Skip to comments.Marriage Now More Important to Men Than It Is to Women
Posted on 11/01/2013 12:45:14 PM PDT by nickcarraway
A new survey suggests that marriage is actually more important to men than it is to women. In fact, just since last year, the number of women who say their definition of success is not linked to marriage (or relationships at all) has nearly doubled.
According to the third Professional Women Report (h/t the Atlantic), a survey of over 1,000 male and female professionals released yesterday by LinkedIn and Citi, 9 percent of women say that marriage and relationships do not factor into their consideration of success, compared to 5 percent last year.
It turns out that men are more likely than women to equate marriage with success: a quarter of women polled said that being in a strong, loving relationship would constitute having it all, and the distinction of being married was unnecessary a position that only 14 percent of men agree with. 79 percent of men equate having it all with being in a strong, loving marriage, versus 66 percent of women.
Of course, this could also just be further evidence that men tend to have less nuanced perspectives on "having it all," because they're never really asked about it.
WHo would have thunk it, guys don’t like sluts
If a man wants children marriage is the only way to at least have a shot at having some say in raising him. So this makes sense to me.
That say, along with half of all he owns and half of all he earns can vanish at the bang of a gavel.
I know one who works as a GS (Federal gov) who went to a dating site for the sole purpose to find a willing sperm donor so she could be a Mom.
This DC/Balt area has the highest % of unmarried women in the country.
If something happened to Mrs Clamper ... I would never ever get married again
I go by the study I once found, Single women live longest followed down the reasonable path to single men having the shortest life expectancy.
Just a quick google revealed this (divorced/single mothers are in the single men range):
One of the strongest recurrent findings in this literature on marital status and health has been the presence of gender differences in the relationship between marital status and health outcomes (Umberson, 1992). Being married is associated with greater protection for men compared to women, therefore gender stratified analysis have become commonplace in much of this work (Kaplan & Kronick, 2006; Scafato et al., 2008). Various explanations have been proposed
“...in raising him”
Single mothers are the biggest social liability in this country in terms of poverty, crime, depression, etc. I’m sure there are exceptions to this rule, but if more women married their child’s father...we’d be a lot lot lot better off as a country.
Problem is every generation is marketed or sold on the idea of more and more. Men and women both believe they deserve EVERYTHING out of life and no one learns their own limits and what they truly desire. So they aim for everything and end-up finding out their limits.
To me it’s family and happiness. Career, wealth and materialism are fleeting. It’s impractical not to have some focus on the basics of those things, but to be sold media into a lifestyle is sheepish problem we’re presented with.
No, traditionally if the sex is indeterminate you use the masculine form.
Having said that, it does seem pretty clear that women have bought into the Liberal lie, hook, line, and sinker. They don't need marriage. They don't need men and they don't need children. Abortion is their religious practice and self actualization is their god.
What this survey doesn't measure, and can't measure is the misery, unhappiness, and destroyed lives in the wake of these women. Yeah, they have bought into the lie of Liberalism, but at what cost, to themselves and others?
True. I wonder if this can last forever.
Hell, a lot of women just see marriage as an investment plan nowadays. Find a dupe with a job, put in a few years with him to keep up appearances, pop out a kid or two, and then you have a nice financial nest egg. Then they can go and look for their “true love”, now that they have that out of the way.
New York Magazine always drives my AV software bonkers for some reason.
I think many Hollywood women have pretty well set that example desiring the status of motherhood (think: baby bump) and then having children with absolutely no interest in marriage.
Hell, a lot of women just see marriage as an investment plan nowadays. Find a dupe with a job, put in a few years with him to keep up appearances, pop out a kid or two, and then you have a nice financial nest egg. Then they can go and look for their true love, now that they have that out of the way.
Interesting... My experience through watching others is that she finds the “bad Boy” who excites her and titillates her ego. Pops out a couple of kids and then goes looking for a well-paid man, (Geek), to pay for the kids and her until they are grown.
If he’s lucky he might gets ‘some’ once or month or so.
But everyone is ‘different’ your experiences are probably quite different from what I’ve witnessed.
True, it can work either way. They can get the payday up front, or they can go for the annuity plan.
This is really a area big for that (DC-Baltimore) , no wonder our government(s) here are solid Democrat.
Years back on dating websites I would get wimmin posting “I dont even meet men unless they believe in ‘the woman's Right to Choose (abortion)”, almost all libs,
My theory goes:
1) Lots of government jobs for women, good paying ones, and colleges here prefer women. Diversity rules.
