Skip to comments.Boyhood Is Not a Mental Illness
Posted on 10/18/2013 4:11:28 AM PDT by Cincinatus' Wife
All the employees of school districts on a witch hunt to expel and otherwise permanently punish young boys for shooting toy guns or forming their fists into the shape of a gun need to read Back to Normal.
The purpose of psychologist Enrico Gnaulatis 2013 book is to argue how ordinary childhood behavior is often misdiagnosed as ADD, ADHD, depression and autism frequently with life-long, disturbing consequences. But along the way he raises the taboo question of whether we label boys as mentally unstable, behaviorally unmanageable, academically underachieving, in need of special-education services, or displaying behavior warranting school suspension just because their behavior deviates noticeably from that of the average girl?
He adds, In a sense, girl behavior has become the standard by which we judge all kids.
He cites numerous studies showing that typical boy behavior wrestling, rough games of tag, good guy/bad guy imaginative play that involves shooting are condemned by preschool and elementary school teachers, the vast majority of whom are women, without the behavior being redirected appropriately to release boys natural aggression............
(Excerpt) Read more at spectator.org ...
The main “problem” with boys is that school is BORING. And evil.
Human beings, male or female, are at the beginning, abrasive and unsettling little creatures, genetically programmed to test boundaries and confront authority.
Some of the compliant little “goodie-goodies” set a totally false standard that almost all the rest of us are unable to live up to, and since that completely artificial bar is impossible for the vast majority to abide with fully, some kind of labeling or punishment is in order.
Liberalism is a mental disorder in and of itself.
Suffer from male pattern behavior? We’ve got a pill for that.
"This book is written for that noisy, fun-loving, mischief-finding, contrary, lovable being known as a Boy....The healthy, normal boy of today is two-lunged and two-fisted and very much alive to the fun there is to be had in his world. If he could he would sleep with his eyes open and his clothes on so he would not miss any fun that might come along...."
--Personal Help Library, v.iii. by Louise Frances Spaller, 1921.
The main problem with boys is that school is BORING.
...also, the entire concept of mandated schooling is designed to rein in boys’ spirit, and to socialize them so as to be acceptable to cohabitate with women in the future...of course, what makes school a prison for boys, the incarceration of their spirit, makes it a haven for the collectivist mentality of females, a celebration of the group...
...that said, a structured upbringing for males is necessary, for otherwise we have what we see in urban settings, youth gone feral and holding the rest of society hostage to their violence...and if the authorities cannot contain them, or more likely, will not, then we go third world into oblivion...
The author appears to be assuming that the school district employees have sufficient reading ability to take in a work of popular psychology. How odd.
Orthodoxy from sissified eunuchs.
Medicalization is a halfway measure to objectifying all. They’re just starting with the more dangerous element, the better able to defend themselves and others. Like gun control and conscription of the males first, then genocide.
Yes. Cripple natural leaders.
What do you expect when you give your children to the government?
The rise of criminalizing boy’s behavior in school is frightening to be sure. Boy’s making guns with their hands and shooting at other boys should not be cause for suspension. However, what is even more harrowing is the over/mis diagnosis of ADHD, bi-polar disorder etc going on among our kids. That does not mean that these conditions do not exist among our youth, but if I were a betting man, I would say at least 85% (if not higher) of these diagnosis is B.S.
Kids in society today are over medicated. I work in a youth group and it is frightening how many of these kids are on medication. It scares me and makes me worry for the future of our country. I was a perfectly normal little boy growing up, but I’m pretty sure that if I grew up in today’s environment, I would have been diagnosed as ADHD and been medicated for it so I would stop playing cowboys and indians etc...
Raising boys is what fathers are for.
Oh. That’s right. We’ve abolished fathers.
Our son is ADHD. I can deal with the hyperactivity, but the attention issues are so very frustrating. We are against medications and have chosen to approach the issue using dietary and therapeutic strategies. We do private school so I know that he won’t be pushed onto an IEP for more money. That stated, our private preschool encourages boys to be boys and girls to be girls. The nuns even allow the boys to wrestle as long as they are not destructive. The girls are encouraged to be “little flowers.” Other preschools encourage girls to wear pants for play, but the nuns encourage dresses and ensure that they sit like ladies. I think that there is a war on boys and girls. Society wants boys to behave like girls, and girls to embrace masculine traits while still behaving like girls.
Can he sit motionless, concentrating on a small LCD display screen for hours at a time?
If my son did all of the experiments now with chemicals and electricity that I did in the 70’s as a kid, they’d put him in jail.
Love it! Thank you for the title and author.
in regards to the feminization of our boys, soy is a big problem, too. You figure that the Eastern cultures so big on aphrodisiacs that rely on tusks and other weird foods would have figured out not to eat soy.
Then again, no one ever knew what I was doing...wishful thinking on my part for my kid?
