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Boyhood Is Not a Mental Illness
American Spectator ^ | October 18, 2013 | Marta H. Mossburg

Posted on 10/18/2013 4:11:28 AM PDT by Cincinatus' Wife

All the employees of school districts on a witch hunt to expel and otherwise permanently punish young boys for shooting toy guns or forming their fists into the shape of a gun need to read Back to Normal.

The purpose of psychologist Enrico Gnaulati’s 2013 book is to argue how ordinary childhood behavior is often misdiagnosed as ADD, ADHD, depression and autism — frequently with life-long, disturbing consequences. But along the way he raises the taboo question of whether we “label boys as mentally unstable, behaviorally unmanageable, academically underachieving, in need of special-education services, or displaying behavior warranting school suspension just because their behavior deviates noticeably from that of the average girl?”

He adds, “In a sense, girl behavior has become the standard by which we judge all kids.”

He cites numerous studies showing that typical boy behavior – wrestling, rough games of tag, good guy/bad guy imaginative play that involves “shooting” — are condemned by preschool and elementary school teachers, the vast majority of whom are women, without the behavior being redirected appropriately to release boys’ “natural aggression............

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TOPICS: Crime/Corruption; Culture/Society; Editorial; Philosophy
KEYWORDS: add; adhd; boyhood; boys; childhood; masculine; medicatingkids

1 posted on 10/18/2013 4:11:29 AM PDT by Cincinatus' Wife
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

The main “problem” with boys is that school is BORING. And evil.


2 posted on 10/18/2013 4:17:12 AM PDT by Arthur McGowan (If you're FOR sticking scissors in a female's neck and sucking out her brains, you are PRO-WOMAN!)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

Human beings, male or female, are at the beginning, abrasive and unsettling little creatures, genetically programmed to test boundaries and confront authority.

Some of the compliant little “goodie-goodies” set a totally false standard that almost all the rest of us are unable to live up to, and since that completely artificial bar is impossible for the vast majority to abide with fully, some kind of labeling or punishment is in order.

Liberalism is a mental disorder in and of itself.


3 posted on 10/18/2013 4:25:05 AM PDT by alloysteel (Those who deny natural climate change are forever doomed to stupidity. AGW is a LIE.)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

Suffer from male pattern behavior? We’ve got a pill for that.


4 posted on 10/18/2013 4:25:28 AM PDT by Pan_Yan
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
It wasn't always this way. Here is an excerpt from a Foreword to a book written for boys (by a woman) in 1921:

"This book is written for that noisy, fun-loving, mischief-finding, contrary, lovable being known as a Boy....The healthy, normal boy of today is two-lunged and two-fisted and very much alive to the fun there is to be had in his world. If he could he would sleep with his eyes open and his clothes on so he would not miss any fun that might come along...."

--Personal Help Library, v.iii. by Louise Frances Spaller, 1921.

5 posted on 10/18/2013 4:27:50 AM PDT by hinckley buzzard
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To: Arthur McGowan

The main “problem” with boys is that school is BORING.

...also, the entire concept of mandated schooling is designed to rein in boys’ spirit, and to socialize them so as to be acceptable to cohabitate with women in the future...of course, what makes school a prison for boys, the incarceration of their spirit, makes it a haven for the collectivist mentality of females, a celebration of the group...

...that said, a structured upbringing for males is necessary, for otherwise we have what we see in urban settings, youth gone feral and holding the rest of society hostage to their violence...and if the authorities cannot contain them, or more likely, will not, then we go third world into oblivion...


6 posted on 10/18/2013 4:33:01 AM PDT by IrishBrigade
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
All the employees of school districts ... need to read Back to Normal.

The author appears to be assuming that the school district employees have sufficient reading ability to take in a work of popular psychology. How odd.

7 posted on 10/18/2013 4:34:24 AM PDT by Tax-chick ("The heart of the matter is God's love. It always has been. It always will be."~Abp. Chaput)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

Orthodoxy from sissified eunuchs.


8 posted on 10/18/2013 4:46:53 AM PDT by Red Steel
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

Medicalization is a halfway measure to objectifying all. They’re just starting with the more dangerous element, the better able to defend themselves and others. Like gun control and conscription of the males first, then genocide.


9 posted on 10/18/2013 5:08:03 AM PDT by HomeAtLast (The original Tea Party entailed a willingness to do without some tea.)
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To: HomeAtLast

Yes. Cripple natural leaders.


10 posted on 10/18/2013 5:09:15 AM PDT by Cincinatus' Wife
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

What do you expect when you give your children to the government?


