Skip to comments.Donít Look Down On Me, Ms. Feminist. Iím Not Sorry For My Choices, Either.
Posted on 01/26/2014 8:22:14 AM PST by absentee
This morning I followed a link on Facebook that took me to this post. It's written by a "feminist" and the point she wants to make is that being a wife and mother is not a valid choice, or even a difficult one.
Let me first say, Ms. Glass, that I have been both sides of this feminine coin. I have owned my own business. I have managed a company of over 20 employees. I worked my way through college, and I'm now a mother of two and very proud of it. When my kids were very young, I stayed at home with them. Yes, I did laundry, I grocery shopped, I cooked and cleaned! You say men arent "conditioned" to think "stupid things" like that are important. Ask a child who doesn't have those things how important they are. And as my children got older I returned to the work force. But I didn't stop caring for my family. I am a chauffer. A secretary. A chef. A nurse. I'm a therapist, a guide, a teacher, and an example. I'm a cheerleader, a homemaker. A bread winner and a bread maker.And it's not 9-5, clock out, done. It's 24/7/365.
Just because a mom doesn't go to an office or a "womyn's studies" classroom doesn't mean she doesn't work. Being a wife and mother is not just an important thing, it's a critical thing. How do you expect the human race to go on without us?
(Excerpt) Read more at redstate.com ...
Look down on me if you want to Ms. Feminist. I only care what Jesus thinks. Well, Jesus and my mom ...
I especally liked this part: The role of wife and mother has had a reverence to it since the dawn of man. And because of so-called feminists like you, it can be a thankless duty.
I am trying to get back into work now. But when we were expecting our son I prepared to quit my 14-year engineering career. It wasn’t easy to really accept, but I had already decided it must be done. In some ways I was lucky. I already had a good career, and now could be a mom.
I have a kick ass career. And a five year old boy and a six year old girl.
Women who want to play victim today are losers. That playing field is level in the world I grew up in. If a guy gets something that his female peer doesn’t, it’s cause he does it better.
My Mom was saying this back in the 70s. Back then the feminists were saying that women should have the CHOICE to have a career or to be a full-time wife and mother.
Mom knew that they would soon be mocking those who chose “incorrectly”.
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Being a mother is the hardest job on the planet, period.
The charming and delightful Mrs. USC and I were married 10 years before we had children. She was a highly sought after legal secretary who worked for named partner's in major Chicago law firms and for a federal judge.
During the first 7 years of our marriage, she made more than I did. After our first son was born in 1996, she decided to go back to work part time - three days a week. I wanted her to quit, but she wanted to keep working. I was not happy with her choice and it was the source of many arguments but at some point I figured she'd start realizing what she was missing and opted to keep my mouth shut.
After our second son was born in 1998, she again went back to work part time - three days a week. Her mother who lived nearby at the time watched our sons while we worked.
It took about 4 years for her to decide to quit and stay home with the kids. After missing several pre-school events that "all the other moms" were at, she'd had enough. Her inner voice told her to be with the kids and quit. Even though she worked part-time for a federal judge, she made ALOT of money which was tough for us to give up.
But we did it because we both knew it was the right thing to do -- FOR OUR CHILDREN.
Fast forward 14 years later and we have two wonderful, intelligent, well behaved and well mannered teenage sons. Over the years we've received more compliments than I can recall at how intelligent, well mannered and well behaved our two sons are.
Now who gets the credit for that? Some day-care agency and after-school programs or my wife?
Clearly my wife does. She gets all the credit in my eyes. Anyone who looks at our kids who've had the benefit of a stay-home mom, and those kids brought up in daycare and after-school programs sees a HUGE difference in the behavior between our sons and the other kids.
In fact, every couple we know where the Mom stayed home to raise the kids has very well adjusted, mannered and intelligent kids.
In many but not all cases where both parents worked and kept the kids in day-care and after school programs, those kids are quite frankly very rude, not well mannered and have "issues" to say the least.
ANYONE who thinks stay at home mom's aren't doing the toughest job on the planet in raising children properly needs their head examined.
We've been very blessed as the result of our decision. Both in how our Son's are maturing into fine young men, and because we were forced to make difficult financial decisions over the years which turned out very well for us. I'm 51 and am retiring in 2 years when my sons have completed high school and are off to college. Given my shortened life expectancy I want to spend my remaining time showing my wife my appreciation for how well our boys have turned out.
