Something I have learned.
Many doctors lie.
I was in an intensive care unit, when the doctor called a bunch of other credentialed people in coats to press me into signing a paper that would kill a relative that night.
“Is there no way she could be put on a ventilator in the home?”
“There’s absolutely no way.” (room full of docs nod their head). A long with exhasperated signs and shaking of head like you’re an unreasonable idiot for asking questions.
I left without signing and did some hasty research.
It quickly turned out they were lying. While some might not have known better, I cannot believe the intensive care doctors didn’t.
One of the people who was pushing me to sign was a pulmonary specialist. I happened to ask the right pointed questions and she agreed it could be done — a quick and safe tracheotomy and she went home in a few days.
We got her home on a ventilator and she lived years longer, smiling, happy, in her own home with her family.
One of the reasons docs gave for not trying harder was she supposedly had pancreatic cancer. On her death, we found out she never had cancer...
I have a lot of other suspicions but there’s no point going over it now
We had the same experiences when my father was in the hospital. Good for you for standing strong! It is a fight at hospitals. Doctors do tend to "gang up" on people to push them into making decisions. And the doctors who are willing to try to help a patient often face challenges from other doctors.