Posted on 03/27/2014 7:07:41 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
Jill Knapp begs us to “Please Stop Asking Me When I’m Going to Have Children.”
Being that I am still a newly-wed and have just moved to a new city, I am in no rush to have a kid. This is an unacceptable answer to a lot of people. The constant reminders that your clock is ticking and that you don’t want to be confused for your child’s grandparents when they grow up are not making us move any faster. Having children is a big responsibility.
What Jill doesn’t understand is that her fertility is not subject to whim or wishful thinking. Her chances of getting pregnant decline rapidly after 30. By age 40, less than 5 out of every 100 women will be successful at conception. When the Jills of this world decide they want children at 36 or 38 or 42, they enter a long, often fruitless quest for safe pregnancy and childbirth.
Men achieve fertility at 12 years old and can father children all the way to 96. Women have a narrow fertility window of around 16 to 40. That’s a fertility gap of up to fifty years!
Noted feminist Camille Paglia hits the nail on the head in “Put the Sex Back in Sex Ed,” when she argues that women are not properly educated about their limited fertility. Instead, this subject is ignored, leaving girls like Jill with the impression that they should enjoy their twenties like men do, partying and traveling and working at a profession, and when the desire for a baby strikes they’ll be ready.
That’s male thinking. This doesn’t work for women. The lack of education about the fertility gap leaves many women in a desperate race to conceive at the end of their fertility cycle. Young women must be educated about the fertility gap. It’s not fair, it’s not equal, and it’s not subject to wishful thinking. If women want to be mothers, they have to start thinking like women and stop acting like men.
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Demographics via character are destiny.
Most people I know are civilized and teach their children to eat in a civilized manner.
“The USA will be transformed into a euro style socialist/fascist state.”
I call it the Euro-peon-ization of America. The process has been going on for 100+ years already.
Then they must be either mineral or vegetable."
LOL...that response made me chuckle...:-)
If a woman begins to have children during her fertile years, she can usually continue to have children well into her 40's. (As long as she's otherwise healthy.)
If she waits until later to *begin* having children, fertility is dramatically reduced.
Personally, I think that it's a the hormonal contraception that's required to postpone childbirth for decades that screws us up.
I called mine ‘kids’ and ‘kidlets’. “Kids” is common and accepted.
I was always reminding my daughter that "kids aren't people," and that "one day she will be an actual person" if she makes the right choices.
I've been telling her that since she was three. Now she is an extraordinary 15-year-old with excellent personal values, and we have a very, very close relationship. I am proud of her on every level and she is my greatest joy.
But I still never fail remind her that teenagers aren't people either.
And we wonder why our children are behaving increasingly like animals as time goes by. We speak the future into being.
People should have children when they can afford to and when they’re emotionaly prepared for it.
Thats the problem today.We have too many people that can’t afford children and are not emotionaly ready for careing for them thats one of the big reasons why our welfare rolls are so high as well as the high numbers of child abuse and neglect cases.
Oh, please. My daughter calls her baby ‘little chicken’ (because she makes a squawking sound when she’s happy) and it’s an affectionate nickname. I called my son ‘pup’ with the greatest love because he had the openness and energy of a happy puppy when he was a little boy. (I call my husband ‘Bear’ for other reasons and that is his official nickname.)
If you’ve ever seen kids (children) jumping around on a playground, you’ll understand the parallels between them and adorable baby goats. Boundless energy and enthusiasm. (and about the same level of destruction, if you’ve ever had baby goats.)
It’s not demeaning. You sound like a feminist who just had the door held open for her - looking for offense where none is intended.
Words have meaning and power. This is something you don’t understand.
That isn’t actually a measure of fertility at all as it excludes all the murdered children of abortion.
I bought into the Feminist’s claptrap that you can delay childbearing. I had my only child at 36. What a blessing he has been! Five miscarriages later, we gave up. So thankful that we have our one, but would’ve loved having more. I now tell any young lady who asks, DON’T DELAY. Start in your 20’s if you want to have more than one. It is safe advice.
From a fascinating and controversial article:
Which of the career paths listed below makes more sense?:
1. Focus on career right out of school, have recreational sex with pleasant male companions your own age, be on the success track for 10-15 years, then panic when you realize you want children but you don’t want to derail your career, your looks are starting to fade compared to the twentysomethings, there aren’t any men that seem interested in marrying you, and in any event, you’re running out of time,
or
2. After high school or during college, focus on finding a man about 10 years older who has established himself in the last decade and who wants a family. Use your youth, looks, and fertility to find the best possible man for the role of Husband and Father. Have children at a young age, soon after you finish your schooling, while you have lots of energy and your body will recover quickly. Be there for the kids when they need you, and let your husband do the financial lifting. Be good to both the kids and your husband, and be thinking about what your career dreams are while caring for your family. Talk to your husband about these dreams. Tell him you don’t want to just sit around the house at age 40-45. Then go after your dream, once the kids are of majority age. You’ve still got a few good decades left, plenty of time for career success.
http://web.archive.org/web/20070108014754/http://www.john-ross.net/feminism.htm
It’s based on the actual number of children born, not those that were conceived and carried to a certain point and died either by abortion or natural causes. The number would be a bit higher, of course, if women weren’t allowed by law to do such to their children.
And it’s really strange that leftists will scorn white evangelical families with a lot of kids (in a self supporting family),
but you can’t say one word about limiting the benefits to welfare “mothers” when they have one meal ticket after another.
I understand where your number comes from, but it isn’t an accurate measure of fertility.
Why do you say that? What am I missing?
I think this post and this article both touch on separate issues: whether it’s risky to delay having a baby (it is) and whether people have a right to ask others when they plan to have children (they don’t).
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