11 posted on 10/18/2013 5:10:56 AM PDT by freedomfiter2 (Brutal acts of commission and yawning acts of omission both strengthen the hand of the devil.)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

The rise of criminalizing boy’s behavior in school is frightening to be sure. Boy’s making guns with their hands and shooting at other boys should not be cause for suspension. However, what is even more harrowing is the over/mis diagnosis of ADHD, bi-polar disorder etc going on among our kids. That does not mean that these conditions do not exist among our youth, but if I were a betting man, I would say at least 85% (if not higher) of these diagnosis is B.S.

Kids in society today are over medicated. I work in a youth group and it is frightening how many of these kids are on medication. It scares me and makes me worry for the future of our country. I was a perfectly normal little boy growing up, but I’m pretty sure that if I grew up in today’s environment, I would have been diagnosed as ADHD and been medicated for it so I would stop playing cowboys and indians etc...


12 posted on 10/18/2013 5:41:56 AM PDT by Old Teufel Hunden
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To: IrishBrigade

Raising boys is what fathers are for.

Oh. That’s right. We’ve abolished fathers.


13 posted on 10/18/2013 5:49:57 AM PDT by Arthur McGowan (If you're FOR sticking scissors in a female's neck and sucking out her brains, you are PRO-WOMAN!)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

Our son is ADHD. I can deal with the hyperactivity, but the attention issues are so very frustrating. We are against medications and have chosen to approach the issue using dietary and therapeutic strategies. We do private school so I know that he won’t be pushed onto an IEP for more money. That stated, our private preschool encourages boys to be boys and girls to be girls. The nuns even allow the boys to wrestle as long as they are not destructive. The girls are encouraged to be “little flowers.” Other preschools encourage girls to wear pants for play, but the nuns encourage dresses and ensure that they sit like ladies. I think that there is a war on boys and girls. Society wants boys to behave like girls, and girls to embrace masculine traits while still behaving like girls.


14 posted on 10/18/2013 5:52:28 AM PDT by goodwithagun (My gun has killed fewer people than Ted Kennedy's car.)
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To: goodwithagun
Our son is ADHD.

Really?

Can he sit motionless, concentrating on a small LCD display screen for hours at a time?

15 posted on 10/18/2013 5:54:19 AM PDT by ROCKLOBSTER (The "government" is nothing but a RAT jobs program)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

If my son did all of the experiments now with chemicals and electricity that I did in the 70’s as a kid, they’d put him in jail.


16 posted on 10/18/2013 6:11:46 AM PDT by mikey_hates_everything
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To: hinckley buzzard

Love it! Thank you for the title and author.

in regards to the feminization of our boys, soy is a big problem, too. You figure that the Eastern cultures so big on aphrodisiacs that rely on tusks and other weird foods would have figured out not to eat soy.


17 posted on 10/18/2013 6:12:03 AM PDT by huldah1776
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To: mikey_hates_everything

Then again, no one ever knew what I was doing...wishful thinking on my part for my kid?


18 posted on 10/18/2013 6:14:26 AM PDT by mikey_hates_everything
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To: hinckley buzzard

That boy just needed to be appropriately drugged. We know this now. /s


19 posted on 10/18/2013 6:28:02 AM PDT by CatherineofAragon ((Support Christian white males----the architects of the jewel known as Western Civilization.))
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To: goodwithagun

I homeschooled my ADD son. Heavy lifting and activities before EVERY day began. We heated with wood and he had to cut and chop and carry. EVERY Morning.


20 posted on 10/18/2013 6:38:57 AM PDT by Chickensoup (we didn't love freedom enough... Solzhenitsyn.)
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To: ROCKLOBSTER

No he can’t. He will watch a movie on his iPad while jumping up and down, and frequently running around the room.


21 posted on 10/18/2013 7:08:58 AM PDT by goodwithagun (My gun has killed fewer people than Ted Kennedy's car.)
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To: Chickensoup

We are very big on physical activity. In fact, we have a weight room and our kids are in there with us every day. Outdoor play is a necessity. I’ve even put them in thier bathing suits on warm, rainy days to let them run around in the mud. Luckily all of our neighbors are my parents age so they just laugh when i strip them down and hose them off. For most peopel, when we study we remember best the first and last 5-10 minutes. If the average person studies history for an hour there is anywhere from 40-50 minutes of wasted time. I use this strategy frequently: If we’re doing schoolwork we can’t do one subject for very long. But for an hour I can bounce back and forth from one subject to another. Because he only spends about 10 minutes per subject at one time, he retains every little morsel of knowledge and I don’t have to review with him before coming back to a subject. It’s frustrating and amazing at the same time to see how his brain works.


