My wife works with autistic pre-schoolers. It can be very challenging for care-givers as well as families. I've seen the threads here where people seem dismissive of Autism, and that's always a little painful.
Working in an engineering environment, as I do, I am aware of many adults who are certainly "on the spectrum" and I would have described them as (at least somewhat) having Aspergers. Poor social skills, unusual focus, obsession with details that seem unimportant to anyone else, very little flexibility in how things are done. Properly managed, these traits can be pretty useful. And then there is Austism. A tougher situation all around. Not all bad, of course, but far less likely to be channeled into a normal career. People with Autism will always need care.
That's not necessarily the case. Look at Temple Grandin. She definitely needed help at the beginning of her life - but "look at her now"!
No, I’m not familiar with him, but then, I didn’t start really talking until I was about 5 years old. However that was because English was my second language, and ASL (American Sign Language) was my first language (since my parents were deaf). I was taken out of my home to a relative’s home for about one year to immerse myself in English. It was okay after that.
But “ASL” and the deaf culture have altered my thinking processes since that time.
Ditto’s on “Late-Talking Children”. One of our kids barely said a dozen words for the first three years of his life - we were kinda concerned, but were reassured by the fact that by the time he was two, it was clear he understood pretty much everything we said to him (and most of what we said to each other).
I had heard of Sowell’s book, so my wife and I read it - the situation Sowell described for his son very much paralleled what we saw in ours. Sowell’s message was pretty much if your kid seems normal in every other way, don’t panic.
And sure enough, shortly after our son turned three (and just before he started pre-school) he started talking like any other kid that age, and pretty soon you couldn’t shut him up. As he grew up, you couldn’t ask for a better, smarter or more articulate kid.
Maybe he just didn’t see any point in talking until he had something to say (not that we all couldn’t use more of that).
I completely agree with everything else you have said. I rent apartments to many computer engineers and IT people. I recognize Aspergers in many of them. It was so obvious. I recognized it even before my grand son was DX'ed with severe autism.
I believe the show "Big Bang Theory" was based in no small part to people with exactly those traits undiagnosed.
Yes I have a son who is 21. He will never drive a car or obtain employment and will need support for the rest of his life.
We and many other families simply don't know what to do when we are to old to care for them. The idea of shipping him off to some group home fills me with dread.
The state, local and federal programs work about as well as ObamaCare.
I just don't want him to end up living under some overpass.
I just don't know what we are going to do. As of now there are no good options and the prospects are bleak.
They still don't know what causes it or how to effectively treat it. All the medical docs can do is throw different meds at him.