at someone you love.
That's a very interesting story. My inlaws also met in a unique way. My father in law had just moved from Baltimore to San Diego and he and his buddies attended a parade that was part of the 1935-1936 California Pacific Exhibition. While watching the parade he saw a beautiful Italian woman riding in one of the cars representing San Diego's Italian community, or Little Italy. He was so smitten with her that he visited the "Casa Italiana" in Balboa Park later in the day and had his picture taken with her. They never saw each other again until seven years later they happen to cross paths once again in Balboa Park. He asked her out and they were married within a year. That marriage lasted 69 years or until my mother in law died in 2001. My father in law passed in 2006 and my wife now has that picture they had taken in 1935.
we’re working at it, we have 55 years done and counting.
Mrs. 40 and I met late in life. We just celebrated our 20th. We're relative newbies at it compared to many.
Without getting too personal, if he does something that irritates you, wait at least 24 hours before you mention the issue. If you can still recall what it was 24 hours later, ask yourself if it is worth causing an argument over. Most of the time youll decide to forgive and forget without ever mentioning a word. Be quick to forgive. Its easier than staying angry at someone you love.
Now that is great advice. You are so right. People fly off the handle in the heat of the moment—but most times, it means nothing. Time heals all wounds—and calms tempers.
Thank you, B4Ranch. :)