That boy just needed to be appropriately drugged. We know this now. /s
I homeschooled my ADD son. Heavy lifting and activities before EVERY day began. We heated with wood and he had to cut and chop and carry. EVERY Morning.
No he can’t. He will watch a movie on his iPad while jumping up and down, and frequently running around the room.
We are very big on physical activity. In fact, we have a weight room and our kids are in there with us every day. Outdoor play is a necessity. I’ve even put them in thier bathing suits on warm, rainy days to let them run around in the mud. Luckily all of our neighbors are my parents age so they just laugh when i strip them down and hose them off. For most peopel, when we study we remember best the first and last 5-10 minutes. If the average person studies history for an hour there is anywhere from 40-50 minutes of wasted time. I use this strategy frequently: If we’re doing schoolwork we can’t do one subject for very long. But for an hour I can bounce back and forth from one subject to another. Because he only spends about 10 minutes per subject at one time, he retains every little morsel of knowledge and I don’t have to review with him before coming back to a subject. It’s frustrating and amazing at the same time to see how his brain works.
LOL! I was a lab assistant for a chemistry class my senior year. While experimenting, I mixed a couple of chemicals that created a large cloud of vapor/smoke, prompting the teacher to exclaim, "Balls of fire, man! What are you doing back there???"
He thought it was pretty funny, and encouraged my inquisitiveness.
Today, there's no doubt I would be on the next bus to the alternative school.
When my son was four, the kindergarten pre-screener in my town tried to tell me he had ADHD. He was a very active boy, big for his age, and loved to rough house and play with his friends.
I never told my wife about it (she didn’t attend the screening) but I told the screener, to say it politely, that she was in error and I was taking my son home without any kind of referral to a doctor or anyone else.
The boy is now a committed Christian, an Eagle Scout and a soldier in the United States Army and is one of the most magnificent young men I’ve ever had the pleasure to know. And he was just being a BOY at the time.
You are quite right. A large percentage of these diagnoses are just flat out wrong.
A father is also a great civilizing influence on a boy, but in a much different way than a mother. A talk which my Dad had with me around puberty was passed on to my daughters at about the same time:
"God gave a young man enough blood circulation to supply either his brain or his dick, but never both at the same time. Until you are with the person you are married to and intend to spend the rest of your life with, quickly get yourself out of any situation where the brain is shutting down before it completely shuts off."
My son was ADHD but I only have two kids and I was around enough to keep him busy. No medication.
Incidentally, my father retired from the Navy when I was ten.
Your relaives are nicer than some of mine. My cousin told me I wasn’t spanking my son hard enough.
My Grandpa told my Mom she was not spanking me enough. Needless to say, when my Grandpa was around I was better behaved. My Grandpa was 5’ 2” but he scared the heck out of me.
To this day, I'm still very good at independent projects and still very poor at music skills as a result.
A few years ago, my wife and I were unofficial foster parents for a family of six kids which included one ADHD diagnosed boy who accounted for over 90% of the problems we had with those kids. One particular trying day, I was trying to get the kid to take some responsibility for his actions and he blurted out "I have ADHD and you're going to have to learn to deal with it!"
"No", I said, "it is your problem, not mine and you're going to have to learn to deal with it! The world is a cruel place and if you act like that around people who don't care about you, the consequences are going to be far more severe than when you do it around people who actually care."
The kid was more shocked than he would've been than if I had slapped him hard. Nobody had ever told him that before. From then on, his outbursts became far less frequent.
BTW, as a former ADHD, dyslexic, kid who scored high on the intelligence test they would give me I love Calvin and Hobbes. I can relate to it.
That’s some good parenting. Congratulations!
But maybe the experience of successfully raising three of our owned helped. One would like to think so.
You sound like a great mom!
Queer is the new normal; boyish behavior is now verboten!
was respectful behavior required by the nuns?...yes sirree...
did that make them into zombies?....absolutely not!
perhaps todays' "boys" are different and what I suspect is the extraordinary amount of TV and video games that parents allow...
boys come home and do they go outside to play ball?...climb trees?...beat up on one another?...no....they go home, see daddy's porn collection on the table, and get on the computer to do the same, and then play violent video games for their "exercize"...
stop blaming the schools.....they have enough or the blame in many ways.....its up to the parents to get their boys to be outside doing physical work/play....THAT'S where boys expend their energy, at least it was in the good old days...
High school baseball coach. Paid absolutely squat, although I did get a new glove and a fungo bat. When the kids asked me questions (mostly about my Vietnam service which absolutely fascinated them) I always gave them solid conservative answers.
‘Best job I ever had. God willing I may do it again when we go SC or bust.
Good for you!! Glad to hear your young man turned out so well. That is the left’s fear. We will rear our children and not turn out little automatons to march to their beat. The left’s worst nightmare is an intelligent free thinking citizen capable of making up his own mind.