22 posted on 10/18/2013 7:17:05 AM PDT by goodwithagun (My gun has killed fewer people than Ted Kennedy's car.)
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To: mikey_hates_everything
If my son did all of the experiments now with chemicals and electricity that I did in the 70’s as a kid, they’d put him in jail.

LOL! I was a lab assistant for a chemistry class my senior year. While experimenting, I mixed a couple of chemicals that created a large cloud of vapor/smoke, prompting the teacher to exclaim, "Balls of fire, man! What are you doing back there???"

He thought it was pretty funny, and encouraged my inquisitiveness.

Today, there's no doubt I would be on the next bus to the alternative school.

23 posted on 10/18/2013 7:17:18 AM PDT by Night Hides Not (The Tea Party was the earthquake, and Chick Fil A the tsunami...100's of aftershocks to come.)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife; alloysteel; Old Teufel Hunden
The Quintessential boy.


24 posted on 10/18/2013 7:20:04 AM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
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To: Old Teufel Hunden

When my son was four, the kindergarten pre-screener in my town tried to tell me he had ADHD. He was a very active boy, big for his age, and loved to rough house and play with his friends.

I never told my wife about it (she didn’t attend the screening) but I told the screener, to say it politely, that she was in error and I was taking my son home without any kind of referral to a doctor or anyone else.

The boy is now a committed Christian, an Eagle Scout and a soldier in the United States Army and is one of the most magnificent young men I’ve ever had the pleasure to know. And he was just being a BOY at the time.

You are quite right. A large percentage of these diagnoses are just flat out wrong.


25 posted on 10/18/2013 7:22:02 AM PDT by Colonel_Flagg (Some people meet their heroes. I raised mine. Go Army.)
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To: IrishBrigade
Good observations, but I would add that the major civilizing influence on a boy is first, a mother, and second a good woman who will become his wife and lifelong companion when he is sufficiently grown up to appreciate the civilizing influence which she brings to his life.

A father is also a great civilizing influence on a boy, but in a much different way than a mother. A talk which my Dad had with me around puberty was passed on to my daughters at about the same time:

"God gave a young man enough blood circulation to supply either his brain or his dick, but never both at the same time. Until you are with the person you are married to and intend to spend the rest of your life with, quickly get yourself out of any situation where the brain is shutting down before it completely shuts off."

26 posted on 10/18/2013 7:34:31 AM PDT by Vigilanteman (Obama: Fake black man. Fake Messiah. Fake American. How many fakes can you fit in one Zer0?)
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To: goodwithagun; ROCKLOBSTER
I was ADHD before it was cool. I was on ritalin in the early 70's. The pills were refereed to as my 'good boy pills'. My Mom had 5 kids under the age of 10 and my Father was career Navy and often gone. I would run away, break things, etc. for no particular reason. My Mom did not like medication but she could not handle me and we did not have any nearby relatives to help out as my Dad was Navy. I could not sit still to watch T.V., unless it was a war Movie. When I watched war movies I would jump around on the furniture while watching the movie. When my Dad was home this drove him nuts. When I was at a family reunion one of my cousin's husbands said he would give me a nickle if I could sit in a chair for five minutes. I never did get any nickles. When I was 10 my Mother asked me if I wanted to take the Pills anymore. I said no and she let me throw them away. My Mom did not like the pills as she said the pills made me into a skinny zombie.

My son was ADHD but I only have two kids and I was around enough to keep him busy. No medication.

Incidentally, my father retired from the Navy when I was ten.

27 posted on 10/18/2013 7:38:56 AM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
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To: BBell

Your relaives are nicer than some of mine. My cousin told me I wasn’t spanking my son hard enough.


28 posted on 10/18/2013 7:43:11 AM PDT by goodwithagun (My gun has killed fewer people than Ted Kennedy's car.)
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To: goodwithagun

My Grandpa told my Mom she was not spanking me enough. Needless to say, when my Grandpa was around I was better behaved. My Grandpa was 5’ 2” but he scared the heck out of me.


29 posted on 10/18/2013 7:47:29 AM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
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To: Colonel_Flagg
Great observation! I shudder to think how many of us would've been diagnosed with ADHD back in the days before Ritalin was invented. I know I would have. I learned how to manipulate the system to avoid going to music class with a teacher I really disliked back in Grades 4-6 in order to get one-on-one time with a guidance counselor working on stuff which was a lot more fun.

