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Americans use the Internet to abandon children adopted from overseas
Reuters ^ | 9-9-13 | Meghan Towhey

Posted on 09/09/2013 9:23:41 AM PDT by afraidfortherepublic

When a Liberian girl proves too much for her parents, they advertise her online and give her to a couple they’ve never met. Days later, she goes missing.

KIEL, Wisconsin – Todd and Melissa Puchalla struggled for more than two years to raise Quita, the troubled teenager they'd adopted from Liberia. When they decided to give her up, they found new parents to take her in less than two days – by posting an ad on the Internet. Nicole and Calvin Eason, an Illinois couple in their 30s, saw the ad and a picture of the smiling 16-year-old. They were eager to take Quita, even though the ad warned that she had been diagnosed with severe health and behavioral problems. In emails, Nicole Eason assured Melissa Puchalla that she could handle the girl.

"People that are around me think I am awesome with kids," Eason wrote.

A few weeks later, on Oct. 4, 2008, the Puchallas drove six hours from their Wisconsin home to Westville, Illinois. The handoff took place at the Country Aire Mobile Home Park, where the Easons lived in a trailer. No attorneys or child welfare officials came with them. The Puchallas simply signed a notarized statement declaring these virtual strangers to be Quita's guardians. The visit lasted just a few hours. It was the first and the last time the couples would meet. To Melissa Puchalla, the Easons "seemed wonderful." Had she vetted them more closely, she might have discovered what Reuters would learn:

• Child welfare authorities had taken away both of Nicole Eason's biological children years earlier. After a sheriff's deputy helped remove the Easons' second child, a newborn baby boy, the deputy wrote in his report that the "parents have severe psychiatric problems as well with violent tendencies."

(Excerpt) Read more at reuters.com ...


TOPICS: Business/Economy; Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society; US: Wisconsin
KEYWORDS: abuse; adoption; childexchange; childtrafficking

1 posted on 09/09/2013 9:23:41 AM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: afraidfortherepublic; Hunton Peck; Diana in Wisconsin; P from Sheb; Shady; DonkeyBonker; ...

Apalling lack of oversight on fate of children adopted from overseas. This is not just Wisconsin, but is part of our culture across this nation.

FReep Mail me if you want on, or off, this Wisconsin interest ping list.


2 posted on 09/09/2013 9:25:51 AM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: afraidfortherepublic

Headline is a little odd. Are all Americans doing this?


3 posted on 09/09/2013 9:27:25 AM PDT by barmag25
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To: afraidfortherepublic

I once knew of a couple that let an adopted child “go back”, and people looked down on the couple for doing so. The child was incorrigible as I understood it.


4 posted on 09/09/2013 9:28:47 AM PDT by Theodore R. (The grand pooh-bahs have spoken: "It's Jebbie's turn!")
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To: afraidfortherepublic

One reason Putin probably pulled the plug on US adoptions.


5 posted on 09/09/2013 9:29:08 AM PDT by Black Agnes
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To: afraidfortherepublic

And this is why Putin prohibited adoption of Russian children to Americans. Gah. He is a snake but I really kinda like him. Bite my tongue.


6 posted on 09/09/2013 9:31:22 AM PDT by autumnraine (America how long will you be so deaf and dumb to thoe tumbril wheels carrying you to the guillotine?)
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To: autumnraine

Solzhenitsyn saw the Decline of the West coming, and I think Putin has learned much from him.


7 posted on 09/09/2013 9:32:51 AM PDT by dfwgator
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To: afraidfortherepublic

I’ve wondered about these overseas adoptions lately. A lot of them work out wonderfully, I know that. But what about the ones that don’t?


8 posted on 09/09/2013 9:34:17 AM PDT by grania
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To: afraidfortherepublic

also at

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/3064418/posts


9 posted on 09/09/2013 9:36:28 AM PDT by don-o (He will not share His glory and He will NOT be mocked! Blessed be the name of the Lord forever!)
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To: afraidfortherepublic

I know a divorced woman who took in a girl from Russia whose US foster parents here wanted to get rid of, so she was fooled into taking legal custody.