2) Punitive child support laws, (births=21 years of $$$) they take away the mans drivers license then they arrest him for driving to his ordered child support hearings.
The geography of that single mother phenomenon is more related to the “Great Society” making a man in the home a disqualifier for benefit, and having ever more babies to derive benefits more profitable.
Those B-W corridor single mother women are not the success/career driven types targeted in this poll. Your GS is.
I see that was ambiguous. I meant it makes sense to me that marriage is now more important to men than women.
LOL! Annuity plan... I like it, so true.
I wouldn’t know about that. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. I’ve been married 30 years to the love of my life. She’s everything to me and she’s the only woman I’ll ever be with until I die.
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Married women live longer than men because
they want to.
I fervently hope you NEVER know about that.
Not all of them. My wife had been widowed twice before I met her (widowed only once for me). She insists that this time she gets to go first.
“If something happened to Mrs Clamper ... I would never ever get married again”
I wouldn’t either; having started a family, I wouldn’t feel right starting another (I owe our children better than that). If I didn’t have children I might feel differently.
She has a really decent college education and she specifically used it to get a secure nothing GS job because work is just a paycheck to her and pay and benefits are good esp for what she does.
She got paid for being off both this shutdown and the ones in 1996/1995.
She told me only suckers work at real jobs, she has a sense of humor which is why we are friends.
And as I said she planned to have a baby and just went online to find a male donor who was obviously attracted to some sex as most men are(he didnt know what she was up to). Planned single Mom
Guys don’t want to take care of OTHER guys’ babies. Simple as that. They don’t want others having sex with their woman.
And as far as I am aware, most women still don’t want other women having sex with their man.
Same here. Marriage is great to experience, but one ride is enough for this cowboy.
Women live longer than men because men generally do not treat women the way women treat men.
I knew a professional woman who purposely became pregnant as the bio time clock was about to go off. No one I’ve ever met was less suited for motherhood. She took her son to every museum and art gallery but never to a sporting event. Never signed him up for any kind of team or scouts, nor did she ever teach him about cleaning up after himself. The end product was a mess.
By high school she was counting off the exact number of days till he’d graduate and she’d be free of him. Irony of all ironies: she died a week before his h.s. graduation.
That's because "is your definition of success also linked to your being married" is a stupid question. The way our ladies are indoctrinated, this is no way to ask such a question.
I'd settle for a nice simple: "Would you like some day to be married?"
“Years back on dating websites I would get wimmin posting I dont even meet men unless they believe in the woman’s Right to Choose (abortion), almost all libs,”
White liberal women deserve the extinction of their race.
Man’s choice is: Marriage or financial slavery and rarely being able to see your kids.
Woman’s choice is: Marriage or receive child support, possibly alimony, possibly gov’t assistance, and able to see your kids most of the time.
Tell me he joined the Marines after graduation? It would be the perfect coda... :)
“A new survey suggests ......”
Surveys “suggest” many things. LOL
In 3 more days, I will have had the pleasure of being married to my bride for 41 wonderful years. I am one of the wealthiest men in the world.
When we met, I had every intention of being single forever. She wasn’t the least bit interested in me. Poof.... things changed. LOL
She remains beautiful inside and out. God gave me an angel and He gave her a full-time job....me.
We raised 2 wonderful children, a daughter and a son, and we now have 8 amazing grandchildren.
She has been at my deathbed a couple of times and helped to bring me back. She helped me to become a success at many things in life.
If she were to pass before me, I doubt that I would last for more than 30 days. Not because I couldn’t take care of myself, but because living without her simply wouldn’t be worth the bother.
When I look into her eyes, I still see that vibrant 20 year old gal that I fell in love with at first sight.
People can “survey” all they want, it’s either magic... or it’s not.
You think like a man. Women don't get divorced to find their true love. they get divorced "to find themselves." Big difference.
Not a difference I could care much about, as it’s just plain selfishness either way.
That’s because women are evil.
Women lie to get what they want...men.
Men lie to get ewhat they want....inside women.
Run the responses to this study through that filter and the study makes perfect sense.
Ping for your interest Megan Dear.
Through history men want successors. A biological imperative that is simple and straightforward. Do these successors pan out? The answer is no in this day and age. I am averaging out here. Of course there are exceptions
inside!! good post
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