First of all, there is nothing funny about infidelity. According to people who actually study it, it can be as horrible as getting raped or losing a child. One woman who had had both occur says it was worse than both.
It generally has nothing to do with the innocent spouse and everything to do with the cheating one being somehow broken or damaged inside. It takes up to five years to recover from this betrayal and some never really do recover.
I have heard people saying “if she had taken better care of him at home he wouldn’t have strayed”. That is blaming the victim for being attacked and absolving the attacker for his crime. In fact studies have shown that it is the person who contributes the least to the marrriage who is the most likely to cheat.
Most people who have never had it happen to them can be very judgemental about what they would do, but you never know until you are personally in that awful situation.
I find it disheartning that this assault on marriage and family is not taken seriously by our nation. But this seems to be another way the progressives are lowering the morality we as a nation originally agreed upon and damaging us to the point of no return. Intact families are what our nation was formed on and what gives us strength. Without them we have lost a part of our foundation and without a foundation we fall.
A wife that doesn’t put out or makes the man “earn” it will find these kinds of things happening as well. There’s a reason the bible says a wife is not to hold back except for the unclean time of month, unless by consent.
Excellent post! Amen!
I totally agree, I have lived it and my kids and I are still reeling.
I agree with everything you said.