Within 6 months at 15 she was sneaking out at night, skipping school, doing drugs and making it with adult men who were related to Jesse Jackson.

She ran away and at 15 she gave birth to a mixed baby and decided she didnt want to be a mom anymore, no fun.

The woman I knew went to court to absolve her legal custody and so at 16 the girl marries the father (to keep him out of jail I assume) and soon runs away from him too leaving the baby behind.

Complete disaster.


10 posted on 09/09/2013 9:40:32 AM PDT by sickoflibs (To GOP : Any path to US Citizenship IS putting them ahead in line. Stop lying about your position.)
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To: afraidfortherepublic

My intuition is that the best chance of success is with children who are under the age of 3 when adopted.


11 posted on 09/09/2013 9:45:21 AM PDT by Zhang Fei (Let us pray that peace be now restored to the world and that God will preserve it always.)
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To: Zhang Fei

That makes sense.


12 posted on 09/09/2013 9:47:18 AM PDT by trisham (Zen is not easy. It takes effort to attain nothingness. And then what do you have? Bupkis.)
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To: afraidfortherepublic

Apalling lack of oversight on fate of children adopted from overseas.


Well, I have to ask the question, will more government and regulations solve this problem?

Sometimes I can’t tell the difference between liberals and conservatives in solutions to problems.

“there out to be a law.....................”


13 posted on 09/09/2013 9:47:42 AM PDT by PeterPrinciple
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To: afraidfortherepublic

nothing suggest this was done legally so “more laws” wouldn’t do anything

this was an act of stupid people and unfortunately we haven’t yet discovered an effective law against stupidity


14 posted on 09/09/2013 9:49:07 AM PDT by silverleaf (Going to war without the French is like going hunting without an accordion.)
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To: autumnraine; Black Agnes

A stopped clock is right twice a day! (Putin)


15 posted on 09/09/2013 9:51:35 AM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: afraidfortherepublic

There are loads of children in this country that need parents, why people go outside has always confused me. The cultural divide alone is a surmountable obstacle.


16 posted on 09/09/2013 9:51:52 AM PDT by Resolute Conservative
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To: Zhang Fei
not necessarily

an infant adopted from an alcoholic, drug addict, bipolar or a schizophrenic is just as high a risk as adopted child at any age

genetics and prenatal abuse are important and sometimes the damage only shows up with age. A child's ability to master language and regulate their own behavior is a pretty important clue of many things

so the younger they are, the less you know what you're gonna get- like a box of chocolates

inherited traits affect your own bio kids too and sometimes for the worse

17 posted on 09/09/2013 9:55:48 AM PDT by silverleaf (Going to war without the French is like going hunting without an accordion.)
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To: grania
I personally know of a Christian couple who truly walk the walk. Five kids of their own, and they adopted three more from orphanages in Eastern Europe. All with severe developmental problems and physical handicaps. Warehoused and waiting to die from institutional neglect. The couple knew exactly what they were getting in to. At this time, those kids are thriving here in the U.S. in a large and loving family. There are incredible success stories. Little "Julia" spent time with us this summer. See:For Love of Each Other
18 posted on 09/09/2013 9:56:41 AM PDT by PowderMonkey (WILL WORK FOR AMMO)
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To: Resolute Conservative
try adopting “inside” and see if you like the rules regs restrictions and requirements

like having include in your life and your child's life dysfunctional birth families who may lay claims on the kids

“Open adoption” or foster to adopt is simply not the way for everyone

furthermore by the time a US kid is severed from their parents the kid has been through terrible awful neglect abuse and worse- read the bios of foster kids

they suffer more than some international adoptions where some (tho not all) kids are actually raised in institutions or foster homes with more attention and care

please just let people make their own decisions about who to adopt and why

a kid who needs a family is a kid who needs a family- not an import

19 posted on 09/09/2013 10:03:52 AM PDT by silverleaf (Going to war without the French is like going hunting without an accordion.)
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To: Resolute Conservative
There are loads of children in this country that need parents, why people go outside has always confused me. The cultural divide alone is a surmountable obstacle.