To this day, I'm still very good at independent projects and still very poor at music skills as a result.

A few years ago, my wife and I were unofficial foster parents for a family of six kids which included one ADHD diagnosed boy who accounted for over 90% of the problems we had with those kids. One particular trying day, I was trying to get the kid to take some responsibility for his actions and he blurted out "I have ADHD and you're going to have to learn to deal with it!"

"No", I said, "it is your problem, not mine and you're going to have to learn to deal with it! The world is a cruel place and if you act like that around people who don't care about you, the consequences are going to be far more severe than when you do it around people who actually care."

The kid was more shocked than he would've been than if I had slapped him hard. Nobody had ever told him that before. From then on, his outbursts became far less frequent.

30 posted on 10/18/2013 7:47:50 AM PDT by Vigilanteman (Obama: Fake black man. Fake Messiah. Fake American. How many fakes can you fit in one Zer0?)
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To: goodwithagun

BTW, as a former ADHD, dyslexic, kid who scored high on the intelligence test they would give me I love Calvin and Hobbes. I can relate to it.


31 posted on 10/18/2013 7:52:07 AM PDT by BBell (The Blue Dog is Stupid)
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To: Vigilanteman

That’s some good parenting. Congratulations!


32 posted on 10/18/2013 7:54:32 AM PDT by Colonel_Flagg (Some people meet their heroes. I raised mine. Go Army.)
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To: Colonel_Flagg
I'm not so sure. It was something which I just blurted out in a heated argument. Had it been my own kid, I might have just smacked him.

But maybe the experience of successfully raising three of our owned helped. One would like to think so.

33 posted on 10/18/2013 8:09:56 AM PDT by Vigilanteman (Obama: Fake black man. Fake Messiah. Fake American. How many fakes can you fit in one Zer0?)
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To: goodwithagun

You sound like a great mom!


34 posted on 10/18/2013 8:19:23 AM PDT by Chickensoup (we didn't love freedom enough... Solzhenitsyn.)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

Queer is the new normal; boyish behavior is now verboten!


35 posted on 10/18/2013 8:29:34 AM PDT by JimRed (Excise the cancer before it kills us; feed & water the Tree of Liberty! TERM LIMITS NOW & FOREVER!)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
the premise is wrong....I have 4 brothers, we all went to Catholic school, and most of us to Catholic HS as well....

was respectful behavior required by the nuns?...yes sirree...

did that make them into zombies?....absolutely not!

perhaps todays' "boys" are different and what I suspect is the extraordinary amount of TV and video games that parents allow...

boys come home and do they go outside to play ball?...climb trees?...beat up on one another?...no....they go home, see daddy's porn collection on the table, and get on the computer to do the same, and then play violent video games for their "exercize"...

stop blaming the schools.....they have enough or the blame in many ways.....its up to the parents to get their boys to be outside doing physical work/play....THAT'S where boys expend their energy, at least it was in the good old days...

36 posted on 10/18/2013 8:55:24 AM PDT by cherry (.in the time of universal deceit, telling the truth is revolutionary.....)
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To: Cincinatus' Wife

High school baseball coach. Paid absolutely squat, although I did get a new glove and a fungo bat. When the kids asked me questions (mostly about my Vietnam service which absolutely fascinated them) I always gave them solid conservative answers.

‘Best job I ever had. God willing I may do it again when we go SC or bust.


37 posted on 10/18/2013 8:57:58 AM PDT by onedoug
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To: IrishBrigade
School structure can help but the main structure missing is that of the family. Nothing can replace that and some type of religious instruction. In today's world schools are expected to fulfill all of the roles and functions of the rest of society. They are not equipped to do so nor should they be doing that function.
38 posted on 10/18/2013 9:12:00 AM PDT by prof.h.mandingo (Buck v. Bell (1927) An idea whose time has come (for extreme liberalism))
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To: Cincinatus' Wife
The Marxists who run the government schools have been pathologizing boyhood for years.

It's evil.

39 posted on 10/18/2013 9:17:54 AM PDT by Madame Dufarge
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To: Colonel_Flagg

Good for you!! Glad to hear your young man turned out so well. That is the left’s fear. We will rear our children and not turn out little automatons to march to their beat. The left’s worst nightmare is an intelligent free thinking citizen capable of making up his own mind.


40 posted on 10/18/2013 9:18:21 AM PDT by Old Teufel Hunden
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