Posted on 07/29/2013 10:28:21 PM PDT by South40
Wow. The lengths some kids will go to to prove their parents wrong.
RIP, Lovebirds.
lol!
Really nice-looking couple! May they rest in peace.
“She passed away on July 16. Les died the following day — he never knew about his wife’s death. They were 94 years old.”
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Somehow, this doesn’t surprise me. There are so many examples, for instance, of dogs who pass away not long after their masters do.
There have been experiments where researchers found that dogs can tell when their owners leave work—even at times that aren’t the usual time. The dogs start pacing, etc... They just know, just as this man felt his wife’s passing.
The bonds of affection can sometimes be so strong. May we all be fortunate enough to experience that at some point in our lives.
The loving couple is now reunited in Heaven.
Julie
p.s., kind of unrelated, but perhaps not, doggie ping, Joe 6-pack :)
“Wow. The lengths some kids will go to to prove their parents wrong.”
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LOL, indeed!! :)
An aunt and uncle of mine were married for 47 years and they died 2-months apart. This couple reminded me of them.
“An aunt and uncle of mine were married for 47 years and they died 2-months apart. This couple reminded me of them.”
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47 years... that is amazing. Without getting too personal, I’m having some ... trouble in my 22 year marriage. Sometimes I feel we’re staying together just for the kids. I would love to believe that love can endure for years like that. The passion may go away, but affection and love can remain. I admire people who can make it work for that long.
God bless your Aunt and Uncle.
I am starting to tear up a bit—but I will just add that our modern culture makes it so difficult for people stay in it for the long haul.
My wife and I will have been married 50 years in a few months. There have been some rough, rough periods and I’m pretty sure there will be more but the rough spots can be smoothed out. Give and forgive.
Reminds me of a corny joke told by my high school biology teacher (1963).
One of the gals in the front row was wearing a brown dress, he asked her “Do you know you look like Helen Brown?”
My folks were married for 71 years and my Mom died in 2011. Even though they lived together in the same board-and-care for about a year and a half (which my Dad entered about 6 months earlier than she did) my Dad (age 97) does not know she passed, and I have no intention of telling him. He thinks she’s out shopping or something.
I don’t really have anything profound to say about them/him. It was very difficult to find a facility where they could both live: She had cancer and suffered from horrible and extremely painful leg ulcers from excess fluid production; he had dementia. Many, many places do not like to combine medical with Alzheimer’s/dementia.
It probably would have been better for him to have passed close to when she did, but I am not the arbiter of that event. He has zero interest in continuing to live, but he has a pacemaker so he probably could not die even if he chose to. I’m confident that the place I found for them worked magnificently and was very reasonably priced and that he is comfortable and well cared for. Beyond visiting him often and accepting that he thinks I’m his brother, I don’t see much more I can do for him. The Korean woman who runs the joint is smart as hell, very observant (ex-RN for 20+ years) and is keeping him & the one other client even though she wants to retire and close the place down. I’m very grateful for all aspects of the way it all worked out. I was really, really lucky to have found it.
I'm so sorry to hear you are having troubles. Mrs. 40 and I recently celebrated our 20th. We met late in life so it's not likely we will see our 47th but who knows. Best of wishes to you.
Thank you for sharing the story of your folks. 71 years is a long time.
Thank you, Jukeman. 50 years! Amazing.
But you’re right. There are good times and bad times; your post makes me think of the Neil Young song, “You and Me.”
I suppose it’s impossible to navigate decades of married life without some turbulence from time to time.
Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary; your post means a lot to me. :) Seriously...
“Give and forgive”—that is excellent advice.
Yeah, dementia is tough. Yet...there is nothing I can see or think of that, if it were changed, would make his life, such as it is, any better. And it could easily make it worse.
His doctor says: If he is eating and has a smile on his face now and then, he’s doing fine. He has a ravenous appetite (eating being probably the only thing he has of any “feel” nature) which is good. I will tell you that I have thought he was at a “knee in the curve” in his overall health 47 times and was about to enter a steep decline towards the inevitable. And every time, he just slows down a teeny bit and gets little bit less chatty...but that’s about it.
“My aunt and uncle were both incredible people. I spoke to her more than I spoke to my own mother and she told me she spoke to me more than she spoke to her own son. We were very close.”
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I was closer to my grandmother, on my father`s side, than I was to my mother. Sometimes that`s how it is in families; “Babi” was a wonderful lady.
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” I only discovered after her death that she had had that relationship with all my siblings. :-)”
LOL! She was a wise woman. I always tell my son and daughter, “You’re my favorite son” and “You’re my favorite daughter.” They have now, being in their teens, realized that I will not pick favorites. I was lucky to have one of each. ;)
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“I’m so sorry to hear you are having troubles.”
Yes, I guess it’s just a part of married life. Riding the waves of the ocean, as a surfer does, so to speak. :)
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“Mrs. 40 and I recently celebrated our 20th. We met late in life so it’s not likely we will see our 47th but who knows.”
I will pray that you do. Even if you don’t make it on this Earth, you will be together. And thank you for your kind reply. All the best,
Julie
“The Mrs, and I will be celebrating our 50 in 35 days. We were High School sweethearts, and We Love each other more everyday. Yes Good times and some hard times including a stint in Viet Nam. We credit a lot of Our contentment to Our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. Two Lovely Daughters, and 7 wonderful Grandchildren. We were married ten years before we had Children. Just gets Sweeter everyday, will Pray you realize there is nothing better then you have right at home.”
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God bless you—I hope you have a beautiful, wonderful anniversary.
Thank you so much for your post—and for your service in Vietnam. A friend of our family was seriously injured there—and then he got spit on in O’Hare airport as he was coming home, his knee shattered. He is a lawyer, was my father’s protege in a Chicago law firm. I don’t know if he is still practicing.
Vietnam vets were treated horribly, beyond words. It was a terrible time in our country. And I still consider the U.S. my country—going tomorrow to get my new passport, so I can see my Dad! :)
I love your screen name, btw.
I appreciate everyone’s answer to me. At this point, I have to get to sleep. I am on a weird sleep schedule, but still have to function as a mother tomorrow. ;)
I was sorry to hear about your wife.
We all go through hard times. My only suggestions are - recommit your self to the idea of marriage and it being a lifelong commitment and go out of your way to do good things for you marital partner - also prayer can help.
Bless you in your endeavors.
Mel
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