People go outside the US because all domestic adoptions are "open" by default. Further, there's no such thing as a binding contract with a woman in America, where children are involved. There's nothing you can do to insulate your adoptive children that a judge can't overturn.

As for cultural obstacles...there are none when you get them young enough.

20 posted on 09/09/2013 10:08:39 AM PDT by papertyger (Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken....)
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To: silverleaf
not necessarily an infant adopted from an alcoholic, drug addict, bipolar or a schizophrenic...etc.

Why do people feel the need to cite self-explanitory exceptions to otherwise sound generalized opinions?

21 posted on 09/09/2013 10:14:04 AM PDT by papertyger (Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken....)
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To: silverleaf
please just let people make their own decisions about who to adopt and why

Best post of the thread!

22 posted on 09/09/2013 10:17:27 AM PDT by papertyger (Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken....)
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To: papertyger

personal experience?

I have 2 internationally adopted 4 yr olds who are doing fine after 11 years and a cousin with an adopted-at-birth American infant who is now in an institution -

I have been through multiple neuropsychological exams and conferences,, pediatric visits etc with my kids by experts who have experience with thousands of adopted kids and tell me what they know from research

and I have been networking for 11 years with parents of adopted kids- all avenues - and their experiences, especially when they look for support because that adopted infant or toddler turns out to be autistic, develop RAD, or have FAE/FAS, which you can screen for in adopting an older 4-6 yr old child

So what use is your “sound generalized opinion”?
Reflective of to your personal multiple adoption experiences?


23 posted on 09/09/2013 10:24:49 AM PDT by silverleaf (Going to war without the French is like going hunting without an accordion.)
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To: afraidfortherepublic

People these days seem to think that adopted children are property, akin to pets. They feel they can transfer “ownership” at will.

This is no different than dropping of pets at the pound ...


24 posted on 09/09/2013 10:30:22 AM PDT by Lmo56 (If ya wanna run with the big dawgs - ya gotta learn to piss in the tall grass ...)
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To: Resolute Conservative
My husband and I adopted a 5-year-old from Russia 16 years ago. Why didn't we adopt in the USA?We tried a private adoption of an infant by connecting with an unwed pregnant grad student: for 6 or 7 months the relationship with her seemed to go well until she decided, literally in her last week of pregnancy, to drop us and choose other adoptive parents via an agency.

All in all, we spent several futile years trying to adopt in the USA.

When a friend of mine, an experienced adoptive mother herself, started her own "on a shoelace" nonprofit to help other adopting from Russia, we saw it as a stroke of Divine Providence.

The system in the USA is thoroughly biased against mature couples with modest means.

And now, our local newspaper just ran the dearest article about two lovely young homosexual guys who have got their nursery all stocked with teddy bears and sweet little onesies emblazoned with "I love both my dads." Waiting for "their" baby from an agency that specializes in "family diversity and nontraditional adoptions." All Families Are Equal. Love=Love.

So I have to add that the US system is increasingly biased against normal married moms & dads.

25 posted on 09/09/2013 10:32:49 AM PDT by Mrs. Don-o ("St Michael the Archangel, defend us in battle. . . against the wickedness and snares of the devil.")
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To: silverleaf

With all the experience you cite, you know the intuition expressed by the other poster is as sound a “rule of thumb” as one is going to get with regard to adoptions: so why do you feel the need to quibble?


26 posted on 09/09/2013 10:56:38 AM PDT by papertyger (Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken....)
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To: afraidfortherepublic

My brother adopted two from Guatamala.
Nearly bankrupted the family with all the problems.


27 posted on 09/09/2013 11:01:11 AM PDT by Zathras
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To: Theodore R.