I graduated law school with a two year old. I’ve worked, in the professional world and at home for 46 years. I’m trying to retire gracefully and without a great deal of financial pain for me and Mr. M. It turned out that two of our three children had/have special needs so the childhood of all three was somewhat chaotic. I regret that but I can’t change the past. I would like to be able to have maybe ten years of health to enjoy retirement but it’s in God’s hands now. My brother once told me that given my profession, people will assume that I’m a feminist and a liberal. He knew at the time that I was neither. It has been true that even in a conservative state I have had to swim through liberal ideals. I don’t go to bar luncheons or meetings. It has probably hurt my career but I really don’t care. I’m true to my beliefs and I try to see the face of God in every client. So I’m not sure that women can or should have it all. I tried. I’m pretty tired.
My husband is 51. We have children from 22 to 2.
As the author of this piece observed, at one time in history, bearing and rearing the next generation was considered a worthwhile activity. It’s not that women didn’t have “jobs” - many did, and there wasn’t such a divide between home and “work.” However, it was generally understood that childbearing and childrearing were valuable to society.
This has changed. I think one key factor has been “overpopulation” ideology. It seems as if a critical mass of people believes, “Now that I’m here, the planet is full.” Every person who’s born is viewed first and foremost as a threat, in families as well as the larger society. “The existence of that other person means there’s less for me.”
You know, I’m in a few support groups & the most complaining, whiny, “I’m all alone and nobody cares about me” women are liberal leaning.
They all want someone else to do stuff for them, all their friends have abandoned them, if they have children they don’t come to check on them but they all wonder why! Many are drama queens, control freaks & can’t talk to anyone who doesn’t agree with them.
They’ve gotten, old, sick & bitter. Their trouble making just escalates when they get old. They have used their lives up crusading for things that have left them empty & alone. And very hard to be around. They don’t know what to do when they are alone, or they don’t like being themselves or who they’ve become.
They have no interests or hobbies & they don’t want any. They just want someone else to continually entertain them. Makes me feel sad for them & the bill of goods they were sold.
Congratulations on all you have done with your life to represent God. I imagine God smiling at us when we are exhausted from a day of serving Him well.
I don’t think we’re trying to have it all. I think we do have it all.
I need to figure out how to balance getting ahead with being around for the kids. Since they were born, I’ve worked an average of 60 hours a week.
Last summer I left the job I was at to spend a few months with them in the RV before they started kindergarten.
I realized a lot during that time. I think I am better mother when I am under pressure, and juggling a thousand things. “The more you do, the more you do”, or “If you want something done, give it to the busiest person.”
I bet you were always, and are, a fabulous mother. You’re just too tired to remember right now.
Can you take a few months off to recover, and then decide from there which direction to go?
I heard the term - progreso fascist - the other day and thought it was so appropriate. It isn’t enough that they are free to have their opinions. Everyone else has to think exactly the same way.
My mother started in about how lucky we were now. Our options were not only stay at home mom, nurse or teacher. We had it so much better than she did.
I told here the feminism did give us a lot. We are now free to try to raise children without fathers, much to their deteriment. We are free to work two or three jobs and still live in proverty. We are free to work all day, or night, and then come home and still do all of the housework without any help.
She pointed out that non of those scenarios applied to me. They do not, because I chose the stay married, 38 years. We understand the importance of education and he works his butt off, taking care of his family. Choosing other options means other consequences. I was a math major from UCLA so I had options beyond cleaning Cheerios off the floor. But our priorities were, and still are caring for our family. Most don’t choose the hard work and sacrifices we put into our lifestyles. And those consequences aren’t pretty for the majority of women.
I told her that I thought that men must have started feminism. Now they are free to cat around and leave women to take care of all of the results.
Thanks feminist movement, but don’t do us any more favors.
I bet I could kick her ass with one hand kneading bread. I’m fortunate to have the best of both worlds. I’m off every evening, weekend, and fed holiday, and I am off during the summer, over Christmas, and a few days at Thanksgiving and Easter. My husband works a 24 hour shift and then is off for 48 hours. We have very little childcare issues. A parent is home almost all the time. My husband will be the first to tell you that being a working dad is much easier than being a stay at home dad, and he’s a firefighter!
I am extremely blessed to have been in both worlds. When our first came along, I worked part time. When the second was born 2 years later, I quit altogether working just 1-2 shifts a month on days my husband was off. I cant think of a more rewarding job than staying home with my 3 children
Now that they are grown, I’m back working full time.I have never regretted the time or lost income I invested in our children. I was there for all the important events in their lives and well as the countless little events that shaped their childhood. What a privelege.
The feminists are bitter old biddies who cant admit what they missed out on.....
I’m glad I will have my children to take care of me, as I do for them, when unable to take care of myself. These “womyn” will be rotting in nursing home beds with nobody to check on them to ensure they are properly treated and cared for. But hey, that’s their CHOICE right?
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