Posted on 09/09/2013 9:23:41 AM PDT by afraidfortherepublic
When a Liberian girl proves too much for her parents, they advertise her online and give her to a couple they’ve never met. Days later, she goes missing.
KIEL, Wisconsin – Todd and Melissa Puchalla struggled for more than two years to raise Quita, the troubled teenager they'd adopted from Liberia. When they decided to give her up, they found new parents to take her in less than two days – by posting an ad on the Internet. Nicole and Calvin Eason, an Illinois couple in their 30s, saw the ad and a picture of the smiling 16-year-old. They were eager to take Quita, even though the ad warned that she had been diagnosed with severe health and behavioral problems. In emails, Nicole Eason assured Melissa Puchalla that she could handle the girl.
"People that are around me think I am awesome with kids," Eason wrote.
A few weeks later, on Oct. 4, 2008, the Puchallas drove six hours from their Wisconsin home to Westville, Illinois. The handoff took place at the Country Aire Mobile Home Park, where the Easons lived in a trailer. No attorneys or child welfare officials came with them. The Puchallas simply signed a notarized statement declaring these virtual strangers to be Quita's guardians. The visit lasted just a few hours. It was the first and the last time the couples would meet. To Melissa Puchalla, the Easons "seemed wonderful." Had she vetted them more closely, she might have discovered what Reuters would learn:
• Child welfare authorities had taken away both of Nicole Eason's biological children years earlier. After a sheriff's deputy helped remove the Easons' second child, a newborn baby boy, the deputy wrote in his report that the "parents have severe psychiatric problems as well with violent tendencies."
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Apalling lack of oversight on fate of children adopted from overseas. This is not just Wisconsin, but is part of our culture across this nation.
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Headline is a little odd. Are all Americans doing this?
I once knew of a couple that let an adopted child “go back”, and people looked down on the couple for doing so. The child was incorrigible as I understood it.
One reason Putin probably pulled the plug on US adoptions.
And this is why Putin prohibited adoption of Russian children to Americans. Gah. He is a snake but I really kinda like him. Bite my tongue.
Solzhenitsyn saw the Decline of the West coming, and I think Putin has learned much from him.
I’ve wondered about these overseas adoptions lately. A lot of them work out wonderfully, I know that. But what about the ones that don’t?
I know a divorced woman who took in a girl from Russia whose US foster parents here wanted to get rid of, so she was fooled into taking legal custody.
Within 6 months at 15 she was sneaking out at night, skipping school, doing drugs and making it with adult men who were related to Jesse Jackson.
She ran away and at 15 she gave birth to a mixed baby and decided she didnt want to be a mom anymore, no fun.
The woman I knew went to court to absolve her legal custody and so at 16 the girl marries the father (to keep him out of jail I assume) and soon runs away from him too leaving the baby behind.
Complete disaster.
My intuition is that the best chance of success is with children who are under the age of 3 when adopted.
That makes sense.
Apalling lack of oversight on fate of children adopted from overseas.
Sometimes I can’t tell the difference between liberals and conservatives in solutions to problems.
“there out to be a law.....................”
nothing suggest this was done legally so “more laws” wouldn’t do anything
this was an act of stupid people and unfortunately we haven’t yet discovered an effective law against stupidity
A stopped clock is right twice a day! (Putin)
There are loads of children in this country that need parents, why people go outside has always confused me. The cultural divide alone is a surmountable obstacle.
an infant adopted from an alcoholic, drug addict, bipolar or a schizophrenic is just as high a risk as adopted child at any age
genetics and prenatal abuse are important and sometimes the damage only shows up with age. A child's ability to master language and regulate their own behavior is a pretty important clue of many things
so the younger they are, the less you know what you're gonna get- like a box of chocolates
inherited traits affect your own bio kids too and sometimes for the worse
like having include in your life and your child's life dysfunctional birth families who may lay claims on the kids
“Open adoption” or foster to adopt is simply not the way for everyone
furthermore by the time a US kid is severed from their parents the kid has been through terrible awful neglect abuse and worse- read the bios of foster kids
they suffer more than some international adoptions where some (tho not all) kids are actually raised in institutions or foster homes with more attention and care
please just let people make their own decisions about who to adopt and why
a kid who needs a family is a kid who needs a family- not an import
People go outside the US because all domestic adoptions are "open" by default. Further, there's no such thing as a binding contract with a woman in America, where children are involved. There's nothing you can do to insulate your adoptive children that a judge can't overturn.
As for cultural obstacles...there are none when you get them young enough.
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