We almost need the technology to be able (and i hate to say it) “Mind Wipe” some of these severly abused adopted childrent to help clear out all the psychological trauma that remains in them. While this tech would be a god send for the children themselves as long as they were sent to caring loving non-abusive families, as well as for the families adopting them. I know it would definetly be abused by people who enguage inhuman trafficking.

The question is, when the tech becomes availible to do this thing, when and how if ever should it be used?

Wouldn;t it be the death of a child personality for the convienice of the adoptive parents? Or would it be a mercy in that the child could be wiped clean like a computer with malware that has the whole OS re-installed? Meaning it would be a mercy for the child in that it would give them a better “shot” at a sucessful adult life.


28 posted on 09/09/2013 11:18:17 AM PDT by GraceG
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To: papertyger

“please just let people make their own decisions about who to adopt and why”
‘Best post of the thread!,

Agreed! I run an adoption agency so I know that there are no easy answers. I finally wrote a book about how adoption works today for prospective adoptive parents because there is so much bad information out there. But I have to warn them it is brutally honest. I probably am discouraging some people from adopting after they read it.


29 posted on 09/09/2013 11:19:57 AM PDT by Controlling Legal Authority
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To: Lmo56; Travis McGee

” People these days seem to think that adopted children are property, akin to pets. They feel they can transfer “ownership” at will.

This is no different than dropping of pets at the pound ... “

And then we have people who treat their pets as their children in some cases ones who actually have children whjo treat their pets like children and their children like pets....

Pinged Travis for a “Alas New Babylon” ping.


30 posted on 09/09/2013 11:21:38 AM PDT by GraceG
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To: Controlling Legal Authority

I probably am discouraging some people from adopting after they read it.

If you are discouraging those who are adopting for all the wrong reasons then that is a good thing.


31 posted on 09/09/2013 11:22:40 AM PDT by GraceG
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To: GraceG

Some people really should not, or are not yet ready to adopt. And there is no shortage at all of adoptive parents. But the system sometimes discourages people from adopting who really are ready to adopt. So it goes both ways. I just want people to have a realistic idea of how adoption works these days before they get started.


32 posted on 09/09/2013 12:13:32 PM PDT by Controlling Legal Authority
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To: Theodore R.

I have friends (who are wonderful parents) who fostered (or adopted) an older boy early in their marriage when they just had one little girl of their own. I did not know them then, so I’m not sure exactly what happened. As I understand it, the foster child molested (or attempted to molest) their daughter so they sent him back.

Many years later he looked them up to tell them that their home was the best he had throughout his whole childhood and that he was sorry. They felt really bad about the whole thing and were uneasy about his visit, even though everybody was grown up by then.


33 posted on 09/09/2013 12:20:46 PM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
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To: afraidfortherepublic

Now why didn’t *I* think of that when my three were teenagers...all at the same time? ;)

What is today? Abuse a Kid Day? Yeesh! Lots of articles on this subject today. :(


34 posted on 09/09/2013 12:30:20 PM PDT by Diana in Wisconsin (I don't have 'Hobbies.' I'm developing a robust Post-Apocalyptic skill set...)
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To: afraidfortherepublic

Another sick operation.


35 posted on 09/09/2013 1:10:38 PM PDT by freekitty (Give me back my conservative vote; then find me a real conservative to vote for)
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To: afraidfortherepublic

Right, we need more government. Look what it has done for children to date: government school, housing, welfare, and child protective services never harm children.

Go big government conservatives, go!


36 posted on 09/09/2013 6:44:50 PM PDT by 1010RD (First, Do No Harm)
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To: silverleaf

I am totally against open adoption and think these laws are a big mistake in that they don’t let the families make a clean break. They’re very destructive and were driven to appease the mainly female adoptees.

Better a wholly private system run by religious charities via orphanages. Let the parents decide where to place their kids. Get government out of the ‘family’ business.


37 posted on 09/09/2013 6:47:53 PM PDT by 1010RD (First, Do No Harm)
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