Skip to comments.No, "Don't Ban the Bossy" Word
Posted on 03/27/2014 4:56:51 AM PDT by Moseley
"Ban the Bossy", a campaign overseen by former Facebook executive Sheryl Sandberg, is the new feminist push. The implication of the Ban the Bossy campaign is that girls and women are getting criticized because they are female, rather than because they are (some of them) occasionally rude, just like men can easily be.
It all went wrong in the 1970s when feminist leaders picked male jerks as their role models. Feminists did not copy behavior that men admire in other men or behavior that stimulates cooperation and encourages other men to follow leadership. Instead, feminists used the worst of men as models. For decades, feminism has been teaching women to act like the scoundrels whom other men dont like. Women then wonder why reactions are not as desired.
Bossy behavior is bad whether by women or men. But feminists have made a mess of American society and culture. Thats what liberals do. Liberals wreck things.
The new campaign is based on the thesis: When a little boy asserts himself, he's called a leader. Yet when a little girl does the same, she risks being branded bossy. False. Well, you could drive an oil tanker through the loophole qualifier risks. Maybe what is being risked will happen, maybe it wont. Probably not.
Now, asserting oneself -- pleasantly -- is good, whether one is male or female. Many readers will assume I mean Be a doormat. I want a No Doormat doctrine, for men and women. I am usually called bossy (pushy) when telling someone to stop treating me badly. These days it is usually a woman wanting to boss me around.
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Trouble is: Feminists did not study successful men. They didnt bother to carefully identify the behaviors by men that actually lead to success. Instead, obnoxious men stick out like a sore thumb. Female observers of a mans world assumed that the loud and pushy ones were the powerful men. And then two generations of American women were taught to copy those bad examples.
Ronald Reagan had a quote sitting on his desk: There is no limit to what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit. That is real power. Men who are truly influential are not bossy. Assertive, strong, and decisive, yes. Obnoxious, no.
Winning for men means coming in first, but then being able to buy the other team a round of drinks afterwards and cheerfully remain friends with those who came in second. For men growing up (at least it used to be this way) you havent truly won in competition, fair and square, if you cannot go out for lunch and swap jokes with the other team and slap each other on the back.
Feminists who set the tone for their movement did not understand what they were looking at within the mans world of business. Boys and men are socialized (traditionally) to play sports as a team. Yes, everyone tries to do their personal best. Yes, winning is the goal.
But a man trying to win at the expense of his teammates has violated the norms of male culture. A boy or a man who will not work together for the good of the team is an outcast. One who is only in it for himself reaps hostility. (Note, though: A team is not about serving the leaders personal interests, but about pursuing common goals together. The teams leader could be the offending prima donna.)
No, not it’s not Sheryl Sandberg, it’s Sheryl “Bossy” Sandberg.
Sandberg doesn’t see the irony. She’s the reason Zuckerberg married an Asian girl.
I work with men....thank goodness.
I heard a joke among Europeans.. In heaven your house is American and your wife is Japanese. In Hell, your house is Japanese and your wife is American.
when an individual or organization calls for banning a word,all they are doing is encouraging others to go full force on it it.It’s just like that “Don’t Do That” scenario with children.You know a child will do just the opposite.Now we have millions of guys calling women bossy at work.
Baba Boxer:You know I have worked very hard for years to be addressed to as Bossy!
How easily the left decides that a word should be banned. How arrogant that they think they are entitled to tell the rest of us what we can and cannot say. How clueless that they dont recognize the totalitarian and anti-American nature of their actions.
i am surprised the term “Take-Out” hasn’t been banned yet, oh wait,the left needs that term during campaign season.
“Bossy” is just another way of saying “micro-managerial”.
More distraction from real world issues.
I bet these people open paint cans with screwdrivers and pound nails with crescent wrenches.
It’s been a long time since successful men believed in sportsmanship. But then I always worked (in between theater jobs) in the corporate jungle of NYC and Los Angeles where throat-cutting was a daily occurrence. While I could never compete with that kind of behavior and didn’t want to, it did give me the impression that that was how to get ahead.
Dictating what words can/can’t be said, banning a word by fiat just seems so BOSSY!
Every time Hillary’s people have mentioned banning the word “bossy” I’ve thought of a fat cow, not her “bossy” ways. Because I don’t think she’s bossy. My mother is bossy. Hillary is a bitchy, conniving, lamp-throwing, sociopathic monster. Should we ban those words?
Earth to Sheryl, you can’t stop me from doing anything at all.
Someone tell me what do they mean by banning the word. Are they trying to enact legislation to make it illegal, punishable by fines/jail or just attempting to make it taboo to use the word?
Bossy b-i itches DEMAND a ban on being called bossy b-i itches.
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